So I guess I just need to vent...

[disneydance]

Well I guess I'm currently trying to forget about my self and think about others...
Since arent we supposed to be more caring to other than to our selfs??
so I've started trying to about 2 weeks
It isnt going as well as I wish it would be I have had ALOT of friendship drama and it seems like when ever I try to leave it all behind(Aka leaving this friendship group) somebody seems to try to drag me back into it...
So I've began to hang around people from my church and theres this one girl who happens to be bi-polar....
I have nothing wrong with bipolar people as one person very close to me(my grandpa) is bipolar so I know how it goes...
Well shes been going through alot lately and she used to be this itty bitty little skinny thing but the medicine she is taking is making her gain a crazy amount of weight....
In the last 3 months since being diagnosed she has gained 50 pounds...
Well people at school arent being very supportive of her and many dont know her story...
Theres rumors floating around the school saying that she is pregnant that is far from true...
Being bi-polar its taking a toll on her and she just doesnt know what to do...
So I hadnt seen her much this week and learned on Wednesday the rumors had gotten worse...
Her family takes care of older people and she happened to snap out at one of them and they been making rude comments to her...
So today she told me she hadnt told me the full story so I learn that she happened to last Tuesday cut her self and was then hosptalized...
She was almost sent to a mental instution
I had no idea what to say but felt so bad for her...
It breaks my heart to see her going through this
Especially having my grandfather being bi-polar I know its not an easy thing at all...
I want to help but I feel like all I can say is supportive comments
I mean I know what its like to have rummors floating around the school that are far from true... this is abit TMI so I'll put it in white But there have been rumor for ages floating around the school since I have humongous breast that I stuff myself and its so not true and I know that stuff like that is not easy to deal with even if its not as much as people saying I'm pregnant...
I just dont know what to do and all I mean I'm the girl who has given her self multiple concusions at younger age done some other things I just dont want to talk about here... well mad at her self but still I just dont know what to say...
She said that she was starting counselling tonight which I hope that helps but I know when I did it well going through stuff at a youger age and it just didnt help I didnt want to tell anybody my story and I just did not trust the person...
I really want things to get better... it just breaks my heart shes going through this...
Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to help??
Ok so I'll get off my soap box

 

[CastawayJ]

hug yourself for me

cuz I can't from way over here

 

[HouseMD1120]

I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. I know its rough. There really isnt much you can do for her other than just be by her side. When she's harming herself, shes having major issues with herself and the world and she just needs to know that she has a friend. I dont remember how old you are, but if you can drive I would suggest going out to eat with her every once in a while or going bowling/ to the movies or something. Just for her to get her mind off her problems would help her so much. And when you talk to her, gently and indiscreetly check to see if shes think about any other self harm. If she is, tell her parents or stay with her as much as possible until she stops thinking about it.

I'm going to add some stuff in white because some people won't want to read this.
I didnt really want to bring religion into this, but I know that you were leaning toward Christianity, so I'll say it anyway. If you did in fact become a Christian, tell her about Jesus. He's the ultimate comforter. If you're comfortable with it, but her a Bible and give her some verses to read when she gets upset (Check out Psalms.) Or if you dont want to buy her a Bible, find some of those verses and write them down for her so she'll have them. And if she wants to talk about becoming a Christian, help her with that or refer her to somebody who could her her with that better than you could. Again, I hate to bring religion into this, but medications arent the only way for her to get through this. Jesus can do more than any drug can.

I'll be praying for you and your friend.

 

[disneydance]

I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. I know its rough. There really isnt much you can do for her other than just be by her side. When she's harming herself, shes having major issues with herself and the world and she just needs to know that she has a friend. I dont remember how old you are, but if you can drive I would suggest going out to eat with her every once in a while or going bowling/ to the movies or something. Just for her to get her mind off her problems would help her so much. And when you talk to her, gently and indiscreetly check to see if shes think about any other self harm. If she is, tell her parents or stay with her as much as possible until she stops thinking about it.

I'm going to add some stuff in white because some people won't want to read this.
I didnt really want to bring religion into this, but I know that you were leaning toward Christianity, so I'll say it anyway. If you did in fact become a Christian, tell her about Jesus. He's the ultimate comforter. If you're comfortable with it, but her a Bible and give her some verses to read when she gets upset (Check out Psalms.) Or if you dont want to buy her a Bible, find some of those verses and write them down for her so she'll have them. And if she wants to talk about becoming a Christian, help her with that or refer her to somebody who could her her with that better than you could. Again, I hate to bring religion into this, but medications arent the only way for her to get through this. Jesus can do more than any drug can.

I'll be praying for you and your friend.

Thanks for the ideas... I'm not old enough to drive(I'm 14 will be 15 in about a month...) so that wouldnt work but I was going to invite her to my house next weekend when we are having a party...
I'm trying to get her to forget about it... I mean she isnt pregnant she doesnt really even look pregnant
I know sooner or later people are going to figure that out but in response to the other which I'll put in white...
I did say yes about 2 weeks ago... I havent completely confirmed yet but I'm bassically in the process...
The girl does go to my church and I think she is having a hard time with it
I mean she is bi-polar and she just snaps at moments out of nowhere...
I think I will remind her that Jesus is the ultimate comforter... and will be there for her no matter what...
I know she has been privately speaking with our life group leader lots since I dont think shes even told me the full details...
She hasnt told really anybody but me and maybe 3 other people about her cutting herself since she doesnt really want anyone to know since that could lead to rumors... and could make it all worse
I cant tell anybody about her cutting herself and only reason I can tell you guy is bassically because of you dont go to my school...

Thanks for the support...

 

[Huit]

You're doing a good thing by being her friend. Doing things for others is a good way to live. But you can't forget about yourself.
Now, this is just me, but if I were going through problems, I wouldn't want someone pushing a god on me. Especially if they were one of my only friends. I think in any situation, it's good to have faith. But faith isn't just limited to gods. Let her have faith in you. You sound like you're being a good friend. Friends are precious.

Best of luck.

 

[Axel]

Just be there for her.

I have suffered from depression and have had suicidal tendencies in the past (and this is like being a drug addict or an alcoholic, you never really recover- you're always in the process of recovering) and the thing that kept me from ever actually cutting deep enough, long enough to kill myself was the reminder that there was at least one person out there that loved me enough to miss me.

So one friend can make all the difference.

 

[pigletgirl]

 

[disneydance]

I just wanted to give you an update...
Shes been going to the counsellor the new medication is working well, and shes happier then shes been in a long while...
Thanks everyone for listening...

 

[cjordan08]

No matter how bad the rumors get.. ALWAYS stick up for her and be there for her. She will remember everything you did and how much you were there for her for the rest of her life and you will become literally a hero to her. She might not tell you but i guarantee she will think that. So hang in there and ignore everyone and if u have to just tell them straight up they don't her situation and until they do to shut their mouths.
People thrive off gossip and tearing others down-

let me know if anything changes.
-btw, do u know what kind of medicine she is taking?? my nephew has ADHD and his medicine makes him not have an appetite and he is very very skinny.

 

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