So stresses about chossing a wedding date...need advice

[rrali33tt]

Let me start by telling you ladies about my original wedding plans ( that I came up with 2 years ago WAY before being engaged lol). My DF and I go to Disney every year for the F&W festival. Our first trip together as a couple was to Disney and it has special meaning for us. We LOVE F&W, MNSSHP and HHN (at universal). I wanted to share all those things with my friends and family as well. My fiance had a tough time finding a job after we graduated law school so it is prob why he took longer than expected to propose. Just last November my best guy friend got engaged... and he subsequently took my wedding date of Columbus day weekend.

The reason why I chose Columbus day because my MOHs, and other people in the bridal party are teachers. They really cant take off work too much and I wanted a holiday weekend so all guests didnt have to take off work to attend the wedding if they didnt want to make a vacation out of it.

So Columbus day is out, so I have Memorial day, 4th of july and labor day to choose from. My busy season at work is June/July so I was shying away from the 4th def and memorial day. So I am left with LDW.

The bad thing about LDW is that it is peak hurricane season in Florida. In additon with all the crazy hurricanes we have had up here in NJ (Irene and Sandy) my mom was all worried that it might happen again and my family would not be able to get to the wedding.

So now I am freaking out. But, there is also another reason why I chose LDW, and this is where your help comes in. I do not have many girlfriends ..my 5 girlfriends are my maids. All but one are married. Two have had their first child. Problem is 3 of them are right now trying to have a child (or 2nd one). This means that if all goes well, their babies would be due around March. They will all be breast feeding too.

I do not have any children and have no idea what motherhoods is like. I thought it would be better if their child were 6 months old rather than 3 months old for my wedding. I don't want them to hate the fact that they have to leave their new baby to attend a wedding in another state. I dont even think infants that young can travel. I just would not be comfortable thinking my wedding is a huge burden on them.

My concerns with LDW are that its going to be like 99 degrees, I wont enjoy being in the parks (well i can prob deal its DF that will probably hate it). We are also planning on going on an ABD Germany trip for abour 2 weeks in Sept. for the honeymoon. I am starting to think taking so many days off at work in one month might be a bad idea. (I am also trying to find a new job so it would be even worse). I wanted to be able to go a few days before the wedding to go to the parks with my family and stuff but I prob have to cut that out if I do LDW. And the threat of hurricanes ? ahhh


I guess I needed to vent and ask you ladies if you agree that MDW is not a good choice because of the maid situation and weather...DF and I have discussed that we will still do the Germany trip in September as our official honeymoon regardless of when the wedding is. I am freaking because the 1 year mark for MDW will be coming up in a few weeks so i would have to decide soon!

 

[andeesings]

In NY we get some Jewish holidays off in the Fall... Do teachers get those in NJ?? Because you can check to see if Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur fall near a weekend (this fall, for example, they do and it's created a lovely four day weekend in September for us teachers). Also, it may or may not be chilly, but you COULD do Martin Luther King weekend as well, that's in January. I LOVE going to Disney around then.

The heat and rain DO stink around Labor Day, I usually go to Disney the week preceding, but it isn't any hotter than when I go for a weekend in October for F&W.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Stop, breathe. Children over 6 weeks can travel.
How do you feel about infants at your wedding? Are you ok with that?

Because here is what will happen, regardless of if you choose MDW or the 4th. Someone will not want to travel with a child that young, even though technically they can. Someone will not want to leave their infant at home with someone else while they travel out of state. If you say no kids at the wedding, then someone who travelled with their baby will not want to leave them back at the room.

The other thing to consider is that it takes the average healthy woman 3-6 months to conceive. The older you get, the longer it can take. So even though they are trying now, they may not get pregnant for a while. They may have just given birth or still be pregnant for your wedding and not be able to travel.

Also, childbirth and getting ready for a new baby is expensive. They might not be able to afford to be in your Disney wedding the same year they have a baby.

I know you are trying to make everyone happy and make it so that everyone can be there, but the reality is that at least one person probably will not be able to attend. So pick whatever date YOU want. And just be realistic in your expectations of who can attend. It doesn't mean they don't love you.

 

[leelee9878]

Being as you are in NJ you can try the week of the NJEA convention, they should have 2 days off for that in November. Only problem with that is its "jersey week" and it will be crowded.

 

[chris31997]

You and future DH need to sit down and discuss when y'all want to set the date. Think about when it works for you. If everyone else can make it great, if not then oh well maybe an at home reception themed after some of the festivals that the two fo you have enjoyed.

 

[rrali33tt]

I think we are going to stick with Labor Day weekend. My fiance literally said he is happy with whatever day I choose so I will stick with my original plan of LDW so we don't have to wait so long to go on our honeymoon.