So aggravated.. UGH!!!

[Principessa1284]

I really just need to vent.. I am just besides myself right now, I really don't know what to say. We were supposed to have DBF's nephews (2 and 3) this weekend and take them to the parks Tomorrow and sunday. (We live about a half hour from DW). DBF's sister is not just flaky, she's a bonifed moron who had the kids when she was a teenagers and really, really has no business being a mother in the first place. Long story short, the father is in jail for beating her while she was pregnant with their youngest child (well he was in jail for beating her when she was pregnant with the first, but he got out and she immediately took him back). Now she lives with a kids and her girlfriend 3 hours away. But I digress.

So he talked to her last week to make sure she was all set, to find out if they were bringing them Thursday night or Friday. She said Friday, since she had to work Thursday night. At first we even offered to come and get them, but she said wanted to come down to Orlando to visit with some friends for the weekend, so it would all work out well. Now he only has 4 vacation days a year (and really works his behind off at work) but he took 2 so he'd have a 4-day weekend to spend with his nephews because he never, ever sees them and he really just loves them to pieces. Last night he finally got someone to pick up the phone, his sister's girlfriend answered and said his sister was at work and she'd have to call him after 10 because they were out of minutes. She never called so he tried like crazy this morning, and FINALLY he gets a hold of her. He asks if they're on their way, and she says "oh, we're not coming. I have to work this weekend. Can you take them next weekend?" Seriously? Is she serious? I wanted to rip the phone out of his hand and tear her a new one. So now not only does he have 2 of his vacation days wasted, I'm missing work for nothing too. And I can take vacation days, but I don't get paid days off yet.

I'm seriously just livid. They have no respect for other people's time, and not only are they both morons, but they're not raising the kids right either. They feed them (frozen pizza and fruit punch is all I've ever seen them eat) and clothe them, but that's about it. We even bought 2 strollers and a bunch of stuff to have for the parks for the boys. I'm angry as it is, but he's just so upset which makes me even angrier. ugh.

 

[K and K's Mommy]

Can you guys just go get the kids and say, "Sorry, we don't have next weekend off."

Sorry you guys are going through this. Sounds like the boys could use some fun and structure!

 

[stsomewhere]

I would tell her that you will be coming to pick them up and take them this weekend. You had to make special arrangemnets at work and next weekend will not work.

Good Luck

 

[DISNEYNV]

Yes, just tell her the truth that you and DBF already took vacation time to spend with the boys and it is really important to you to take them THIS weekend! You will save her gas and are coming to get them for the weekend. If she has to work anyway why would she mind?

 

[trayletha]

Go get them!

 

[Principessa1284]

We would love to go and get them! That was the original plan. When he was talking to his sister on the phone, she practically hung up on him and said they have no minutes on the phone and that she couldn't talk. He tried calling their house phone (which they can't call out long distance on) but no one is answering, so they may be avoiding him at this point because they know he's upset.

Actually.. her girlfriend has some sort of wits about her and just called DBF back and said that it *should* be ok if we come and get the kids tomorrow morning, but we'll have to check with sis later when she gets off of work. She also said that the father is out of jail and filed to get partial custody, and they actually gave him unsupervised visitation rights and he doesn't have to pay child support. She can take him back to court to contest it, but it'll cost several thousand dollars just to get a lawyer and she can barely pay for food for her and the kids. Fantastic.

 

[churchpilot]

God bless you both for loving these little boys...sounds like someone needs to.

 

[DISNEYNV]

I feel for those little boys. What a shame to have to go through that and not have a stable home. Now the father is getting involved and not helping to pay for child support.

I hope you get them for the weekend and they get to be kids and go have fun at Disney World! Best wishes