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[tlinus]

Good morning all!
I haven't been on as much as normal in the past couple weeks. My DSIL (sis-in-law) was diagnosed with lung cancer in January, and despite radiation and a few chemo treatments, she continued to get worse. It spread all over her body and she finally got so bad a couple weeks ago that she had to go in the hospital on oxygen. She passed away a week ago Sunday. I want to urge any of you who smoke, to please try to quit. I've seen what it can do. My DH quit the day his sister was diagnosed with lung cancer. I don't know if you all have noticed, but I changed my signature line in February. It did say that we were possibly planning a trip to Universal in March for Spring Break, but most likely June. We put that trip on hold until next year because we couldn't go that far away with her in the condition that she was in. We had always wanted to take her with us (she was a really fun person!), but there was always one reason or another that she couldn't go with us. She was only 42. We are coping pretty well with her death because she was suffering and it was a terrible thing to see her in such pain and discomfort. We will miss her terribly, but we know she is in a better place.

t and a

I am so sorry to hear about your loss I have no words.....only know that your family is in my thoughts!

 

[Fan2CSkr]

t-and-a, I'm sorry for your families loss. I will keep all of you in my prayers. It takes such a toll on a family to see a loved one go through this. I am very happy to hear your husband quit. I'm also happy to see you back and posting.

 

[keishashadow]

t-and-a - how sad, quitting is a very tuff thing to do...a true addiction. I quit 8 years ago and still find myself jonesing for one when the going gets rough or i'm out drinking...best wishes.

 

[yankeepenny]

t and a

keep smiling, thinking of you

 

[yankeepenny]

tlinus-
i remember what it was like being a girl in 6th to 8th grade--- it was very difficult.
I totally understand what you and her are going thru.
sorry to hear she missed the trip, but hope things are getting easier.

 

[yankeepenny]

I just wanted to take a moment and thank all of you who post- you make my day!


I read this first every day, and then look at the world news.


KEEP YOUR FINGERS CROSSED.
got a phone call a few minutes ago that they can do the bone scan on my foot wed afternoon. i go in the morning for the iv that will show anything, and the test is in the pm.
THINK I WILL GLOW AFTERWARDS??????

 

[bubba's mom]

WOW! i go to take a shower and come back to about 10 posts!! You people are quick!!!

Alison, i'm so very sorry to hear about your SIL... I lost my Dad to complications after lung cancer surgery....it is not an easy thing to see a loved one suffer like that...but you're right...she's in a better place and not suffering...AND she will be "with" you next trip to the motherland. After what happened to my Dad, i made DH quit (before we got married) and he could thank me everyday. Not only cuz of the toll it takes on your health, but the expense! forget it! I will keep your family in our prayers, along with Tracie's injuries, penny's toe and janet's mom ....Ya know, we truly are "friends in a box"

Tracie, i'm glad you got the principal involved w/ the harrassment and bullying...schools are supposed to have a "no tolerance" policy for that...let's hope they enforce it. I know how she feels, it ain't no fun....but she knows you got her back! (and yes....i'm looking forward to the rest of that TR!)

penny...if you DO happen to glow (and it's LIME colored), please take a picture...THAT would be priceless..... penny's lime green toe floatin' around the DIS boards....

 

[marciemi]

Tracie - I too remember what it was like being a middle school girl, and having moved in 8th grade, it really wasn't fun at all (not sure if I can use the word I want to here so I'll be nice!) Seemed like high school was so much easier - everyone had grown up enough to worry about their own lives, but I remember middle school just being so vicious. Do you know the other girls' parents? Is that part of the problem? (The parents themselves, not the knowing them part!) Hoping the situation improves - schools out in how many days? (18 here - can you tell I'm counting?)

 

[marciemi]

I just wanted to take a moment and thank all of you who post- you make my day!


I read this first every day, and then look at the world news.

World news, what's world news? Seriously, if it's not important enough to be posted on the DIS, it's not newsworthy! I get my daily news fix by reading the community board!

Alison - wow, all I can say is I'm sorry. I can't even imagine what you're going through right now, but want to give your DH a big thumbs-up in support for quitting so he can be there for you! Lots of prayers and pixie dust for you!

 

[damo]

t-and-a, my condolences go out to your family. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[damo]

quick duck in

horrible MD @ my house, youngest DS found my mom slumped over, non-responsive. She lives in MIL apt attached to my house may have had a mini-stroke; she's still in the hospital - getting poked, prodded and crankier by the minute since she's seems just fine now.

Keishashadow, hope everything is okay now. Keep a good eye on her!

 

[damo]

Morning all!!

Keisha - how is Mom today?? Keeping her in my thoughts!

Bubba's Mom - too funny lady!!!

mac - missed seeing you around. were you picking up DS from college??

Spidey 3 wasn't great. The effects were awesome....but the storyline was, eh, weak. Trying to cram too much into such a short timeframe. Oh well, got my BBQ on for Mom's day and that made me happy (not as happy as Enchanted Oak, but happy nonetheless)

Dealing with alot of 6th grade girl nastiness against bean #1 in school . Its been going on since early March. The girls have totally broken her spirit and really gotten to her. She stayed home from her field trip yesterday because of all this mess. I don't remember being like this when I was 12. Eventually something was posted on a myspace about her and I had the proof I needed to go to the principal. She reamed the 2 girls a new one. Not that it will take the hurt away, but at least they were called out on their actions and couldn't lie anymore! I told Kait that even if they apologized, she didn't have to accept it.......because they don't really mean it. I know as Christians we are taught to turn the other cheek, but poor kid used up all of hers - so I am really hurting for her right now.

My back is still a bit painful and stiff - my insurance company's repair shop ordered the parts for the car and that takes 5 business days (they come from Korea for the Kia Sedona) so hopefully they can get it in next week. Its an 8 day repair.

Other than that, I am doing the usual , cleaning and trying to get the last day of my trip report done, although, its slowly sliding down the page over there.......maybe today or definately by tomorrow.

Middle school girls can be such little witches. The great thing about high school is that everyone finds their own group.

I know it sounds bad, but this nonsense will just turn your daughter into a nicer person. In every class there are a group of girls who are nasty and reach their peak in life way too early. Just let your daughter know that it is all downhill for them from here and she is just on her way up. My daughter went through all that nonsense and she is the bubbliest, nicest, most popular person now at 21. She absolutely loved high school after all the crap of middle school. Just persevere. I know it breaks your heart to see her like that but there isn't a lot you can do except tell her that it happens in every grade, in every class in every school around the world. Although it is awful now, she will be the one who comes out of it victorious.

 

[AlexandNessa]

Wow, have I missed a lot!

I did read through most of the posts, and I'm sorry for what tlinus, keishashadow, and t&a are going through.


yankeepenny, good luck with your scan. Hope it turns out well. I had to do lots and lots and lots of scans for my broken foot. I thought I glowed in the dark afterwards!

I just got done with day 1 of my trippie. Perhaps I should learn how to edit. If you're so inclined, be warned you may need many bathroom breaks ...

 

[damo]

Wow, have I missed a lot!

I did read through most of the posts, and I'm sorry for what tlinus, keishashadow, and t&a are going through.


yankeepenny, good luck with your scan. Hope it turns out well. I had to do lots and lots and lots of scans for my broken foot. I thought I glowed in the dark afterwards!

I just got done with day 1 of my trippie. Perhaps I should learn how to edit. If you're so inclined, be warned you may need many bathroom breaks ...

Okay, I'm off to read.

 

[loribell]

keisha - hope all is well with your mom!

Allison - so sorry to hear about you SIL. I know how hard that is to watch. My grandmother died of lung cancer and it was so hard to watch her suffer.

Tracie - sorry to hear about Bean#1's troubles. Unfortunately everyone is right, it happens everywhere. Actually in the town I live in a lot of the parents seem to think it is okay. The kids that do it here are the kids whose parents did it when they were that age and they see nothing wrong with their childrens behavior!

yankeepenny - I hope they find whatever is wrong and get it fixed so you are all better for your trip!

bubba's mom - love the pic! Sorry Mac!

Marci - how's that planning coming along?

I'm off to read Jodies trippie! And hopefully will get to catch the last of Tracie's soon.

Hope I didn't miss anyone!

 

[tlinus]

I know that his thing happens all over. She called me at lunch and there was some sort of confrontation in the bathroom. Nothing physical.....just more emotional intimidation. DId I mention that she goes to Catholic School? And these girls just received their confirmation? Gifts of the Holy Spirit my foot

She just needs to get through the next 18 days and ignore the beasts! The girls are going back to the public school - they started there in the elementary school when we moved here in 2005 and just transferred to Catholic school this year. Bad idea, bad Mommy! Anyway, our public school system is one of the best and the elementary school is AWESOME....it was the Middle School I had heard bad things about (but that is where all of her REAL friends are...the ones that still call and hang out with her). I thought moving her from the Middle School to a nice quiet Catholic School would have been a safe bet - we live and learn I guess. But now I feel guilty

Anyway, enough of my problems ( I seem to be having lots of those lately, huh! ) don't want to bore you all!!!

Thanks for the words of encouragement - I think I will let her read the posts when she gets home. You guys really make her laugh!

 

[loribell]

Oh Tracie, that is terrible. It just makes me so mad that our kids can't feel comfortable in their own schools anymore and that those in charge don't do anything to stop the crap. When Michael was in the 7th grade he had a terrible year mostly because he was taking up for some of the smaller kids that were being bullied. He hated school because of the crap that the kids were saying. It got to the point that I went to withdraw him from school to home school him. The principal found out what was going on & put a stop to it, but it was because our family has had someone in the school system every year since the 30's. If it had been a move in kid they would have done nothing. Anyway, the principal talked Michael in to giving it another chance. The bullying was stopped for the most part.

Stop feeling guilty, you did what you thought was best and you are a very good mommy! You can see it in your kids faces!

Hope the back & neck are getting better. How's bean#2's excema? Has the stuff helped any?

 

[tlinus]

Lori -

Thanks so much - its hard being a parent today, huh?!?!

and double ultra thanks for the lotion - Court is doing MUCH, MUCH better!! pretty amazing stuff there!!!

 

[damo]

I really don't think it has changed from when I went to school in the olden days. I had the same thing happen to me. I still remember their names and their nastiness.

 

[marciemi]

Tracie - don't worry about boring us - that's what we're here for! (well, support, not being boring!) All of us I think have dealt with this at some point - either ourselves or with our kids and have nothing but good wishes for your daughter. Glad to hear those 18 days are all that are left. Don't you just want to strangle kids sometimes? (Sometimes even NOT your own!)

My oldest DS is dating a girl and they've been together 3 months (this weekend - this is a big deal). She seems like a really nice girl and I really like her mom, etc. But she has the habit of changing plans which just devastates my son. It's like "we'll get together for sure Friday and see a movie" and he's all excited. Then Thursday it's "maybe I might want to do something else instead", then on Friday "oh, um, I'm doing homework". On a Friday night? I'm not sure if she doesn't like him as much, is playing him, or just can't make plans (she usually ends up blaming her dad for "making" her stay home), but I'm the one left with the upset, moody 15 year old in tears saying "leave me alone, go away, stay out of my life" - of course it's all MY fault. I feel like banning him from seeing her but of course that would make things worse. But I just want to go tell her off sooo badly. Yes, I know how much that would help the situation, but she's breaking my baby's heart! Anyways, best of luck with your situation, which seems to be a lot worse!

Lori - do you owe me an email or do I owe you one? I thought I was waiting for yours but let me know if I'm supposed to be writing one! Haven't done any more planning because we've been too busy working on our countdown calendar. I'll post it here (and probably on another thread) once I get a chance!