Some people..

[Chicago526]

Well, I've always thought it never hurts to ask. Afterall, the worst you could say was "no", which of course you did. Where they stepped over the line was to keep insisting it was a "great idea" and not taking "no" for an answer.

 

[disykat]

Well, I've always thought it never hurts to ask. Afterall, the worst you could say was "no", which of course you did. Where they stepped over the line was to keep insisting it was a "great idea" and not taking "no" for an answer.

I disagree. There are times it does hurt to ask - especially when you are asking something so outrageous.

 

[OceanAnnie]

C.Ann, be careful. He does sound controlling and MANIPULATIVE! To try to guilt you into saying ok by saying you don't like them and don't want them around --- "Danger Will Robinson!!"

I'd just give him the short answer when it comes up again. "NO."



He was rude to ask.
He was rude to rebut.
He was rude to keep asking.

You may have to tell him that by continuing to ask he is rubbing you the wrong way. You are allowing him to come up with your DD and DSIL. He should be satisfied. But that will stop if he works his way out of your good graces.

That may be good #501.

 

[cabmom]

Just being cautious here: Do you really want to be alone with him? How far are you away from other homes???

Marilynn

 

[MICKEY88]

- No and this is not negotiable.

that's the exact answer I was going to recommend

 

[Disney Doll]

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Tell me about it.. And guess who's coming up tonight - ahead of the rest of the gang? Not sure if it's to plead his case again - or just because he has tomorrow off from work - but I think I need to work on a "bigger" list of "Reasons I'm Not Into Making My Life More Complicated" - LOL..

I think you only need one reason on your list:

"That is not something I choose to do with my property at this time. I have given you the names of realtors in this area who can help you look for some land on your own. I will not be discussing this subject any further."

At a certain point, you have to stop being nice, stop making excuses, and be direct.

 

[C.Ann]

Just being cautious here: Do you really want to be alone with him? How far are you away from other homes???

Marilynn

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Oh I don't have any qualms about that.. He's never been nasty or mean towards me and has never been in any kind of trouble that I'm aware of..

Actually, I'm hoping he's coming up early because he has a list of properties from one or more of the realtors to look at.. He's not familiar with the area and would need my input as to where these places are located..

"Life is like a box of chocolates... You never know what you're going to get.."

 

[LuvN~Travel]

Just tell him that you won't share or give away your kids' inheritance.
Good luck. Who needs friends like that?
Kim

 

[EthansMom]

"Life is like a box of chocolates... You never know what you're going to get.."

It sounds like you got a nut!

 

[Kae]

I know how you feel, we have a place in FL. In the winter it is my parents home. We have people all the time ask us if they could use it. My sister has a friend who assumed she could use it for her honeymoon. Also my cousins had some friends over swimming at my parents last summer & 1 day I went to my mom's And there was my cousins friends without my cousin,they thought they could use the pool. I said no they said Megan said it was ok so they still were going to use the pool. So I told them I was going to call their parents & they finally left. but, now I am a big witch.

Kae

 

[OceanAnnie]

It sounds like you got a nut!

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

I'm getting mad just hearing about this couple. Of all the nerve!

 

[C.Ann]

I'm getting mad just hearing about this couple. Of all the nerve!

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Okay..calm down.. LOL Nothing to get mad about - I just can't believe the nerve of some people.. Maybe I could turn the tables and ask THEM if I could use their brand new car (that he's so anal about) for the summer - with THEM paying for the gas, of course..

 

[Sheree Bobbins]

Okay C. Ann, I'm in a better place!

 

[hiwaygal]

Just wondering if that family is headed up there "early" with a rented trailer so they can get a "cleared" spot before the rest of your guests arrive...

Man, I can't believe the nerve!!!

 

[OceanAnnie]

---------Maybe I could turn the tables and ask THEM if I could use their brand new car (that he's so anal about) for the summer - with THEM paying for the gas, of course..

Love it!

 

[freakylick]

Maybe I could turn the tables and ask THEM if I could use their brand new car (that he's so anal about) for the summer - with THEM paying for the gas, of course..

Hey..Be fair! At least pay for half of the gas. Of course, the oil change is on them

 

[C.Ann]

Of course, the oil change is on them

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Insurance too!!

 

[vettechick99]

Freaks!

 

[ilovepcot]

People with this kind of gall can't be reasoned with so don't even try. I agree with another poster who mentioned the value of your property going down if you were to cut the trees down. DON'T DO IT! Another thing, couldn't there "possibly" be some legal issues to arise with an arrangement such as this person suggests? I think it could get way too tangled and messy over the years using your property merely on your "okay".