Some people..

[C.Ann]

I have an extra lot at my place here at the lake.. DD & her DH have been bringing their travel trailer up here for the season for the past 6 years.. They have some friends (a 30's couple with 1 child) that usually come up most weekends and stay with them.. Nice people, adorable child, but their marriage is rocky and pretty much has been since the beginning.. He's extremely controlling and borders on OCD..

Right now my extra lot is big enough to accomodate my DD's travel trailer, my DD's in-laws motor home (on occasion), and my screen house.. If the rest of the lot were cleared of trees and filled in, it could easily accomodate another travel trailer..

Imagine my discomfort when I received a telephone call from the male half of the couple last night asking if he and his wife could go halves (with me) to have the lot cleared and leveled so they could purchase a travel trailer of their own and park it up here on a permanent basis.. Whoa!! Talk about being presumptuous!!! (DD & DSIL had already given me a heads up - and had already told the couple that there was no way in the world I would agree to it - but they just couldn't grasp "why"..)

I can't believe that they actually thought I would agree to this.. Not only would I be putting up half the money for their benefit, but they would be tying in to MY electric (and paying me "something" towards it each month); they would be emptying their waste into MY septic system (via a grinder & pump); and they would be using MY telephone (because it wouldn't make sense for them to have their own "just" for weekends)..

He indicated that my DD & DSIL had already told him I would not agree to it, but he thought maybe if he talked to me "personally......." I gave him 101 reasons why it would not be a good idea, but he seemed to think he had a "solution" to each and every one of them.. By the time the conversation was over I was getting vibes that he thought I just "didn't like them" and "didn't want them around", but nothing could be further from the truth.. They're more than welcome to come up and stay with my DD & DSIL whenever they want - I'm just not going to turn my lot into a free campground for them!!!

I just don't get what makes some people tick.. I would never, ever do that to someone - put them on the spot like that.. Is this one of those "entitlement" mentalities that people are always talking about?

I'm trying to make my life LESS complicated, not MORE....... :ears

 

[magicfan]

I hope you said no. You'll regret if if you let them and you don't need the extra stress and hassle. Goodluck.

 

[C.Ann]

I hope you said no..

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Only about 500 different ways - LOL.. I also provided them with the names of several realtors - so they could look for a piece of land they could purchase ON THEIR OWN...

I'm still just shaking my head in amazement that they would even ask..

 

[vacanut]

This really doesn't surprise me. We purchased my parents home about 2 years ago, we have a nice size lot. You wouldn't believe what people would like to store here. We've been asked by 2 people to store their campers here during the winter. I've seen so much within the past 2 years it really doesn't surprise me.

What an ackward position to be in.

 

[nativetxn]

I don't blame you for saying "no". I can't imagine someone being so presumptious and rude. Not just asking you to do this but then arguing with you each time you gave a reason for saying "no". That must have been an exhausting telephone conversation.

Katholyn

 

[C.Ann]

What an ackward position to be in.

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Tell me about it.. And guess who's coming up tonight - ahead of the rest of the gang? Not sure if it's to plead his case again - or just because he has tomorrow off from work - but I think I need to work on a "bigger" list of "Reasons I'm Not Into Making My Life More Complicated" - LOL..

 

[ericamanda01]

That guy has a lot of nerve. Even after your DD told him what you would say no. Talk about being too pushy!

 

[4nana]

Sounds as tho he has some real control issues and not only with his wife! It's your property and you really don't need a reason for your lot to be invaded - IMO it was nervy for him to even suggest!? Talk about taking advantage of your hospitality. What part of No does he not understand ?? Hope it all works out.

 

[Pooh67_68]

Well if you won't let them, how about me and my dh?





















j/k

 

[freakylick]

Wow...That is very rude and presumptuous. And based on their rudeness, I would not hesitate to say "No..That is my answer and I do not need to give you a reason." They may be put off by the bluntness, but some people need to be spoken to bluntly.

 

[HappyMommy2]

My jaw dropped when I read that! I would be MORTIFIED if my DH ever asked someone for something like that!

I'm so glad you are holding firm on this. Too many people let themselves be taken advantage of in this type of situation and end up with hassle and heartache because they were too timid to say "No".

 

[NCombs]

Wow, that's some nerve!! How generous of him to only want you to pay 1/2 of the clearing costs .

Be prepared to be presssured some more when he gets you face to face. Stay strong.

 

[C.Ann]

Wow, that's some nerve!! How generous of him to only want you to pay 1/2 of the clearing costs ..

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Isn't that a hoot? And then to want to hook into my septic system; hook into my electric; and use my phone!! If I didn't know better, I'd think he was on crack.. Or maybe he thinks I'M on crack and will agree to absolutely anything...

 

[DWhittles]

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Only about 500 different ways - LOL.. I also provided them with the names of several realtors - so they could look for a piece of land they could purchase ON THEIR OWN...

I'm still just shaking my head in amazement that they would even ask..

I'm shocked you had to say no 500 different ways. That once didn't get through to this guy. You'd said hew as on the controlling side though so I'm not surprised he attempted to get his way by coming at you from different angles.
Bizzare...

 

[miss missy]

NO NO and NO!!! Plain and simple! Not your concern. This is something that is in your control, to say no... who cares what they think, we can't be responsible of other peoples thoughts. Glad you are not a pushover !!

 

[Disneymomma]

I think they may be bordering on wearing out the warm welcome you have given them! Some people are just unbelieveable!

 

[diznygirl]

Learn this phrase, "Because I said no." Repeat as often as necessary!

What a piece of work!

 

[disykat]

How on earth could he have thought that would be a good deal for you? Regardless of his nerve of wanting you to pay for the priviledge of having him visit - doesn't he realize the value of having trees on vacation property? It's not the Walmart parking lot!

 

[VickiVM]

That must be some piece of property!

I think the old mommy phrase 'because I said so' applies here. Or my new and improved one that I use now with my children when I want to be explicit - No and this is not negotiable.

 

[RadioFanatic]

Hey C.Ann - can I come over! I'll just use a little electricity, promise! I'm sorry, that just cracks me up - hey lady, can you spend your money so I can get enjoyment from your property - I wish I had that kind of guts!