Snowflake question

[palmtreelover08]

Until yesterday, I thought a snowflake was something that formed in the atmosphere and fell to the ground. After reading some of the posts w/"snowflake" in the title, it seems that this term is for spoiled or just plain old rotten kids. Am I correct? Is this "snowflake" term stictly a Dis-board thing, or am I just living in a cave?

As I was pondering this "snowflake" term last night (too excited about leaving Friday for WDW to sleep!), I was wondering who came up w/this term. I think each kid to their parent would be a snowflake-a beautiful, unique individual. Is the term because snowflakes are delicate and need to be handled w/care so they don't have a meltdown?

 

[hereyago]

I have heard the term out of the Dis. But yes, the snowflake is so fragile and precious, so gently handled with care before they combust.

Have a great trip to WDW on Friday!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Until yesterday, I thought a snowflake was something that formed in the atmosphere and fell to the ground. After reading some of the posts w/"snowflake" in the title, it seems that this term is for spoiled or just plain old rotten kids. Am I correct? Is this "snowflake" term stictly a Dis-board thing, or am I just living in a cave?

As I was pondering this "snowflake" term last night (too excited about leaving Friday for WDW to sleep!), I was wondering who came up w/this term. I think each kid to their parent would be a snowflake-a beautiful, unique individual. Is the term because snowflakes are delicate and need to be handled w/care so they don't have a meltdown?

I never heard the term as it is used on these boards, anywhere but here. I don't use it. To each their own.

 

[Kath2003]

Of course every individual is special and unique. But so is everyone else

Snowflake means that they are delicate, precious and cannot be treated the same as everyone else - special provision must always be made so that Snowflake's feelings are never hurt. Typically it is the parent who designates their child as a Snowflake but what child wouldn't want to be one?

It seems to be an American term; I've never heard it used in the UK.

 

[NHdisneylover]

You have correctly figured out what snowflake means as far as spoiled, delicate ad handle with care, etc. It also means that to the parent their child is like a snowflake (beautiful, unique, etc) but other kids are not--the other kids are just a bunch of raindrops or something

The term gets used a LOT on the DIS but I have heard and read it other places as well.

 

[palmtreelover08]

ok.. thanks for the clarification. I didn't want to mention it outside the Dis boards if it were strictly a Dis thing, and have people look at me like I have two heads. You learn something new everyday.. Guess I can go to bed now

Thanks for the well wishes on the trip. I am way excited!

 

[okeydokey]

Of course every individual is special and unique. But so is everyone else

Snowflake means that they are delicate, precious and cannot be treated the same as everyone else - special provision must always be made so that Snowflake's feelings are never hurt. Typically it is the parent who designates their child as a Snowflake but what child wouldn't want to be one?

It seems to be an American term; I've never heard it used in the UK.

This defines it very well. Only your own kid should be treated like the snowflake they are, other kids don't qualify because is no more special than your child.

 

[palmtreelover08]

This defines it very well. Only your own kid should be treated like the snowflake they are, other kids don't qualify because is no more special than your child.

I thought I understood. Now, I think I am confused. To me, no one is more special to me than my child (with the rest of my family all running a very close second). Shouldn't your child be the most special to "you?"

I get the whole--don't treat them like a princess all the time, or they might actually begin to believe they are one, and don't spoil your kids, and don't let your kids control you or the situation.. I get it. But shouldn't your child be more special to you than other people's special children. (Note.. I am not saying to treat other children badly, just that it would be natural, I think, to view your child as the most special?



I think I am just going to avoid this term and stick w/spoiled rotten brat where it fits in a conversation

 

[NHdisneylover]

I thought I understood. Now, I think I am confused. To me, no one is more special to me than my child (with the rest of my family all running a very close second). Shouldn't your child be the most special to "you?"

I get the whole--don't treat them like a princess all the time, or they might actually begin to believe they are one, and don't spoil your kids, and don't let your kids control you or the situation.. I get it. But shouldn't your child be more special to you than other people's special children. (Note.. I am not saying to treat other children badly, just that it would be natural, I think, to view your child as the most special?



I think I am just going to avoid this term and stick w/spoiled rotten brat where it fits in a conversation

If your child is a snowflake you believe s/he should be seen as better and more special than all other children by other people as well. Your child should not have to wait in line to see Cinderella because she is obviously more special than the other kids, your child should not have to be quiet in the restaurant because she is obviously so adorable that everyone should just want to watch her and enjoy her presence and the sound of her precious voice as she creams, your child is so delicate that failing the test she did not study for would devastate her so SHE should get a C just for showing up and an A if she gets a few questions right, but of course it is okay if the others fail. . .

 

[Kath2003]

Being a Snowflake means that your wants and needs (or your Snowflake child's wants and needs) surpass everyone else's.

It's not about being special to a parent - all children are. It's about thinking that your Snowflake child deserves special entitlement from EVERYONE around them because they are so unique and special, and trying to enforce it.

Most parents do the right thing: they love their children to death and show them this every day at home and through teaching them how to deal with life - the good side and the bad parts. Snowflake's parents love their children from death and refuse to allow them to live in reality by pandering to their every whim on the notion that their child is too unique to be treated the same as other children. These parents have always existed, I imagine, but now there's a name for them

Like I've said, it's an American notion, I've never heard it here. This is just my understanding based on what I've read on the DIS!!

 

[MnMomtoboys]

Being a Snowflake means that your wants and needs (or your Snowflake child's wants and needs) surpass everyone else's.

It's not about being special to a parent - all children are. It's about thinking that your Snowflake child deserves special entitlement from EVERYONE around them because they are so unique and special, and trying to enforce it.

Most parents do the right thing: they love their children to death and show them this every day at home and through teaching them how to deal with life - the good side and the bad parts. Snowflake's parents love their children from death and refuse to allow them to live in reality by pandering to their every whim on the notion that their child is too unique to be treated the same as other children. These parents have always existed, I imagine, but now there's a name for them

Like I've said, it's an American notion, I've never heard it here. This is just my understanding based on what I've read on the DIS!!

I agree with Kath. People go to extremes these days with their kids. I tell my boys constantly that I'm not raising snowflakes. I'm raising heavy rocks and proud of it!!

 

[lovesmurfs]

Urban dictionary definitions: http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=special snowflake

 

[Donaldswife]

It is used in other places as well. My favorite is the line from Fight Club:

"You are not a unique and special snowflake, you are the same decaying organic matter as everyone else" or something like that. There are a LOT of times I feel like saying that to people.

 

[palmtreelover08]

Being a Snowflake means that your wants and needs (or your Snowflake child's wants and needs) surpass everyone else's.

It's not about being special to a parent - all children are. It's about thinking that your Snowflake child deserves special entitlement from EVERYONE around them because they are so unique and special, and trying to enforce it.

Most parents do the right thing: they love their children to death and show them this every day at home and through teaching them how to deal with life - the good side and the bad parts. Snowflake's parents love their children from death and refuse to allow them to live in reality by pandering to their every whim on the notion that their child is too unique to be treated the same as other children. These parents have always existed, I imagine, but now there's a name for them

Like I've said, it's an American notion, I've never heard it here. This is just my understanding based on what I've read on the DIS!!

ah ha.. I've got it for sure now.. It is ok for you to think your child is a special little snowflake, as long as you realize that when in a group of other snowflakes, they (your child ) becomes just one of the snowflake crowd and are no more deserving of anything that all the other people's snowflakes and need to be respectul and behave just like all the other snowflakes need to. When a parent of a snowflake think their child is more deserving, or needs special understanding, because they believe their snowflake is an exceptional snowflake, then the parent in turn is just a flake, and they end up w/a spoiled rotten, ill behaved child. I officially get it.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I agree with Kath. People go to extremes these days with their kids. I tell my boys constantly that I'm not raising snowflakes. I'm raising heavy rocks and proud of it!!

Funny thing I almost did earlier this week.

We're headed to Disney today and staying at DVC. Before heading out I was going to make DD a birthday cake and we'll frost it in the room.

Anyway--we're at Walmart and I let DD pick the cake mix. She chose lemon cake and lemon frosting. My other DD balks b/c she doesn't like lemon flavored anything. I did ask the oldest (While kicking myself for doing so as I remember the snowflake stories on the Dis), if there happened to be any other flavor that would do so that her sister could have some. At first she said no, but then decided to try a compromise and switch out either the cake or the frosting, but that wouldn't work for sister.

I quickly came to my senses (I have no issues with lemon ) and told my youngest to suck it up and let the birthday girl pick as per tradition.

We baked the cake this morning and Snowy....errr...dd7 licked the beater and I'm like...wth? She said he batter is fine but not the cake. Alrighty then.

 

[minniecarousel]

I work at a High School and a teacher was complaining about a parent and I used this term, about their (that parents') special snowflake. He'd never heard it before and laughed. (this was out of earshot of anyone else.)

 

[JerseyJanice]

IMO, it's an internet myth. Kind of like identity theft and being rushed at Disney restaurants--I read about it on-line, but it's something I never encounter in real life.

 

[Kath2003]

IMO, it's an internet myth. Kind of like identity theft and being rushed at Disney restaurants--I read about it on-line, but it's something I never encounter in real life.

Agreed.

 

[NotUrsula]

IMO, it's an internet myth. Kind of like identity theft and being rushed at Disney restaurants--I read about it on-line, but it's something I never encounter in real life.

Take it from me, that's one "mythical" problem that should pray you never have to encounter in real life. Our HR office was hacked 3 years ago and the perpetrators opened about 80 cc acounts with the information. I'm still dealing with the fallout of what they did to my credit score.

 

[Disney Doll]

Funny thing I almost did earlier this week.

We're headed to Disney today and staying at DVC. Before heading out I was going to make DD a birthday cake and we'll frost it in the room.

Anyway--we're at Walmart and I let DD pick the cake mix. She chose lemon cake and lemon frosting. My other DD balks b/c she doesn't like lemon flavored anything. I did ask the oldest (While kicking myself for doing so as I remember the snowflake stories on the Dis), if there happened to be any other flavor that would do so that her sister could have some. At first she said no, but then decided to try a compromise and switch out either the cake or the frosting, but that wouldn't work for sister.

I quickly came to my senses (I have no issues with lemon ) and told my youngest to suck it up and let the birthday girl pick as per tradition.

We baked the cake this morning and Snowy....errr...dd7 licked the beater and I'm like...wth? She said he batter is fine but not the cake. Alrighty then.

NOw being the mean auntie that I am, later when everyone else is enjoying the cake, I'd be telling Snowy that you are all glad she doesn't like lemon cake because it means there's more for the rest of you.

See why God didn't give me children?