Sold my parents house

[Robinrs]

And this is the first time I'm on the SELLER'S side instead of the buyer's...

We had it on the market since my Dad passed in March and we got a CASH offer last week, one week after my Aunt moved out. This is great news because we just really needed to let it and the memories go.

Any advice for the closing? My Aunt, God bless her, is a sweetheart but she is clueless. She wants ME to come with her to closing. Is there any advice you guys can give me? I know the basics and have contacted our lawyer but if anyone else has sold their parents' home can you let me know your experiences?

I can't believe there will be no more Thanksgivings or Christmases there. The end of an era.

Thanks in advance.

Robinrs

 

[ead79]

Lots of {{{HUGS}}} for you, Robin.

 

[Serena]

I'm not qualified to give any advice at all. just prayers and {{{hugs}}}.

 

[browneyes]

Robin, maybe you and your family can have an early Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner there before you do the closing? {{hugs}}

 

[binny]

(((hugs)))

Thats all Im qualified to offer too

 

[Towncrier]

More {{{hugs}}} for you Robin.

 

[FTWFAN]

to help you through this emotional time. We are in the process of selling my parents home(they passed away in 2000 and 2001). Couldn't bear to do it until now, but we are selling to a friend and he says we are welcome any time. That is making things better even though I know it will never be the same. I will be keeping you, and your aunt, in my thoughts and prayers!

 

[4greatboys]

Prayer for you robin I know its a tough time.
Prayers for you too FTWFAN, I know how hard that is. My mom passed away Dec 1999 and I still have her house and everything in it. I couldnt go through her stuff or get rid of her house. Hopefully Im getting closer to taking care of it but its been very, very hard.

 

[WillyJ]

{{{Hugs}}} my friend. . . while I'm sure it'll be a relief in a way to have that behind you, I'm sure it's going to be rough emotionally for you too. . .

I've sold/ closed on a couple houses, and since the buyer is paying cash they're the ones taking the risk. . . so at the actual closing I can't think of anything you'd have to do except make sure the paperwork is in order and the check clears.

Good luck with it sweetie- I know it's been on hell of a rough time for you, and I hope this part goes smooth. {{{Hugs}}} again. . .

 

[CathyCanada]

No advice for you, Robin, just wanted to send hugs and prayers that all goes smoothly. Emotionally, this is going to be very difficult for you and for Michael.
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[Robinrs]

Thanks, everyone....

Sometimes it helps to know you're not the only one going through something.

My dear sweet Aunt did all of the things we daughters couldn't handle. She quit her job in NY and came down here to be the executor of the will and I cannot tell you how much she's saved us. Now her daughter is buying her a condo so she can have a place to stay. No one deserves it more.

I really never want to see the place again. I found the house, did the paperwork for it and moved my parents into it without them EVER seeing it. They had both retired in NY and I was determined to get them to Chattanooga so she could be next door to my sister.

They lived in that house for the last 15 years of their lives and were very happy there. They both died there, in a hospital bed in the living room, in the same exact spot six months apart.

With all the happy memories, that memory is one I cannot erase.

Thank you all. Posting this was a start of a healing for me.

 

[AirForceRocks]

I don't have much advice to offer, other than to say that when I went through this with my grandparents (they raised me), the closing was much harder than I thought it would be. I was very lucky in that 1) my cousin bought the house, so I can still go and visit and 2) they both had died in the hospital (heart attack and Alzeimer's), so I didn't have that bad memory of the house itself.

But it is very hard to let go in that way, because at least in my case, I felt like I was giving up a big, tangible piece of the people I loved.

 

[Gail T AGAIN]

Robin hard letting go of memories but life does go on and you'll create new memories in yrs to come. Congratulations on selling the house, I don't have any advice but I hope all goes well.

 

[snoopy]

{{{Robin}}}

We went through this as well, selling my parents house - the house we all grew up in, the only house some of us ever lived in. A difficult thing, indeed. Its been 7 years since my mother passed away, and I can now say that when I drive by the house I get a warm feeling about it, but that wasn't always the case. The good memories will shine through for you eventually, my friend, I promise you that.

As far as the closing, as Willy said, I think as the seller your responsibility is really to make sure you read what you sign and pay attention to the details.

Good luck, Robin!

 

[Disney Doll]

In 2001, we lost my DFIL in March and my DMIL in December. My DMIL died in the house, because that's where she wanted to be when she was diagnosed with terminal cancer.

After they were both gone, my DSIL and her husband decided they wanted the house, as it was bigger than the house they lived in at the time, and also in a nicer spot in town...a quiet side street as opposed to the busy main street they had been living on. It made me glad to know that the house would stay in the family, as there were so many good memories there. Even the memories of my DMIL's 3 months of illness are good in many ways, because we were all able to share the time with her, and we were content in knowing that her final wish was to die in her own home and we were granting her that wish. She had been in that home for about 35 years or so, and she wanted to be surrounded by her things, her family, the place where she had raised her childrn, held her celebrations, mourned her losses...the place that held so many dear memories for her.

When I go into the house now, I usually glance at the area in the livingroom where my DMIL's bed was, but I get a peaceful, warm feeling knowing that she's happy with my DFIL, and we eased her transition from this life into the next.