Something special at WDW after loss

[ppan77]

My SIL just found out she is having a baby that wont survive after birth. We want to send them to Disney with their DS2 for his first trip when they are able. What can Disney do to make it extra special...who do I call?

 

[plutolovr]

Honestly, if you want something special done you would probably have to arrange and pay for it yourself. You can try sending a gift basket using Gifts of a Lifetime to see what they can do. I know what is happening to them is very tragic, but there are probably many people visiting the "world" after a loss of a loved one, and I'm not sure Disney can do something "special" for every one of them.

 

[fortheluvofpooh]

instead of disney how about a trip to this wonderful place.
http://www.faithslodge.org/index.asp



just wanted to add, I think what you are doing is such a generous offer. You have a great heart. Your family is in my prayers.

 

[Kickapoo Joie Juice]

Yeah, I don't know if I would use disney to commemorate such a terrible tragedy in their life.

Just let them go there and have fun, don't do anything special, leave the real world behind, and I'd avoid anything that "commemorates" what happened to them.

They'll remember it enough in the real world...

 

[*pixie*dust*]

It's wonderful that you want to do something for your sister, however, they may not be ready to go to such a "family" place for a while. WDW is such a special place to celebrate family--it may amplify their loss to go there too soon. I would imagine the heartache of seeing other families celebrating and vactioning with their infants, while they are mourning their loss, may be a heavy burden to bear.

Perhaps in an year or so would be a better time.

 

[jazz0007]

I don't have advice about Disney but I just wanted to let you know about something else.

I am a children/family photographer. There is a wonderful wonderful organization out there called Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. It is a very large group of photographers all over the country that volunteer their time and talent to do bereavement photography for just these very sad situations. Their special services help many families through their time of loss and give them memories they might not otherwise have. You may want to check them out and ask your SIL if this might be something that would help her and her family. Their website is www.nilmdts.com.

My prayers are with them.
Lorri

 

[mom2faith]

I was also going to write about Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep.

Sadly, I had a friend go through this in May, and she did this and is very happy that she did. They do an amazing job and my friend has something special for her son

But, as for a trip to Disney, I have to agree with No. My friend is still not cleared for work as mentally she is not doing very well, and it has been 5 months. She can still not be around babies and families. I think a trip to Disney, although very exciting, would push her over the edge.

My SIL is also going though this, and same thing. She is just not doing well and her baby passed on in July. She has a DS2 and I cannot see them taking a trip anytime soon. It is work for her to just get together with family.

Please just be there for your SIL, but don't push her. It will be a long road for her and her DH.

She is lucky to have someone like you who wants to help, but there are some things they have to do on there own, and you cannot push them (I am not saying you would, I am just saying that anything big right now might be too much for them).

Take care and my thoughts and prayers are with them!! And you, since you will also be losing a niece or nephew.

Good luck!!

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Coming from experience, if it is normal for you to give your sister a special something while on vacation, do exactly as you usually do. If this is just because of the loss of her child, please don't. It is a very difficult and different grieving. It took me months of group therapy to actually even begin to grieve. I learned that keeping a "normal" schedule was what kept me together the most. I resented the flowers and deliveries that I received, even though I do understand that everyone was doing what they thought was right for the situation. I am sure your shoulder to cry on, and just someone who will listen when she is lost is the best gift you will ever be able to give her. God Bless you, your sister and her husband, and all of the children. Diane