So what's the etiquette here?

[tlbwriter]

You know, it *would* be interesting to simply ignore those comments and pretend she didn't make them at all. Just start talking about something completely different.

 

[ccgirl]

Slightly , but I love the fact that you started your post about a born-again Christian and Catholic school with a Yiddish phrase!

Back on topic, I agree that the only response is, "I appreciate your concern. The topic is closed." Repeat as necessary.

HA!! Didn't think of it that way. I am tolerant of everyone.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

She needs a come to Jesus meeting.

Amen! Preach it Sister!

 

[tonilea]

You know, it *would* be interesting to simply ignore those comments and pretend she didn't make them at all. Just start talking about something completely different.

THAT is funny!

 

[disykat]

I'd be tempted to say something along the lines of "I'm not sure if it's just that you have very little confidence in the way you raised DH or if you are just trying to belittle his choices, but I'd suggest you wait to discuss it with him when he gets home."

 

[GeorgeG]

You've tried the nice way so now be more assertive. When all else fails, just be sure to hide the body really well.

 

[scrapquitler]

She keeps telling me (unsolicited and out of the blue) that they will suffer both morally and educationally.

Assuming that YOU did not go to Catholic school, and that you turned out okay morally and educationally...I would say to her "Well *I* went to public school and I turned out okay, do you have a problem with MY morals? No? Okay then, I guess I am living proof that not going to a Catholic school is not the be all and end all of being moral and educated. I am NOT discussing this with you any more, DH and I have made this decision for OUR family"

And then I wouldn't go there again.

 

[mumto3girls]

MIL: Balh, blah, blah

You: Mom, we love you and respect your opinion, but we are not sending the kids to private school. Period. Please stop asking us about it. Trust us that we are making good informed decsions for our own children, just like you did for yours.

I vote for this. Repeat over and over as necessary. Direct and to the point, but polite as well. I realize that her bugging you about this isn't easy and you have enough stress with your husband deployed, but she is probably suffering through having her son deployed and maybe she is just channeling her anxiety into this issue. If either of you is going to take a strong stand on this with her, it should be your DH when he gets back. Good luck and may your DH return soon safe and sound.