Sooooo Im wondering...Did ya stop and smell the roses???

DisneyMama409

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You bet I .......DID'NT!!!:sad2: Welcome to my trip report of misery...I did not have a magical time (no fault of The World!)

Let me start off with saying if you do not get along with ppl in your everyday life you will NOT get along with them in The World. I had unrealistic expectations.I feel bad for the people staying next door to us. I really do.

It's no secret I am pooh sized . The misery started very early on. My mom and brother arrived for our flight and immediately began to talk about how fat I am.I ignored thier comments but I was really bothered deep down inside. I went to grab chips and a soda and upon my return my brother berated me saying "Your fat___ got snacks but didnt bring anybody else anything this is what im talking about you are always thinking about food" :confused: He said it so loud people turned around and glared at him. It was so uncalled for. My mother sat back and laughed. DYSFUNCTION AT IT'S FINEST .

The flight was uneventful and me and my two kiddos were super excited. We felt the heat IMMEDIATELY. I could not believe the drastic diffrence in temperature:scared1:.My brother started cursing at me whenever I walked slow . I told him repeatedly DO NOT curse in front of ppl's children. He argued me down about it. He argued me down about EVERYTHING.

We walked to the ME desk and boarded our bus to POP . I got everyone checked in. My brother was holding my son's hand when I went to check in. I walked toward them and asked where was he ....he was gone:scared1: My son is 2 and does not speak due to autism so I was really scared and crying. We searched for 10 minutes finally a woman found him outside wandering by the pool. I was so angry at him and he was nonchalant and refused to take ANY blame for losing my son . He blamed ME saying well your kids dont listen. They have autism!!:mad:

We argued for a good hour in the room. I was so upset I did'nt even want to go to a park . Eventually I decided to let it go and try to have a good time. The weather was AWFUL. It was hot,humid and unbearable. We had a 5:00 pm reservation at Ohana's .

We reach MK! Uh oh :scared1:The walk to the monorail was brutal . That hill is just so annoying especially in that weather. We get to Ohana's and I was so disappointed. It felt extremly rushed. They bought everything out at once . Everytime we bit into something they were bringing something else out. The dishes were piled on top of eachother:mad:There was no room on the table and they still kept bringing more stuff out :mad:The wait staff was'nt very friendly. It was rushed and we waited and waited for a soda refill . I finally got the waiter and asked for a refill and he acted annoyed by my request and was slow to bring my refill back out . We left stuffed and annoyed that we paid cash for that meal. I thought the food was too sweet and I will never go back .

We go back to the hotel and I took the kids swimming. It was awesome. It was just the three of us. They were so happy and playing in the water. I was relaxed and laying in the kiddie pool with them surrounded by the beautiful palm trees . I was on :cloud9: . We get back in the room and immediately my brother remarked that i looked like shamu and need to free willy. My mother laughed as usual.

I went straight to bed. Ive gotten so used to thier comments that i just tend to ignore them and accept them.
DAY 2
The next day I was up early for rope drop . Me the kids and my mom went to MK. My brother stayed behind . I thought MK was beautiful. I did not get a guest assistance card because I left thier doctor paperwork at home and thought i could not get a card .We waited and waited and waited for rides. It was brutal. My kids were really anxious and did not do well with the waits . They could not understand why they had to wait so long. My legs KILLED me on Snow white adventures. That thing is small and im realllllly tall! :scared1: I was praying for the ride to end!

It was very hot outside. We walked to most of the lands,saw Phillarmagic ,lots of rides and shows. The crowds were definetly manageable. I fit on ALL of the rides :woohoo: . My feet were REALLY sore. We were at MK from 9:00 am to 9:45 pm..I wanted to see Wishes but my feet hurt so bad I just wanted to get out of there. The walk to the bus was torture. Each step was painful .We got to the resort got our mugs and had dinner at POP. My mom was still at MK she met up with my brother and we went our seperate ways.I went straight to bed.

DAY 3
Animal Kingdom

OHHHHHHHH BOY!!!It felt Africa Hot in AK!!I was pouring sweat like a faucet. :scared1:It was torture.Once again we had no GA pass so we waited for Kali River Rapids for about 90 minutes and just like that it was over...All of that wait for a 3 minute ride.

We walked to EE. It was walk on! We rode it four times in a row! I loved it! I even threw my hands in the air the last time . We came back to the room showered and went to downtown disney. I told them about wolfgang puck and instead of thanking me they decided to berate me for knowing all about the QS places . I was mentally exhausted by that point and just downright depressed.I dont know why they insult me so much.My mother really disappointed me but she always does so that's not a surprise. By this point I was miserable and just wanted to go home so I can permanently cut them off . I went to the world of disney and shopped until I dropped. I got some really great stuff!I also got a make your own crispie treat....O-M-G ....:cloud9: It was wayyyyyy too rich and decadent for me to even finish several days later!I ended up throwing it away but boy was it good!:woohoo: I LOVE downtown disney. I just thought it was beautiful...the stores...the atmosphere ..the music. I was in heaven.

Day 4

Epcot is today! We had a HUGE fight this morning btw . I decided to make the best of it. Epcot is.....I did'nt like it much. I thought Soarin was amazing. I got front row THREE times! However this was everyone's least favorite park. The world showcase was OK. The drinks were watered down. I thought the inside of Mexico was GORGEOUS...I loved it. The restaurant background and lighting was superb. I didnt like the menu though so i doubt ill dine there in the future. We did test track and I was humiliated beyond belief. I struggled with the seat belt my face was red and I was so embarassed. The woman next to me couldnt buckle herself in until I got mine done. My hips were just too wide . My brother was on the line and i looked up and he mouthed "get out the car fatty" . The woman next to me was very sweet and she buckled me in and we rode. I did not enjoy it . I was too embarassed . I was crying by the time I got off test track . My kids were at the hotel with my mom. None of them cared for Epcot and decided to leave very early on . I walked to the bathroom to freshen up and I stood up to watch Illuminations. I saw a good chunk of it but my feet were sore and I had a hard time standing in one spot at that point . One thing I will say is ppl act offended at the sight of me eating ANYTHING. I grabbed some nachos,churro and a diet coke and I was stared at in a nasty way. Excuse me but why does what I eat or look like offend YOU ? I wore my bathing suit to the pool and some ppl were openly rude.If you are skinny /average sized OK but dont look down on me because im heavy .You can SEE all of my problems but geez why dont you pull out the skeletons in your closet before you judge me .I went straight to bed after Illuminations.

Day 5

Today was Hollywood studios . I was done with my mom and brother at this point. I was burned out. I could never do anything to please them. I just took the kids. I decided to try and get a GA pass and i got one! What a world of a diffrence having this card did for us ! We did great movie ride, toy story mania and voyage of a mermaid . We also had an ADR for prime time cafe. I loved the food in prime time cafe but the waiter scared my kids. My dd thought the waiter was yelling at her in a mean way . She just did'nt get the whole thing. We came for the food not the character experience . We all had the fried chicken meal and I had a strawberry sundae . Everything was delicious!!The waiter was good too . He was very nice in general. I really wanted to ride the tower of terror and rock and roll coaster but i had the kids so i could not. At one point I ran into my mom and brother and i kept walking. They walked behind me teasing me and chanting what's wrong room for one more...one of us...one of us ...one of us....They got that from the simpson show. I told them to leave me alone . Everytime I walked they walked right into me and followed me .My mom was so close everytime I took a step she would bump into me . I kept my composure and told them firmly to get away from me. They waved thier fast passes to tower and RNR in my face and laughed . I grabbed my kiddos and we got frozen lemonades and grabbed seats for Fantasmic. I LOVED it ! What an amazing show ...soooooo worth the wait! Mickey was so cute at the end of the boat ride he looked like he was pointing directly at us . That made dd's day!She is still talking about it. We went back to the resort and I started packing. This is the ONLY park where my feet were not screaming by the end of the day . I was so excited to be going home. I wanted to get away from my mom and brother so badly I could taste it. They ruined my trip. The endless barage of insults , the arguing it was just totally ruined. I also wanted to get away from all of the coke products:lmao: Disney PLEASE change it up! I was sooooo sick of coke ,sprite and orange!


Day 6 Departure day!

YAY!!!!! I was up bright and early. I packed up alot of our stuff and than i changed me and the kiddos into our swimsuits for a final dip! The pool water was warm and we enjoyed it. All of a sudden the pool got VERY cold and we hightailed it out of there .We showered , got dressed and me and the kiddos left for a final afternoon at MK :woohoo:WOW that GA card was a godsend. WHAT A DIFFRENCE. The GA card really helped alot. We rode everything except the big rides :yay: We had lunch at Casey's the corndog nuggets were insanely delicious!!!:worship: I love them:worship: Ohhhhhh how I love them:worship: We had a really nice time the final day. It was just me ,my kids and our card. I wonder how my trip would have turned out if it was just me and them and the card from DAY ONE...

It would have been totally diffrent. I would have been relaxed, not insulted to the point of tears everyday and i probaly would have had a good time.

I had a nice time despite all of the problems. However I wont be going back to disney for atleast another year or two. Ds is still too small to do the bigger rides. He should be a decent height by the time he is 5 or so . We had to sit out on alot of major attractions.

DD wants to go back immediately. I feel like I should have a do over however Im burnt out. Im glad to be back home . Ill do Disney again in a couple years or so.
 
I really loved the MK park the most. I can do a trip just visiting that park everyday . My favorite ride at MK strangely enough was the tommorowland people mover....it got us out of the heat and it was quick! I loved it and so did the kiddos . It felt like a ride. God bless those characters. I dont know how they do it performing in those costumes. It was torture for me . I hope they get paid ALOT!
 
I'm sorry you had such a bad trip...Disney is supposed to be a fun place to visit. At least next time you'll know better and can go with people you get along with who treat you with more respect. From the comments in your post it sounds like you have some personal issues and struggles with weight. This is just a recommendation but you should check out the book: The Secret, it talks about weight as well as focusing on the positive things in your life and getting rid of all of the negative things and thoughts.
 
I am appalled at how your family taunted you, ESPECIALLY in front of your children. They pretty much seemed as if they were bullying you the whole time. They must be really unhappy with themselves to treat anyone that way! I hope you decide never to go with them again. I have a rule of thumb that if I feel that someone in my life is TOXIC then I don't deal with them anymore. If they can not treat you with respect then you don't need them. Just my opinion. Sorry this trip had it's ups and downs. Hopefully you and your children will only focus on the good points of the trip.
 

It's awful how your family treats you! I would just stop seeing them if they are going to be like that.

As for the long waits try TourGuide Mike! Not waits if you use his plans.
 
Thanks for the report! I enjoyed reading it. I wish you had a better time - shame on your mom and brother for treating you like that. Maybe next year you can go without them and you and your kiddos will have a blast!

I would stay away from Mom and Brother if I were you. I know its hard, they are your family - but sweetie you don't deserve that. I am pooh sized as well and if my family treated me like that it would break my heart.
 
I can definitely feel a different tone when you write about your experiences with your children without your mother and brother around. Some people are just toxic and should be cut off. Unfortunately, it's very difficult when those toxic people are family.

I can vouch for PP suggestion on "The Secret" or any other books on the power of attraction. It's a very interesting concept. And it has definitely given me a lot of insight in a lot of areas of my life.

As for the kiddos excitement about their trip, check out this thread. It's full of fun Disney family nights that other Disers have done with some great ideas and photos! It's a nice way to relive the magic until the next trip.
 
One thing I will say is ppl act offended at the sight of me eating ANYTHING. I grabbed some nachos,churro and a diet coke and I was stared at in a nasty way. Excuse me but why does what I eat or look like offend YOU ? I wore my bathing suit to the pool and some ppl were openly rude.If you are skinny /average sized OK but dont look down on me because im heavy .You can SEE all of my problems but geez why dont you pull out the skeletons in your closet before you judge me.

If I remember correctly from another of your threads, yes, you're Pooh-sized but I think I'm even a little... shall I say "rounder" ;) .... than you are. I'm sure you may have gotten some looks but I'm also sure that your mother's and brother's insessant psychological abuse towards you made you see what probably wasn't there from strangers. I've been to WDW a few times, I wear shorts, I wear a bathing suit and I don't really remember anyone being so horribly overtly rude about my size.

I'm so sorry that your trip wasn't what you had hoped. :hug: But I'm so glad that you spent some time away from your mom and brother and that you did eventually get a GAC - at least you know what a difference it can make so that your next trip (without mom and DB?) will be amazingly better.
 
I am so sorry that your family treated you that way! I am a Pooh sized woman and my DH is a Pooh sized man and I hate to think that people, especially family, would make fun of you for being who you are!

My oldest DS is autistic and I can tell you (as you found out) that the "Pass" is a God send! I hope that the CMs were helpful to you and your children. FYI - we have been able to use the PASS in previous years to see characters (Buzz and Woody, in particular). CMs can be very helpful!
 
Thank you for posting your trip report. I'm so glad to hear you only had trouble with one ride and were able to experience the others with no problem! :goodvibes

It really sounds like you and your kids enjoyed Disney so much when your family wasn't around! I hope you do get a chance to go back with just your kids one day - no brother or mother!!

We don't know each other... and I hope you don't get offended... Your brother & mom are unlikely to change their attitude. If they were, I think they would have when your kids arrived. Honestly... consider cutting them lose. Get them out of your life for your children's sake. I don't know how old your oldest is, but you don't want them exposed to that type of attitude much longer... your kids will start to think it's normal and acceptable, and they'll start acting that way...
 
Let me start off with saying if you do not get along with ppl in your everyday life you will NOT get along with them in The World.

You've posted several threads since you joined about family issues. Family members make fun of your weight. You mom's house caught fire, and she sent her cats to live with her drug-addled brother. Your mom has berated you about your children's behavior AND about the condition of your son's stroller.

In the stroller thread, I pointed out that it was probably a bad idea to bring your mother, and that she doesn't sound like a nice person.

I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic. I think many of the people who have read your threads knew that this was how things were going to turn out. I don't really understand why you expected things to be any different.
 
Since I haven't been here awhile, I think I may have missed some things-sounds rotten of your family to be making rude comments about your weight - but some people are just like that-if I had relatives that did that to me I sure would have NEVER planned a trip with them-you don't deserve that. You look in the mirror everyday & see yourself-you don't need them to comment on your looks. (After having my kids I have had a hard time losing weight & I hate hearing it from people!!!) I hope the next time you get to go to Disney you go with people you will have a great time with & enjoy every minute with your kids!!! :goodvibes
 
I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic. I think many of the people who have read your threads knew that this was how things were going to turn out. I don't really understand why you expected things to be any different.

Probably because a lot of people still hold out hope that there's enough good in people and things than change. It's a good outlook to have but, unfortunately, it doesn't always happen. Maybe she thought the pixie dust would help? Sounds like there's not enough pixie dust in the world to help mom and brother...
 
Wow, sorry to hear how awful your mom and brother are to you. Sounds like next time, you should go with your kids and no one else. I really hate to hear that your trip had so many low points.
 
I have already decided to permanently cut my mother and brother off. I will never see them again PERIOD much less vacation with them . There was alot of things they said and did to me during this trip that I left out because I feel it would be too much for the boards but yeah you got a general idea how they treated me. I am signing up for curves and going to my PCP Monday morning to get a referral to a psychologist . They had me so amped up that ANY time I rode anything I was afraid it was going to break down or give way. I was miserable . Anytime anyone looked at me I figured it was something negetive. Ill talk about the positives now. I really loved the POP resort! I was in the 50's section lakeside! It was close AND quiet. Perfect! If I was in the 90's section I would've been pissed! I checked in at 10:00 am and the room was already ready.It was an average size hotel room. I dont know why ppl say it's so small etc....It was just fine for me. I was shocked to see that the poly hotel rooms are set up just like pop's and our on the outside. For all of that money i figured it would be indoor corridors.I thought it was ok looking...nothing really jumped out at me that would make me think it is worth all of that money but to each his own:confused3 . I would like to stay at Fort Wilderness one day . I just think it would be a nice change of pace but i realllllly liked POP. I could spend a week just hanging in the resort ! I liked the tv selections and I loved the pool area and the arcade . The food is a wholeeeeeeeeee other story! Good grief the food was bad! That was the WORST chinese food we ever tasted! The pizza was bland tasting. The burgers just looked gross! They were all sitting there already made! They didnt even heat it up! They just take it out and hand it to you...NO THANKS BUDDY. I didnt have a single burger the entire time I was there and i was on the QSDP........Wolfgang Puck Express :cloud9:WOW is all i can say! I had an AMAZING meal there. It was so nice and meaty and saucy! I can totally understand why ppl order a case of water to be delivered there....JEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZ it was hot and i was CONSTANTLY thirsty. I drank like I was in a desert for a month. On our departure day I gave dd our mug she turned around to look at the desserts and i went to check out...I paid ,checked behind me and there's dd ...I said where's the mug?! She said I dunno!!I run back to the dessert case and it's GONE!!!Gone like the wind!!! I was soooooooooooooooo mad!! I had my heart set on a Fanta :sad2: Someone has our mug!
 
Have you re-read your trip report to yourself ? The times when it was just you and your children sound magical (apart from having to wait in line with them without the card). Try and focus on the good times, OK ? I hope that you are able to somehow cut your mom and brother out of your life. They sound like they have some major mental problems, with the way they treat you. They have done terrible things to your self esteem, and I don't know if you even realise how badly they have scarred you ? Please stay away from them - and even if you can't manage a trip with just you and the kids for a couple or more years - plan for one, and dream for one - and imagine how wonderful it will be !! :)
 
Probably because a lot of people still hold out hope that there's enough good in people and things than change. It's a good outlook to have but, unfortunately, it doesn't always happen. Maybe she thought the pixie dust would help? Sounds like there's not enough pixie dust in the world to help mom and brother...

You are right. I was holding out hoping something magical would happen. I had it pictured in my mind we were going to go down be excited, get along etc. and it was the complete opposite . I was hoping this trip could possibly bring us together and we can be somewhat normal on vacation. The next time it will just be me and the kids :)
 
Have you re-read your trip report to yourself ? The times when it was just you and your children sound magical (apart from having to wait in line with them without the card). Try and focus on the good times, OK ? I hope that you are able to somehow cut your mom and brother out of your life. They sound like they have some major mental problems, with the way they treat you. They have done terrible things to your self esteem, and I don't know if you even realise how badly they have scarred you ? Please stay away from them - and even if you can't manage a trip with just you and the kids for a couple or more years - plan for one, and dream for one - and imagine how wonderful it will be !! :)

I have the money to book and go on another trip as soon as September but I decided not to. I want to wait until ds grows a little taller and he grows out of this phase he is in now . He's a jetter. I dont let go of his hand for anything unless were in a closed room and than I stand by the door . It's alot of work but I do it. DD went through this stage so hopefully in another year he grows out of it. I hope :goodvibes Im going to try to lose some weight in the meantime . Im interested in seeing how I fit on the rides if i lose some weight particulary test track . I really struggled with that seat belt!
 
I'm glad your trip ended on a good note, even if your family made it not so magical. From your previous posts I had wondered why you would subject yourself to these people, but I do understand how family is and wanting to give someone the benefit of the doubt. It's not easy to realize family members are toxic and best if not in your life.

As for your weight... have you thought about doing something like Weight Watchers? I joined a few years ago and although I still am in the stage of needing to loose more I am now at a comfortable weight. In January when I went down to Disney I got on the plane, buckled my seat belt and was able to pull it tight. I immediately took out my phone, went on Facebook and posted a status update letting everyone know that for the first time in my life I was able to tighten my seat belt. It was a great feeling. :)

Two of my nieces that I live with are autistic, one is high functioning the other we're not sure about yet since she's only 2 1/2. We've tried Disney with her twice because we love it so much, but both times she had major issues with the crowds. Even with the GAC we still had trouble. My sister decided not to go back with her until she works through some of these issues. She starts preschool this Summer and we're hoping she'll take a turn for the better and not be as anxious or high strung.

Lots of luck to you on your weight loss journey as well as with your family.
 
Here is some advice. Don't give people that much power over you. You know who your brother is...well he sounds like an a hole. You posted that he was already teasing you about your weight before the trip. I am sure he has been a jerk for years. I would not have planned a trip with him and you should not plan one with him in the future.

Your mom seems a bit off and I guess the apple does not fall for from the tree since she was joining in with your brother.

I am sorry your trip did not go as you hoped. It seems that you may have been projecting a bit though. I am pooh sized. I am 5'8" and a size 26. And I go the beach and to pools and eat in public and have never heard a rude comment or felt like people were concerned about my fat butt in a swim suit or what I was eating.

It sounds like your family has constantly criticized every bite you take for so long, that you presume everyone is doing it. Stop worrying about what others think. It will make you a lot happier.

I am glad you are going to get some therapy. I am sure you need it after being raised in that environment.

Misery loves company. But for the love of God, don't invite misery on your vacation!
 












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