So sad, newborn dies when sleeping father rolls onto him

[transparant]

I have co-slept with all 6 of my kids. Wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[lemondog]

If you are going to co-sleep, PLEASE use a co-sleeper designed to protect the child. This exact same thing happened to someone I know. Her husband rolled over onto their newborn and the baby suffocated. It was devastating. She has beat herself up EVERY day since (and it has been several years now) that she did not use a co-sleeper. Why take the risk???

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Father's are not the same as Mother's. They do not have the same 'instincts' with the baby as a new Mother will. New Mothers will sleep lighter and will often be so in tune to baby that they will wake up right before the baby starts stirring. I do not worry about rolling on DS or DD the same way I don't worry about rolling off of the bed.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

I also wanted to point out that this is kind of like a plane crash. Hundreds of safe flights EVERYDAY, but one crash makes the headlines scaring people.

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

Excuse me,but I don't recall asking for a PREACHER, do ya'll?

I didn't co-sleep with DS, he was in a bassinett in our room until he was 3 mos old and then he went into his own crib in his nursery. I don't think co-sleeping is a problem IF you get a specially designed doohickey for the side of the bed to protect the child.

(just in case)

TOV

 

[justhat]

Dwife and I saw this too. She has our first due the end of march and we have already said there will be no kids sleeping in the bed with us. We will have the bassinet in the bedroom with us for awhile, but not in the bed. I feel horrible for these people, I can't imagine, and don't want to experience what they are going through.

I said this too when I was due with my first child (who was also due in March, but 2004). Well she just moved out of our bed at 19 months, after sleeping in there on and off from 3 months old. The first 3 months she slept in a cosleeper attached to my side of the bed, then we went out of town for 5 weeks at various relatives houses and hotels and so she slept with us and did ever since. A lot of things that I said I'd never do before my daughter was born I broke my own rules and did. We're now expecting #2 and I know already that this baby will end up in our bed too. Oh, and our daughter always slept between me and the cosleeper which we had higher than the bed so it was like a bed rail. She didn't go into the middle of the bed till she was about 12 or 13 months, when she'd give my husband a nice kick if he rolled on her!

 

[Rock'n Robin]

I had my 3 kids sleeping in my bed quite often. DH, though, often falls asleep downstairs watching TV, so oftentimes he was not in bed with us. I remember vividly one night DD#1 was crying and I put her on my chest to sleep and woke up 2 hours later--she was still asleep and I had not moved! I think that was the motherly instinct kicking in. I did use a bassinet for one month with both girls, and almost 3 months with DS. The girls slept with me on and off until they were about 3; DS a little longer.
This is a very personal decision and I am starting to notice some people are taking an attitude about their own POV--I think as long as you are informed about the risks and stay substance-free you can make your own choice. And Jenn Lynn is right--you don't read about the millions of kids sleeping safely with their parents.
Robin M.

 

[nuke]

The poor dads sure get a bad rap around here. My husband has the best child raising instincts of anyone I've met male or female.

 

[Jenn Lynn]

The poor dads sure get a bad rap around here. My husband has the best child raising instincts of anyone I've met male or female.

When I said instincts I meant it in correlation with co-sleeping. The 'instinct' (and that's probably not even the right word to use) isn't the same as with the Mother which I went on to explain. Not that Dads have bad overall parenting instincts. I mean, I do have a DH and he is a great Father, but we both would not let him sleep with the bay by him. He is too heavy of a sleeper.

 

[cstraub]

Total infant deaths year 2000: 28,411

Number SIDS deaths year 2000: 2,523
Mostly in cribs.
Defined as death with unexplained cause, birth to 1 year.

Number deaths/yr attributed to overlying: 19 Most are only "suspected."

Number of deaths/yr in adult beds reported as entrapment/suffocation between bed and wall, headboard, or other furniture, on waterbed, in headboard railings, or tangled in bedding: 18 With side-rail: 1 That's 19 of the 60.

National Institute of Child Health and Human Development 2000 Survey,


Our nation ranks 42nd in infant surivival!!!!!!!!!

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

But infants, unless they are in a special co-sleeper contraption, simply DO NOT need to be in the same bed as their parents, especially if the parents are going to put the baby in between Mom and Dad. There is TOO much risk that one of them is going to roll over and squish the baby, as happened in the OP's story.

Besides, have you ever attempted to sleep with a wiggling infant? How much sleep did YOU get? It's bad enough to have sleep deprivation because the baby is up every hour and a half or so wanting to eat, play,whatever.

TOV

 

[Marseeya]

I didn't co-sleep with DS right away because I had a single bed, but I did eventually bring him to my bed when I got a bigger one. He slept so much better, as did I. I was starting to get sick from lack of sleep!

With DD, I co-slept with her after a couple of days. I put her between me and the wall because I was so afraid of DH rolling onto her -- a very legitimate fear because he rolls on me!

Different strokes for different folks. Before I had kids, I was against co-sleeping (among many things). I always said "I'll always do this..." or "I'll never do that..." and I turned out to be so wrong about many things.

 

[skiwee1]

I co slept with my DD when she was a newborn. I loved it. I missed her when she finally went to her own bed.

 

[Marseeya]

But infants, unless they are in a special co-sleeper contraption, simply DO NOT need to be in the same bed as their parents, especially if the parents are going to put the baby in between Mom and Dad. There is TOO much risk that one of them is going to roll over and squish the baby, as happened in the OP's story.

Besides, have you ever attempted to sleep with a wiggling infant? How much sleep did YOU get? It's bad enough to have sleep deprivation because the baby is up every hour and a half or so wanting to eat, play,whatever.

TOV

Neither one of my babies kept me awake in my bed except to eat. They both slept more soundly beside me -- our breathing patterns matched up perfectly; it was almost magical.

Maybe YOUR baby didn't belong in YOUR bed, but MY babies did.

 

[cstraub]

But infants, unless they are in a special co-sleeper contraption, simply DO NOT need to be in the same bed as their parents, especially if the parents are going to put the baby in between Mom and Dad. There is TOO much risk that one of them is going to roll over and squish the baby, as happened in the OP's story.

TOV

Number SIDS deaths year 2000: 2,523
Mostly in cribs.
Defined as death with unexplained cause, birth to 1 year.

Number deaths/yr attributed to overlying (co- sleeping): 19 Most are only "suspected."


Seems riskier to have them in a crib.

 

[momof2inPA]

But infants, unless they are in a special co-sleeper contraption, simply DO NOT need to be in the same bed as their parents, especially if the parents are going to put the baby in between Mom and Dad.

Is that what Ezzo says or your MIL? I'll pick my child rearing choices over yours, anyday, but we can all make our own choices, luckily.

 

[Stitchfans]

When DD11 was born she was 8 weeks premature. We didn't get to bring her home until she was 3 months old. Even then she was so tiny. She slept on my chest for several months cause I was nervous about leaving her alone. Plus I needed to have her as near to me as possible since I missed out on her first 3 months of life. That was such a nightmare not being able to bring her home, and having to travel nearly a half an hour out to the hospital every day to see her. Very stressful time in our lifes.

 

[transparant]

But infants, unless they are in a special co-sleeper contraption, simply DO NOT need to be in the same bed as their parents, especially if the parents are going to put the baby in between Mom and Dad. There is TOO much risk that one of them is going to roll over and squish the baby, as happened in the OP's story.

Besides, have you ever attempted to sleep with a wiggling infant? How much sleep did YOU get? It's bad enough to have sleep deprivation because the baby is up every hour and a half or so wanting to eat, play,whatever.

TOV

Well - I've co-slept with all 6 of my kids and got excellent sleep! I slept horrible when they were alone or not next to me. Co-sleeping was the best parental decision I have ever made. I know its not for everyone - but for me, my DH and my babies - it certainly was.

 

[pixiemomma]

Number SIDS deaths year 2000: 2,523
Mostly in cribs.
Defined as death with unexplained cause, birth to 1 year.

Number deaths/yr attributed to overlying (co- sleeping): 19 Most are only "suspected."


Seems riskier to have them in a crib.

I co-slept with my children as well. I tried the crib and the bassinet for the first several weeks but they would not fall asleep in either.

My older son's godparents lost their son (Born the same yr as my son) to SIDS. He died in a crib. He was over nine pounds at birth and healthy.

 

[Blondie]

Did anyone see the HBO Autopsy special?


How Did Terrie Petrie's Babies Die?

In 2000, an Ontario woman named Terrie Petrie gave birth to a daughter, her second child. Eight days later, the baby was dead, and the cause of death was determined to be SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome). A year and a half later, Terrie found out she was pregnant again, this time with twin boys. But three months and one week after the boys were born, they too died mysteriously - both on the same night. With police suspicious and newspapers vilifying her, Terrie wrote Dr. Baden on the Autopsy website, then flew to New York for an interview. Five months, myriad forensic analyses and a polygraph test later, Dr. Baden summoned Terrie back to deliver his opinion as to why the three babies died. As he explains to Terrie, there were four possibilities: 1) genetic abnormality; 2) SIDS; 3) accidental roll-over; and 4) homicide. Dr. Baden's verdict - based on evidence and interviews by both Terrie and her friend Tammy - is "not quite the answer I wanted to hear," confesses a sobbing Terrie.


IMHO, cribs were created for a reason and it wasn't to isolate the baby from the mom. It was to protect them.