So let's say...

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

You went to dinner with some friends last Friday. During the course of the conversation the topic of WDW came up. Specifically, when your next trip was going to be. So you mention the dates.

Let's say in the past your friends have expressed an interest in going to DL as a group, but you have no interest in that. (Let's say you are AP holders and own DVC at WDW.) Your friends remind you that they want to go to DL, you reiterate that you do NOT want to go.

Let's say that your friends then decide that your dates at WDW sound pretty good and they announce that they will join you! Let's say you and your spouse are too flabbergasted to respond with more than "Oh, OK". Your friends say they will call their travel agent on Monday to set it up.

Well, now it is Thursday. Let's say you have e-mailed your friends 3 separate times since that dinner and they have not responded. What exactly would you assume is going on, and would you think your friends still intended to come on vacation with you? Just curious!

 

[minnie56]

I would think they likely got caught up in the moment and have re-thought the idea? I also would think 'whatever' and carry on!

 

[Michelle67]

Hmmm. I'd be afraid to assume anything. And I think I'd look for new, less pushy friends, or friends that I would enjoy vacationing with. Just kidding...I'm sorry. That sounds like such an uncomfortable situation! Wow!

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

I think an email to tell them saying that although their offer was tempting, your trip is already planned and "maybe" you will see them "in passing" during your vacation.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

I would think they likely got caught up in the moment and have re-thought the idea? I also would think 'whatever' and carry on!

I am cool with them rethinking the idea. It would be good of them to reply to one of my e-mails with "Oh, you know, we checked our calendar and that won't work after all! Maybe another time!"

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I don't assume anything..

Until they actually gave me travel info, I would pretend they are not going.

 

[Heidict]

They probably overspoke and now realize that they can't go for a variety of reasons.

I wouldn't mention it them. If they are going I'm sure they will be calling to tell you about their flights and where they are staying. No news is good news.

 

[mookie]

I have always had this "thing" with vacationing with others, ESPECIALLY to WDW. They could be my best friends, even extended family. I'll put up with it, but when I go on vacation I like the experience to be with just my own kids and dh...the memories and closeness seem to get lost any other way. Not to mention the fact that DH and I are pretty detailed in our planning for WDW (as I'm sure YOU all can appreciate!) and most of the others that we go with have different ideas that just wouldn't mesh as nicely with ours.

Sorry you are going through this. I've had this happen before. Normally I don't mind any other trip (we are going with friends to Great Wolf for an extended weekend) but for me, WDW is just for me and my family...it's off limits.

 

[earthfaries]

I wouldn't assume anything. I would be wondering if they were in negotiations with their TA, if they weren't going and didn't want to tell you because they were embarrassed for jumping in in the first place, who knows? I would just assume they are not going and if I didn't want them to go I would tell them that whenever I talked to them again, as uncomfortable as that would be...

Good luck and let us know!

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

I think an email to tell them saying that although their offer was tempting, your trip is already planned and "maybe" you will see them "in passing" during your vacation.

WDW is HUGE, plenty of room for everyone. Maybe you can suggest a resort.

 

[Bob NC]

I'd call them up and say: "Did you get your reservations yet, are you coming?"

(But I like vacationing with others.)

 

[Mad4Mickey]

I would asume no they are not coming and if they said something then you can tell them when you didnt hear anything from them that they were not coming .

 

[Briarmom]

If they were MY friends, I'd assume they were drunk and didn't know what they were saying.

I'd stop emailing them though. They may start planning!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Hmmm. I'd be afraid to assume anything. And I think I'd look for new, less pushy friends, or friends that I would enjoy vacationing with. Just kidding...I'm sorry. That sounds like such an uncomfortable situation! Wow!

We have already been to WDW with these friends twice. I thought we were finished with group travel. DH was ready to flog me for not saying "Oh, you can't come with us!" But DH was sitting right there and HE didn't say anything, so he is not going to blame it on me!

I think an email to tell them saying that although their offer was tempting, your trip is already planned and "maybe" you will see them "in passing" during your vacation.

They know I haven't booked ADRs yet because we are more than 180 days out. There was quite a bit of discussion prior to the "we'll come with you" announcement, so I don't know if I can back pedal now.

 

[Rora]

I wouldn't mention it them. If they are going I'm sure they will be calling to tell you about their flights and where they are staying. No news is good news.

This is very true.. Don't bring it up unless they do. But if they do, say this...

although their offer was tempting, your trip is already planned and "maybe" you will see them "in passing" during your vacation.

Good luck! This situation sucks. Hope it works out!

EDIT: oops, I was in mid-post while you were posting. I just read what you wrote about the ADRs. If worse comes to worse, make one or two ADRs with them, making it clear that you're going to be very busy with your own plans and this will probably be the only time you will see them..

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

WDW is HUGE, plenty of room for everyone. Maybe you can suggest a resort.

I was not asked to recommend a resort.

I would asume no they are not coming and if they said something then you can tell them when you didnt hear anything from them that they were not coming .

That will work after we get inside the 180 mark. Between now and then I guess anything can happen! I will be e-mailing my ADRs to IPO at about the 190 mark, and once that e-mail goes there will be no revisions. But hopefully we will know something definite before I have to submit my ADR requests.

 

[GRUMPY PIRATE]

You went to dinner with some friends last Friday. During the course of the conversation the topic of WDW came up. Specifically, when your next trip was going to be. So you mention the dates.

Let's say in the past your friends have expressed an interest in going to DL as a group, but you have no interest in that. (Let's say you are AP holders and own DVC at WDW.) Your friends remind you that they want to go to DL, you reiterate that you do NOT want to go.

Let's say that your friends then decide that your dates at WDW sound pretty good and they announce that they will join you! Let's say you and your spouse are too flabbergasted to respond with more than "Oh, OK". Your friends say they will call their travel agent on Monday to set it up.

Well, now it is Thursday. Let's say you have e-mailed your friends 3 separate times since that dinner and they have not responded. What exactly would you assume is going on, and would you think your friends still intended to come on vacation with you? Just curious!

Lets say they did that.

when they tell me they are going, i'll ask them where they are staying,
and let them know that we should get together for a few hours one of the days to ride some attractions! maybe the last day they are there!!

hehehehehehe

 

[Kathi OD]

OMY!!!! I would have just dropped it and not said another word about it until they brought it up again. I'd just go about planning my trip for myself and DH. If they decide to come later, if you can change plans to include them, fine. If not, owell...

Can I ask why you emailed them about the trip and 3 times no less? If they hadn't answered my first email, I surely wouldn't have sent 2 more. What a mess!!

Lets say they did that.

when they tell me they are going, i'll ask them where they are staying,
and let them know that we should get together for a few hours one of the days to ride some attractions! maybe the last day they are there!!

And make sure to drink plenty of RUM before you meet them!!!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Lets say they did that.

when they tell me they are going, i'll ask them where they are staying,
and let them know that we should get together for a few hours one of the days to ride some attractions! maybe the last day they are there!!

hehehehehehe

That would have been a useful reply AT DINNER last week! It just shocked me so much that I couldn't wrap my head around it. In the time it took me to exhale one time they decided they were going to WDW the same dates, staying in the same resort, and doing whatever we were doing.

I suspect I had an involuntary "look" on my face though, and maybe that look spurred further discussion between our friends after they left. Because one of them said "Oh, well we won't stay the whole time." Then the other one immediately said "Why not? We can stay the whole time!" If I didn't start out with a look I think that last comment might have caused one to manifest.

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

OMY!!!! I would have just dropped it and not said another word about it until they brought it up again. I'd just go about planning my trip for myself and DH. If they decide to come later, if you can change plans to include them, fine. If not, owell...

Can I ask why you emailed them about the trip and 3 times no less? If they hadn't answered my first email, I surely wouldn't have sent 2 more. What a mess!!




And make sure to drink plenty of RUM before you meet them!!!

The e-mails went like this:
The first one was at their request. They wanted an e-mail with our dates so they would be sure to get it right when they called to book. I am a weenie, so I sent the dates.

The second e-mail was to tell them that DH's vacation bid was coming up so the dates might change. We didn't know the bid date at dinner - they announced it on kind of short notice.

The third e-mail was confirming the dates in the original e-mail, minus one day. We are coming home a day early because we can't be sure DH can get that last day off. His company is restructuring the scheduling, so the way things work now may not be the way they work next year.

So really, the e-mails were a courtesy (stemming from their request) to confirm what dates we will be at WDW. The e-mails were also "fishing" to see what the reply would be. Either "Great - see you there!" or "Bummer - we can't make it after all!" The lack of a reply of any sort is making me crazy!

Yes, rum may be in order. Lots and lots of rum.