so how does your spouse deal with your love of disney?

[dwight16]

ok so here a bit of my back story and why i am asking this question.....DVCer since 2011 2 years before i met my wife. she had a few trips has a kid but nothing as an adult i would say she likes Disney but does not LOVE it. I love it i collect pins vinyals listen to podcast and read a lot about it. i am pretty active on the boards i don't feel like i am 100% on the disney-aid but i would say 75% (lol). so i would say its my main non family interest/hobby. in 2015 we had some time share calendar issues with points and we went aug, then September and then got an amazing gift of 3 days in dec. so a total of 15 days in disney in 4 months....i know it was a lot for a non disney lover.....so looks like burn-out will cause me to miss 2016 and i am ok with that......

So i just wanted to hear from others on how they deal with their spouses and trips to dinsey......

 

[dclpluto]

We both love DIsney

 

[automaticsoap]

I try to go to WDW twice a year (at least) -- one solo trip in the spring and one trip in the fall with my partner and some friends. He definitely doesn't like Disney as much as me but enjoys going on a group trip with friends. So I go solo to get more Disney time in, and I don't feel like I'm dragging him around making him miserable.

 

[com_op_2000]

DW and I were both Disney lovers before we met.
Some of our dates were at WDW.
So I never encountered your issues.
As for drinking too much cool-aid, we try to go 2-3 nights per month with one 5 night or longer trip each year.

 

[dznyacct]

My DH is the WDW "liker". Me on the other hand.......my license plate is DZNY NUT if that tells you anything! I told him that he knew what he was getting into 30 years ago when I picked WDW as our honeymoon destination. Luckily, our son enjoyed lots of "mom and me" trips, with my DH joining us about every other time. I usually get in one WDW "girls trip" every year, which is lots of fun. We have used our DVC points to have family and friends join us on WDW/Vero Beach trips and it has been great ! We love Disney cruises (just made gold), but unfortunately they are pricing themselves out of our league .

 

[CraigInPA]

In 1973, we both went to Disney with our parents. When we met in 1998, I suggested she come to Florida with me to visit my relatives and we'd make a 4 day side trip to WDW. That trip was my fifth trip to WDW, and her sixth trip to WDW. Since then, we've been back 12 times and have stayed an average of 10 nights each time.

 

[BigAlsGal]

DH is very supportive of my Disney obsession. It helps that he likes it a lot too. Not quite to my extent but he does enjoy it.

 

[LaurenT]

If I had to use one word t describe how DH deals with my love of Disney I'd say "tolerates". He'll come with me once a year and will spend more time at the resort (AKL) than the park. But that's fine - we're not codependent types. I take my friend and our DDs in the winter every year too and sometimes I get some bonus time. For Christmas he gave me a solo trip! I have the world to myself May 15 - 22! No one to make plans for - I can watch my tigers for an hour without anyone whining!

 

[NoleFan]

My DH doesn't love Disney. He usually does not buy an annual pass. I travel with my DS & sometimes my mom joins as well. He also doesn't even like one of our home resorts, BCV. It's typically mom & me time for my son & I. We love it & are huge Stormalong Bay fans. He accepts that it is our thing & is OK with it.

 

[JWG]

I'd say my wife tolerates this. She roles her eyes each time I add-on to our ownership. I've started taking a trip with just a friend(s) to allow her to avoid a trip. It's a bit of love hate thing. Though Aulani didn't seem to bother her

 

[ziravan]

We both love Disney, me probably more than her.

I had been looking at DVC and found a weirdly configured BCV contract. Points borrowed forward and not used but that year's points used, so first year borrowed points avail, 2nd yr no points. Seller wanted $84/point.

I talked to DW about it. She was OK so long as I was sure it was a good buy. We bid $82/point and it was accepted.

She got as anxious as I did during the long wait to become owners.

Fast forward. Poly for sale. I'm interested and I read here and elsewhere lots, but no way I mention another contract to her.

One evening we're watching a TV program, she says, "Tell me what you know about Poly".

Me: "Are you asking cause you're interested in owning there or just out of curiosity? It makes a difference how I respond."

DW: "Assume I'm interested, we'll go from there."

I spent 15 minutes going over Poly DVC and 10 more going over fixed weeks. I'm sure that on the fly I did as good a job as any guide, better because I knew the value of fixed weeks.

25 minutes later, DW: "I'm interested but only for a fixed week. What week do you have in mind and why?"

Next day I called and bought Poly. (I just wished she had mentioned it a few weeks earlier when it was $5/point cheaper.)

She (we) still thinks BCV is the better contract. Looking back, 250 BCV points at $82/point was a great deal. But, Poly is great, too.

Because she was part of the decision making, she's excited about it. I could probably only rarely talk DW into a full fledged Disney package vacation. Using points!? They're OUR points.

More on point to your question, DW leaves all the planning to me. In that way, I can be more involved than her. I only check off on big things, BOG vs CRT, approving split stays, etc.

 

[abja09]

My DH has no desire to go to Disney. He came with me 2 years ago and never again. His constant negative comments about Disney ruined my trip. My DS12 shares my love of Disney so I go with him. When we were there in September I bought DVC on my own (so excited!) and will leave it to my son.

 

[ustasmom]

The selling point of buying DVC was that my husband did not have to go. He loves the deal that he struck.

 

[Buzzsgramma]

The same way I deal with his LOVE...of ...GOLF !!!!!!!!

"But if we go to Disney you and Dan (son in law)
can golf"

 

[RachaelA]

My husband has accepted my Disney obsession and has grown to really like it as well (I wouldn't say he loves it though).

 

[xipetotec]

ok so here a bit of my back story and why i am asking this question.....DVCer since 2011 2 years before i met my wife. she had a few trips has a kid but nothing as an adult i would say she likes Disney but does not LOVE it. I love it i collect pins vinyals listen to podcast and read a lot about it. i am pretty active on the boards i don't feel like i am 100% on the disney-aid but i would say 75% (lol). so i would say its my main non family interest/hobby. in 2015 we had some time share calendar issues with points and we went aug, then September and then got an amazing gift of 3 days in dec. so a total of 15 days in disney in 4 months....i know it was a lot for a non disney lover.....so looks like burn-out will cause me to miss 2016 and i am ok with that......

So i just wanted to hear from others on how they deal with their spouses and trips to dinsey......

I think she decided that she couldn't beat it, so she joined it. Now I often come upstairs from my office to find her on youtube watching park videos, or disney food blogs or whatever.

 

[goofy4tink]

My first trip was back in '99. It was 'supposed' to be that trip of a lifetime...my dd (5), my mom, and I. DH opted out....said the ladies should go. Ok. 18 months later, we traveled down again, with another family. DH still wasn't all that excited about WDW. But, he did say that we should probably take a trip, just the three of us, vs going with others. So, we did....in '03. Stayed at the Polynesian. While there, we checked out the BW area.....as he stood along the railing, waiting for a boat, he said that if he could buy that vacation thingie at BW, he would be all in!!! The next day was our last day, dd and I headed to MK for a few hours, dh went back to the Polynesian after breakfast to get bags situated. When we were on the way back to the airport, he told me that he had given our phone number to the DVC person....2 months later we owned at BW.
BUT...he still isn't crazy about WDW/DL. He goes every two years or so. And he is ridiculously good about my trips throughout the year. We had added small contracts at BWV and BLT, and I spend almost 3 weeks a year at WDW. He just rolls his eyes and says "Fine, go back again. Just don't ask me to go.''

We are taking our dd to DL in May. That's a college graduation gift. But only staying for 4 nights...that's his limit!! On either coast!!! As long as I provide some good restaurants for him, he will go down every 18-24 months, for 4 or 5 days. And he gets to work in the morning, from the room!!! We meet up around lunch-time somewhere. It's a win/win.

 

[moericus]

She plans and plans and plans... Fast Pass+, Dining Reservations, optimal park crowds, fastest transportation, etc...

I live dangerously and throw wrenches into her plans all the time. But she knows whatever my spontaneous idea is will be fun because it's DISNEY!

 

[NoleFan]

My DH has no desire to go to Disney. He came with me 2 years ago and never again. His constant negative comments about Disney ruined my trip. My DS12 shares my love of Disney so I go with him. When we were there in September I bought DVC on my own (so excited!) and will leave it to my son.

pretty much my situation as well.

 

[bnk1120]

My husband's first time at WDW was for our honeymoon. He didn't really like it. We went back 8 years later with our daughter and he became a fan. We eventually bought DVC. Now he's ok with going once a year or less. I usually go 3-4 times a year. Most times are without him. It works out well for us. He has his hobbies and I have mine!