So it all started with my husband and the milk jug . . .

[GeorgiaAristocat]

I was driving my kids to school (day care) this morning and contemplating my SERIOUS passive-agressive mood. You see, two days ago, my husband took out an expiring-on-that-day jug of milk w/ 1 inch of milk in the bottom and set it in the middle of the stovetop/counter. He didn't pour the milk out. He just left it sitting there.

THIS MAKES ME NUTS! (He does the same thing w/ leftovers if he feels that they should not be in the refrigerator.) In the past, I have tried calmly to explain to him that these items need to be properly disposed of, not just left on the counter. THROW THEM AWAY IMMEDIATELY SO THEY DON'T STINK!

I refuse to throw that dang milk away. Refuse, Refuse, Refuse. But it is seriously grossing me out at this point, two days later, while it sits there.

I wonder how long I will hold out? Will I make it through my lunch hour? I may just not go home for lunch today so that I don't have to face it. But my husband has class tonight and won't get in until @ 9 p.m. I just don't think I'm going to make it. I am seriously tempted to put the stupid jug in the middle of his computer desk (this would be a cardinal sin!)

Just needed to vent -
(Okay, and I recognize how blessed I am that this is the worst problem our marriage has!)

 

[Christine]

I've noticed on a few occasions, my DH has pulled out some leftovers and set them on the counter. It's like he's saying "Hey, honey, I pulled these out of the fridge (aren't I wonderful) now will you clean them up?"

Infuriating.

 

[TiggerTails57]

Be the 'bigger person' throw it out!..........remember Ray and the suitcase?

 

[dennis99ss]

Sorry, but, gota side with hubby on this one. At least he is telling you that the thing needs to be thrown out!

 

[KelNottAt]

Good luck with this one. I don't have any advice, but sending your way.

Right now I'm cursing my husband because he "tried to help" arrange a ski rental for us. The ski trip starts tomorrow, but it turns out he completely botched the scheduling at the rental place. Now that he's out of town this week I'm left to fix it all.

Hang in there.

 

[GeorgiaAristocat]

Sorry, but, gota side with hubby on this one. At least he is telling you that the thing needs to be thrown out!

But it DIDN'T need to be thrown out - the milk was still good, as evidenced by the fact that he used it for his cereal that morning. AND WE HAVE A SECOND REFRIGERATOR (for the new gallon).

 

[Maleficent13]

Sorry, but, gota side with hubby on this one. At least he is telling you that the thing needs to be thrown out!

WHAAAAA??? And apparently the OP is the "Milk Thrower-Outer Fairy"???

 

[BelleMcNally]

If you can stick to your guns, do it. I know I couldn't!

I tried the same thing with my roommates the other week. They have never, to my knowledge, cleaned the bathroom, and I'd gotten tired of kindly asking them to do it. I decided not to clean the toilet and wait to see how disgusting they would let it get before cleaning it...

3 weeks went by and neither of them picked up the darn toilet brush. They seemed totally content with the filth (and, believe me....I'm a neat freak...but this was NASTY in anyone's book!).

I caved and cleaned it myself this weekend.

 

[mickeyfan2]

Sorry, but, gota side with hubby on this one. At least he is telling you that the thing needs to be thrown out!

And it also lets you know that you are out of milk (if no other one is in the fridge).

 

[L107ANGEL]

WHAAAAA??? And apparently the OP is the "Milk Thrower-Outer Fairy"???

You owe me a monitor

 

[mickeyboat]

WHAAAAA??? And apparently the OP is the "Milk Thrower-Outer Fairy"???

hehehehehehe

My DH occasionally does something like this too. He'll say "the refrigerator needs to be cleaned out." Well, clean it out then! I have to give him some credit, though. Two nights ago I started cleaning out the refrigerator (our "rot drawer" was getting too full), and he took all the stuff and put it down the garbage disposal. What a guy!

Yesterday my co-worker was complaining, and asked how all ths "crap" got on her desk. I told her the crap fairy did it!

Denae

 

[BeNJeNWaFFLe]

If that happened in my house my mother would beat you on the head with the milk jug! I can understand if he was running late in the morning and forgot to put it away. It has happened to me before. But to leave it out for days? It seems to me he is waiting for you to throw it out. Put it on his computer desk and stick to your guns!

If you can stick to your guns, do it. I know I couldn't!

I tried the same thing with my roommates the other week. They have never, to my knowledge, cleaned the bathroom, and I'd gotten tired of kindly asking them to do it. I decided not to clean the toilet and wait to see how disgusting they would let it get before cleaning it...

3 weeks went by and neither of them picked up the darn toilet brush. They seemed totally content with the filth (and, believe me....I'm a neat freak...but this was NASTY in anyone's book!).

I caved and cleaned it myself this weekend.

This happened to me too! One of the girls I lived with thought she was a princess and never did anything. She never even did her own laundry. Sorry but that doesn't fly in college. Her roommate was very dirty. Like hair everywhere, dirt in the sink dirty. Her definition of cleaning the bathroom was to just wipe things with a wet papertowel. Ew! Me and my roommate were neat freaks. We tried so hard to wait for one of them to clean the bathroom/kitchen/living room. They never did and I couldn't live in a dirty apartment anymore. Wasn't college life just fun?

 

[jennyl772003]

I think you should make something with the milk. Then right as he is about to take a bite, tell him how much you appreciated him leaving the milk out as it saved you a trip to the fridge.

 

[BelleMcNally]

This happened to me too! One of the girls I lived with thought she was a princess and never did anything. She never even did her own laundry. Sorry but that doesn't fly in college. Her roommate was very dirty. Like hair everywhere, dirt in the sink dirty. Her definition of cleaning the bathroom was to just wipe things with a wet papertowel. Ew! Me and my roommate were neat freaks. We tried so hard to wait for one of them to clean the bathroom/kitchen/living room. They never did and I couldn't live in a dirty apartment anymore. Wasn't college life just fun?

I would forgive it more if these girls were still in college (not much more...but some) but they're supposedly 'adults' now. And people thought I was crazy for living by myself my final year of college

 

[MinnieM3]

Yep....Raymond and the suitcase.....Don't let this becomeyour big spoon!

It would aggrevate me. I HATE it when DH puts a new roll or TP on TOP of the empty roll .... is it too hard to figure out how to get the empty roll off????

I'll let it go for days........................ then I do it

 

[MamaLema]

I understand how you're feeling but I have a feeling your DH will "win". I think it'll stay there forever.

There was a scientific study done and apparently these things just don't bother men like they bother us

 

[aladdinsgirl]

Be the 'bigger person' throw it out!..........remember Ray and the suitcase?

That's the first thing I thought of when I read the thread!! DH drives me nuts because he leaves the empty cartons in the cabinet instead of throwing it away. So you go to get a granola bar, or whatever, and all it is is an empty box!

 

[NMAmy]

WHAAAAA??? And apparently the OP is the "Milk Thrower-Outer Fairy"???

Welcome to my world, Mal!

DH is just the opposite. He will eat/drink anything without paying the least bit of attention to the expiration date. We left him to go to WDW last week and when I got back, he'd been drinking milk that expired the day after we left. It was a tad fragrant. Apprarently, he's built up immunity over the years because he's never gotten sick from any of the old junk he eats.

OP, I'd just throw it away. Is it really worth getting all worked up over? I know it's annoying but just tell him you had to throw it away and tell him how annoying it is. Hopefully, he'll listen. If not, next time put it on his desk.

 

[Angela Kay]

Be the 'bigger person' throw it out!..........remember Ray and the suitcase?

I do!

The thing that gets me is the glass/plate that will make it all the way to the counter...right beside the sink...but just won't go in!

 

[RadioNate]

Why not say something like "hey, don't just leave that sitting there. If it needs to be thrown out, toss it"

I never understood why we let our spouses get away w/not doing there share. He can put milk in the trash. If my DH left the milk sitting out like that, I'd call him back into the kitchen to clean it up the same way I do to my 4 year old. Act like the child, get treated like the child, sure he might get a little annoyed but we certainly aren't going to have a 3 day passive aggressive pissing match over a milk jug.