Sometimes I'm glad I'm single

[Missytara]

Hi everyone,

I travel alone because I enjoy it. At 47 I've never been married, never fathered children, and act like I'm 11 years old. Set in my ways, I've often wondered why it has been so easy to remain single, but then I realize that it's more fun than to be in a relationship with someone incompatible.

Jim

Boy, I have to agree.

I have a co-worker that is 51, never married and is constantly dating. She comes in and does nothing but complain about the guy for weeks, than gets upset when she gets dumped and it starts all over again.

One day, I looked at her and said, "Seriously, if your girlfriends treated you like this, you would dump us in a heartbeat. But with a guy, you just sit there and take it. What gives?"

 

[Disneyfan63]

Hi Missytara,

Wonder what your co-worker answered. I think in a previous post on this board, Heather75 stated that she thought that Mr. Right doesn't exist. I believe I'm Mr. Left, and my last date was two years ago yesterday.

Jim, who believes that if he waited for someone to go with, he'd never leave home.

 

[Missytara]

Hi Missytara,

Wonder what your co-worker answered.

Honestly, she walked away, because she knew she would be screwed either way - either she would say that it was true and admit she was doing the wrong thing - or she would try to justify being treated badly by men and badly by your girlfriends is two totally different things.

Which brings me to my next point, she hasn't confided in me since - because she didn't want to hear it again. She has since started confiding in a girl in the office who is 25 years younger than her, hoping this girl had not been through the experiences all of us 50-somethings' had been through and would feel sorry for her.

Sadly, this girl also told her she was stupid for letting men treat her so badly.... she made her own bed, now she has to lie in it. She actually said at one point, "Gee, for being 50 years old, you sure are dumb."

Now, she doesn't confide in any of us. Go figure.

 

[DISNEY4TROY]

Well, that was kind of my point - I *don't* want to go alone, and that is why I refuse to settle for a non-Disney-loving man. After being single all this time... and devoting my life to raising my son... the LAST thing I want to do is finally meet someone and then take separate vacations. I am a big believer in two people in a relationship having different interests... but I've also learned that if you don't share the really big things, it's just no fun, to say the least.

I don't want someone to "put up with" my love for Disney, you know? If I say, "Hey, it would be neat to have a Mickey-shaped pond in the back yard" I want someone who'll say, "I'll get the shovel!"

Guess I'm going to be single forever, huh? lol

Yeah same here..ish. I'm single, have a son, luuuuv Disney and pretty sure I sneak in a Disney comment here or there on 1st dates and if I detect a flinch..au revoirr lollz. Kidding...

He's either got to love it, or never have been. In the second case you're taking a 50/50 gamble so he'd better be worth it lol

That, and I refuse to marry unless it's @ WDW but I def don't think thats date-talk IMO

 

[BGK]

I don't want someone to "put up with" my love for Disney, you know? If I say, "Hey, it would be neat to have a Mickey-shaped pond in the back yard" I want someone who'll say, "I'll get the shovel!"

I ask the following with credulity and desire for a serious answer, from anyone who's weighed in on this topic:

Would you show the same kind of attitude toward whatever gave your prospective boyfriend or husband the same enjoyment? So long as it wasn't personally or financially harmful? You don't have to enjoy it to the same degree, but no smirking or condescension?

 

[pickles]

Well, that was kind of my point - I *don't* want to go alone, and that is why I refuse to settle for a non-Disney-loving man. After being single all this time... and devoting my life to raising my son... the LAST thing I want to do is finally meet someone and then take separate vacations. I am a big believer in two people in a relationship having different interests... but I've also learned that if you don't share the really big things, it's just no fun, to say the least.

I don't want someone to "put up with" my love for Disney, you know? If I say, "Hey, it would be neat to have a Mickey-shaped pond in the back yard" I want someone who'll say, "I'll get the shovel!"

Guess I'm going to be single forever, huh? lol

I can tell you having a partner not want to go to disney or who only does it to be kind but doesnt really enjoy themselves can be part of a downfall of a marriage..just ask my almost ex dh

I have gone alone (with the kids) and as I am bobbing around the lazy river and watching other couples, I recall thinking to myself what is the point of having a dh if you gotta go to your favorite place alone?

next time around the guy will like disney or he wont be with me

 

[TexasDisneyBelle]

I can tell you having a partner not want to go to disney or who only does it to be kind but doesnt really enjoy themselves can be part of a downfall of a marriage..just ask my almost ex dh

I have gone alone (with the kids) and as I am bobbing around the lazy river and watching other couples, I recall thinking to myself what is the point of having a dh if you gotta go to your favorite place alone?

next time around the guy will like disney or he wont be with me

I agree with Pickles. My ex never got my obsession. (Always thought this was especially crazy because he grew up an hour from Orlando!) So it kinda stressed me out the couple times I did get him to go with me and I knew he wasn't loving it. Looking forward to my first post-marriage trip.

 

[ludari]

I agree with Pickles. My ex never got my obsession. (Always thought this was especially crazy because he grew up an hour from Orlando!) So it kinda stressed me out the couple times I did get him to go with me and I knew he wasn't loving it. Looking forward to my first post-marriage trip.

How do you define your obsession with Disney? I enjoy Disney, however I don't think I have an obsession but maybe I'm blind to my addiction.

 

[TexasDisneyBelle]

How do you define your obsession with Disney? I enjoy Disney, however I don't think I have an obsession but maybe I'm blind to my addiction.

Well, that's easy to answer...I never get tired of anything Disney and wish I could go visit the parks more often (especially love EPCOT ). To sum it up, I enjoy my obsession, but I don't need a padded room. Actually, under my definition, almost everyone on this board would be "obsessed." LOL.

 

[ludari]

Well, that's easy to answer...I never get tired of anything Disney and wish I could go visit the parks more often (especially love EPCOT ). To sum it up, I enjoy my obsession, but I don't need a padded room. Actually, under my definition, almost everyone on this board would be "obsessed." LOL.

Okay, I guess I'm living in denial.

 

[DISNEY4TROY]

Okay, I guess I'm living in denial.

Lol lol disney is a gateway drug.

 

[ludari]

Lol lol disney is a gateway drug.