So tired trying to feed this kid!!

[Lisa L from MI]

DD10 is SO picky of an eater I can't stand it!!! She is hungry she states. I ask what she wants. She says she doesn't know. So I offer:

hotdogs
spaghetti (made 2 days ago...could reheat)
waffles
pancakes
salami sandwich (she used to love these)
chicken rings and fries
peanut butter and jelly
kielbasa
eggs and toast
grilled cheese
cereal
frozen pizza
corn dogs
hamburger on bun
chicken patty on a bun
ramen noodles



And NOPE.....she doesn't want any of those!!!! And still doesn't know what she wants!!! I don't really know what else there is to offer!!!

She has always been the pickiest eater from day 1!!!

Just thought I would share...and vent a bit

 

[noseybuddy]

Don't give any choices. Just make something and put it on the table. If hungry, will eat.

 

[Wishing on a star]

Well, I hate to be the one to bring this up...
But this sounds like it goes beyond 'picky' and could be an eating disorder???

Nutritionally: Has she ever had anything like the fortified chocolate milk drinks???

Neurologically/Psychologically: Has she ever seen any Dr. or professional for any issues???

Just rhetorical questions here.
No need to answer.

 

[Forevryoung]

At 10 years old I would suggest that if she is hungry and doesn't like your suggestions that you suggest she make her own food.

If she wants something from the supermarket she should tell you and you can get it next time you go shopping (within reason of course).

She will not starve, I promise.

 

[nhrenee]

My kids always get confused with too many choices (just like their mom ). How about you give her 2 choices and if she doesn't choose, choose for her. It's hard because you worry about them eating properly.

 

[lindalinda]

Don't give any choices. Just make something and put it on the table. If hungry, will eat.

I agree with this. I had all this stuff written, but deleted it, it sounded kinda "preachy" after I read it!

 

[Quatro is enough]

If any thing give her two choices, if she doesn't choose -CHOOSE FOR HER. If she decides not to eat then either, let her go hungry. She'll eventually give in and want to eat what YOU offered. ***this is starting to sound redundant, but I'm glad I 'm not alone thinking this***

Don't let the child rule over you or your home.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I notice that most everything on that long list of choices was either bread and high-fat high-salt processed meat, or pasta. Except for the peanut butter and the cheese, which are also mostly salt and fat.

 

[Lisa L from MI]

She can eat quite well...it is just finding out what she wants.

She is not at all malnourished. I really don't think it is a eating disorder..she has always been a very defiant child.

I did start off offering just a couple things...she knows darn well what we have in the house too...And I did say "well then starve"......

We have asked her to write a list when we go to the store...especially when she comments "you only buy what you like" but she won't.

Now, if I mentioned fast food....thats another story BUT we don't do that often.

 

[C.Ann]

Stand your ground.. You have already given her WAY more choices than I would have..

Either she'll choose something - or go to bed hungry..

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

I don't really know what else there is to offer!!!

Mabel's kibble?

 

[lyzziesmom]

My DD8 is like this. And I must admit, I was as a kid and still am the pickiest eater I know - not an eating disorder, just lots of food issues. DD is just picky. Usually I find that when she can't decide what she wants, she either a) has something particular in mind but doesn't want to ask for it because she thinks I'll say no. For example, she wants ice cream. She knows I'll say no because we haven't had dinner. So, she will just say, "I'm hungry." I'll ask do you want a b or c? No no and no. She is waiting for me to ask if she wants ice cream.

or

b) she has snacked a lot throughout the day. She stays at my mom's house while I work and sometimes my mom will feed her snacks & forget to tell me. DD is a lot less picky when she is actually hungry, vs. just wants something to eat. Try feeding her less (I promise she will not starve) and you'll be surprised how much more she decides she likes.

I also agree with others who said give her choices, but not so many choices. Ask her if she wants a b or c. If she says no, then tell her she's not that hungry - and try again in an hour or so.

Good luck, I know how difficult this can be, from both sides of the struggle!

 

[I'mNoPrince]

Mabel's kibble?

or her Greenies.I heard they are good for your digestion system.

 

[Lisa L from MI]

Mabel's kibble?

 

[Lisa L from MI]

My DD8 is like this. And I must admit, I was as a kid and still am the pickiest eater I know - not an eating disorder, just lots of food issues. DD is just picky. Usually I find that when she can't decide what she wants, she either a) has something particular in mind but doesn't want to ask for it because she thinks I'll say no. For example, she wants ice cream. She knows I'll say no because we haven't had dinner. So, she will just say, "I'm hungry." I'll ask do you want a b or c? No no and no. She is waiting for me to ask if she wants ice cream.

or

b) she has snacked a lot throughout the day. She stays at my mom's house while I work and sometimes my mom will feed her snacks & forget to tell me. DD is a lot less picky when she is actually hungry, vs. just wants something to eat. Try feeding her less (I promise she will not starve) and you'll be surprised how much more she decides she likes.

I also agree with others who said give her choices, but not so many choices. Ask her if she wants a b or c. If she says no, then tell her she's not that hungry - and try again in an hour or so.

Good luck, I know how difficult this can be, from both sides of the struggle!

Kinda just that....I know she wants KFC or Burger King....but she ain't gonna get it!! She hasn't snacked all day....infact all she has had all day is 2 granola bars this afternoon......

 

[Lisa L from MI]

Oh...and get this!! DH just called (he works at night) and said "why don't you make her potato pancakes and bacon".....HELLO!!! It is after 8:00pm!!!! I am NOT whipping up potato pancakes and bacon (which she would probably go for) when there is alot of other choices she has!!!! DH just doesn't get it sometimes!!

 

[candicenicole19]

Don't give any choices. Just make something and put it on the table. If hungry, will eat.

I agree! That is what i do. My dd 4 is a picky eater as well and 1 full day of not eating shipped her tail end into shape! She eats what I make or nothing at all!

 

[ilovejack02]

LOL i soo remember those days. I usually got told eat an apple and have a glass of milk and if I said no then I got told, You really must not be that hungry.
I dont envy you, preteen girls can be crazy, I remember what a pain i was.

 

[Lisa L from MI]

I am not worried at all about her not eating anything...she has done that before...doesn't bother me But what I don't want is her figuring out what she wants like at 9:30!!! I just told her now to make up her mind cause I am not making anything after 8:45!!!

 

[Beth76]

I don't normally give choices. They eat what we're having. Occasionally I will do a free choice night where we scrounge from leftovers and just anything that we have. On that night they can choose what they want as long as it's nutritionally sound.