So I get this email from an old friend...

[BuddyGenie]

Long before I joined DIS, my sister and I were a part of a greater group which had alot of influence over the public. I stayed with them for a good three years, and then everyone stopped hanging out with everyone, and I got very lonely. I rediscovered them through the Internet, but they weren't the same people I once knew, and that made me even more sad.

In the email I got, it basically told me that not everyone is going to want to hang out, especially with someone who's a complainer, which was a bit of a surprise to me since I see myself neither as a complainer nor as an autistic with limited social skills. The author further suggests that I try inviting only a few people, like two or three.

All I wanted was to return to the good times and enjoy the company of my friends like we used to back in those days. What the author fails to realize, and what she might have mistaken for autism, is that I'm overly sensitive and emotional, and can't take rejection very well. You have no idea how many things I've done by myself that I could have done in the company of people.

Any thoughts?

 

[kilee]

I think it's just best to remember that sometimes people change. I wouldn't try to force something that isn't there. Don't look at it as rejection. Look at is as closing 1 door so another can open.

 

[dmslush]

I wouldn't pay much attention to the email, sounds like they were just having a bad day and wanted someone to take it out on.

But, you know, friends do grow apart. In high school, there was a small group of us girls. We grew apart after getting out of school. Oh, sure, I see some of them everyone once in a while, but I have moved on. I am not the same people that I was then. I honestly think to an extent, I have grown and continue to grow, and they are happy staying the same. I don't love them any less because I no longer want to be their friend, but I just don't want to try to recreate what I know is no longer there.