SO - did you/would you get a pre-nup?

[Marchand63]

LOL. We got married in 1982. The Maverick was sold 6 months after we got married for $750. The Pinto was sold 8 years after we got married for $900.

My last lawyer encounter was when I sold my mom's house 4 years ago. It was in a trust. The trust was 3 paragraphs long, half a sheet of paper. The Escrow officer panicked. We were an hour from closing escrow. Said we might have a problem, he's never seen a trust that wasn't dozens of pages or more. He faxed it to their lawyer. He called, and the escrow officer put him on speaker phone. He laughed. Hadn't seen one in years ( my mom had it drawn up in 1975 when I turned 18). He knew exactly what it was. The County Recorder's offices across the nation use to hand those out for free. Fill it out, get it notarized, you had a trust. A fully legal trust that met all legal standards. A trust a lawyer would charge $1,000 for. The escrow officer asked why they stopped handing them out. The lawyer said..."because the lawyers complained the recorders offices were illegally competing with lawyers". So have I guess I am a pragmatist towards lawyers.

Lol I know exactly what you're talking about. The last time I had interaction with a lawyer was yesterday. But then again my father was a lawyer & inherited his interest in the firm.

 

[Darcy03231]

We didn't because we were starting the marriage on equal footing, neither one of us had much of anything.

If something were to happen to DH and I decided to remarry I would definitely get one.

 

[design_mom]

We did not have a prenup. We were both young graduates with similar assets. I don't think I know anyone who has a prenup (or if they do, I haven't heard about it.)

I imagine that, at 24, I would have been very hurt if someone asked me to sign a prenup. If there was a "good reason" like heirloom property, a family business, or children in the mix, I might have considered it. But at 24, I'm really not sure. I might have just been offended. Now I would understand more.

If I was getting married again, I would want to be sure my children were protected. I think I would be more understanding of someone else wanting to do the same. I honestly don't now very much about prenups and if they would be the best way to do what I'd want to do, but I would at least be investigating.

 

[AuntieMe3]

No, we were 21 and 23 when we got married and had nothing between the two is us. He was in the military and I still lived at home.

 

[Skywalker]

I remember when we were young and first got engaged, my future father-in-law was insistent on me signing a pre-nup since my fiance was set to come into a VERY LARGE inheritance...I refused to sign it and my husband didn't hesitate to marry me anyway. We have now been married for 22 years and that VERY LARGE inheritance never did and never will materialize (the relative in question left the money to someone else in the end) lol but I will always appreciate my husband's faith in me.

 

[knkmom]

No, we were 23 and 25 when we married 32 years ago. We started out with very little and a pre-nup was never something we even thought about.

 

[mel&me]

Just to clarify, do you feel you made a mistake not getting one the first time? Or, have circumstances changed such that one is now warranted while it was not previously?

No, circumstances changed, When you get married you think its permanent. I'm a little older, little wiser and know now that's not the case.
I have much more at stake now than I did then. And too old to start from scratch again.

 

[Disney Doll]

Didn’t get one when I got married because I had about $ 10,000 in the bank and a Toyota Corolla.

If something happened to DH, I can’t picture getting married again. Based on what I’ve seen, I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be able to find another man of his caliber these days, and I don’t suffer fools very well now that I’m into my middle age years.

DH and I don’t have children but if we did, I could see the importance of doing some sort of estate planning to insure that OUR children would inherit something of what we worked for during our marriage. Probably more of a trust fund situation or some appropriate legal vehicle that couldn’t be negated by 2nd marriage or whatever rather than a pre-nup though. Not that I’d want to leave DH destitute or bind him into never remarrying, but if we had been able to have children together, I would want our children to get their fair share of the fruits of our labor from when we were a family.

 

[lilia78]

We had a prenup signed when we got married. I was 18 and he was 24. I had nothing. He owned a 5 bedroom, 2000 square foot home and 5 1/4 sections of land, about 3200 arches of land and 250 cattle. If we divorce I would be entitled to 1/2 of the 1/4 section with the house due to homesteaders rights. Anything he had before that other than the house would remain his, but any land, cows or improvements we make or purchase since our marriage started would be split 50/50. Our prenup as states that anything that we inherit would we ours alone. My family is weathy and I stand to receive a large portion in cash and shares when the time comes. My husband’s family has quite a bit of land that will be shared amounts the kids when the time comes. We both agreed to this when we married. We’ve been together for 24 years and married for 22 this summer. No chance or divorce on the horizon or at anytime. But we are both protected if it happens.

So a bit different than the we married young we had nothing. We did marry young and are both fairly young 39 & 45 now but there are/were present & future assets to protect. We’ve talked about revoking the prenup now that we’ve been married so long but we haven’t done it as of yet.

 

[low-key]

pernups are wrong, that's part of the deal, ugly, old people could get sexy young people cause they have money ( these rich people cant think there doing this cause they have game) so the sexy people end up with money, and the rich people end up with sexy people, its a fair trade

 

[CayBoo]

Nope! My husband and I got married young and are still very young. That was never something we even considered. We're stuck with each other for life haha.

 

[powellrj]

Didn’t have anything 40 years ago when we got married and still don’t have much. The kids are grown, so that only leaves the dog to fight over and she is in my name, so no worries there.

 

[RangerPooh]

No prenup. We were 24 and 26 and didn't have anything but student loan debt. I think only one friend of mine signed one, and it wasn't because either had loads of money or assets, but because his family insisted that she sign one as they preferred his ex girlfriend over her.