So Life Still Isnt Fair...

[mushumadness]

.....my sister has more skin cancer... down her neck, they took this piece off immediatly so its not looking great, just what she didnt need.

I dont know how she keeps a positive outlook on life so many things have gone wrong.

Im so down for her,

Plus she has not told her kids about the cancer, well I say that until someone who was meant to be her friend, told her daughter who told my neice who I have had to pick up from school early in tears as that other nasty little girl told her tha her mums dying (which I have tried to reasure her she isnt), arnt children cruel, not to mention the actual woman, who should be tarred and feathered!

so all in all a bad day

sorry I just neede some where to let it out

 

[alisonbestford]

No, life certainly isn't fair and we all cope with things in different ways.
Your sister's way of coping is obviously to think positively

Still doesn't make it easier for everyone else though so

and

for you all

 

[Mrs Dazzle]

My mum had skin cancer, on her face, so I do know what you're going through . She'd had hers for years (she was a sun worshipper, that's why I always cover up with factor 50 ), but it was successfully removed when she was 58. Always keep positive, and good luck to your sister.

Yes, children do say cruel things, but often they don't understand the consequences.

Loads n loads of to you all.

 

[mandymouse]

Anna, I am so sorry to hear that your sister has had more skin cancer ~ I'm sending you both lots of love and hugs during this difficult time

Mandy

 

[wideeyes]

Hi, Just like to send best wishes to you and your family.
Try and stay positive though it might be hard sometimes.

It must help your sister a lot to have a supportive sister.

Kids don't really understand stuff like this the girls mother should have watched her mouth around her.

 

[alisonbestford]

Most of the time kids don't intend to be mean but are often so because they're afraid of things they don't fully understand.
For instance, if little Jane's (substitute whatever name) mum has skin cancer how can they be sure their own mum won't get it too?
Life's not only unfair, it's pretty scarey all round

You say your sister hasn't told her kids about the cancer yet, and she must have her own reasons to make that decision, but it helped DD (now 7) to talk to her class mates when DH had to have major surgery for his brain tumour, 2 years ago.

As a result all Eve's friends know about her Dad and, most of the time, he's treated as the local celebrity

We've always talked through scans, outpatient appts, treatment etc (without weighing DD down with too much information) and that works for us but I realise that not all families are comfortable with this or think it's the right approach to take

I think you should try to substitute 'cruel' for 'ignorant' but it's not an easy thing to do when you're angry about something like this

 

[jen_uk]

Really sorry to hear this, I hope it all works out ok.

 

[wilma-bride]

Anna, really sorry to hear your sister's news.

I have to say, I tend to agree with Alison though. You don't say how old the child is who told your niece but I honestly don't think a young child could be expected to understand a) the implications or b) the importance of keeping a secret like this. If your sister isn't prepared to tell her children - and I totally understand her reasons for this - she shouldn't really have told someone else who couldn't be trusted with the secret.

I hope your niece is OK and everything works out for the best

 

[UKDEB]

Anna, I know I rib you relentlessly for your ever-changing holiday plans (it keeps me amused, so please don't hold back ), but I send you my genuine and heartfelt sympathies over this. I do agree with the other posters that the child in question is simply ignorant, not malicious, but it doesn't help with such a complicated situation.

You and your sister, take care. She sounds as though she has the right outlook.

 

[Floridadreamlel]

Just wanted to send you some and to you and you're family

 

[KayleeUK]

Sorry to hear this

 

[arieljasmine]

So sorry to hear this, Anna. Lots of and pixie dust for you all.

ArielJasmine

 

[alisonbestford]

Might I suggest that your sister might ask for advice from the MacMillan team?

They're there to provide advice / support in any situation

Our MacMillan nurses have allowed me to vent loads of steam, Phil to plod along in his own merry way and have provided loads of info for Eve

 

[wils]

I am so sorry Anna - sending you a

I'm also sad that your niece has found out this way.

I will be thinking of you and your family

 

[Lisash]

Sorry to hear this Anna for you all

 

[Minniespal]

Anna ~ Very sorry for the news about your sister. Sending you all some

 

[Ware Bears]

Anna - sending you all

 

[angel659]

Hi

I am so sorry it must be devastating. My uncle had skin cancer on the nose luckily it has been removed. I wish you and your family some luck

 

[florida sun]

Sorry to hear this Anna

 

[mushumadness]

sorry I vented yesterday, I was so well annoyed.

Abigail is 9 this girl is 10 or 11 (will be off to high school soon). So I geuss she is ignorant and cruel,

Sue wasnt keen on the girls knowing what with their grandma dying last year from cancer . But she has sat them both down last night gone though all the details etc, even with the 7yr old.

She going to see a nurse today (I arnt sure if shes macmillan or not but she has had details of the nurses)