Sneaky, Lying, Manipulative People -- Do they ever get their comeuppance?

[themilesfamily]

I have heard one too many stories recently about manipulative, lying people getting their way or not getting any comeuppance for hurting others. Can someone give me some hope that there is some justice in the universe?

 

[Mrs Banks]

I am sorry I have no advice but I really would like to hear everyones comments. I have one of THOSE in my family who is driving me nuts.

 

[mom2aredhead]

There's hope. It's called Karma.

 

[Donnie Joe Diser]

There's hope. It's called Karma.

I have a cousin named Karma. She is not so nice.

 

[Cinders Mum]

I live in hope, I live in hope!!

 

[rgf207]

Everyone will eventually get what's coming to them. Karma will come around. I have seen it first hand. Sometimes you will not see it but it will happen.

BTW I work for the gov't and I think that it's a requirement for some gov't positions to be that way.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

They get their karma, when someone calls them on their BS. Have to stand up to them.

Like the other day....My DH saw a lady about a house for sale. It was a spec house.
We had sent our realtor there first to find out why it was priced so high.
Of course they could not map it out, we which knew already.

So dh goes in to see the house days later and the rep starts into him on the price of the house. Mind you, she is not the negotiator. Just the person that is supposed to show the house and try and sell it.

He stated he did not to talk price, just see the house. Of course she lays into him. (Um... this is supposed to be the salesperson for selling the house? )

So anyway DH rents our apartment, lo and behold they discuss this lady. She must be a bad penny.

So he calls the boss and explains what happened. She may not get her karma right now, but I guarantee you that her boss is going to be keeping his eye on her. She is not selling homes.
Yes the market is slow....however she is awful at her job and rude to the max.

 

[PrincessMom2002]

Everyone will eventually get what's coming to them. Karma will come around. I have seen it first hand. Sometimes you will not see it but it will happen.

BTW I work for the gov't and I think that it's a requirement for some gov't positions to be that way.

This is a personal belief of mine. What goes around does eventually come around. It's always nice to see it happen, but that's not always the case. Some people seem to think that their payback will never come, but eventually it will.

 

[Carly_Roach]

It has been my experience that those kinds of people usually get their comeuppance if you leave them be and wait. However, if you take it upon yourself to try to punish your neighbor, BIL or co-worker in some way because they were doing something that you didn't approve of, then the karma baton will be passed from their heads. Someone human tried to "make it happen" (so to speak) so the Gods seem to give that person a pass.

I don't know why this is true, but that's how it seems to work.

The best way to handle those kinds of people, be it co-worker, family member or neighbor, is to just let them be. Karma comes back in ways you'd never have dreamed of. There's the health issue, too: living with anger or hatred is just another way of letting those kinds of people make your life miserable.

I hope you can release whatever it is someone did to you and move past revenge, anger and wanting to see someone get their comeuppance. Speaking from experience, the best revenge is to live well.

 

[suzimar57]

sure hope they do - both my father and ex husband have it coming....

 

[Cool-Beans]

I don't think so. I mean, I don't think there is a hard and fast rule about it. Some probably do, others don't.

 

[minkydog]

It happened to my dad. All my life may dad was cruel & manipulative. He loved nothing more than to put other people down, make them feel stupid, and he was sure to let everyone know how brilliant he was. He had an IQ of 165, but he was horrible to his wife and children. I shed myself of him when I was about 18.

Fast forward 30 years--Dad got cancer, a rare, fast moving form of lung cancer caused by inhaling asbestos fibers(mesothelioma.) It took him down fast, but not fast enough. The cancer took away his ability to breathe easily, sleep at night, eat his favorite foods, watch his favorite shows, shave & and bathe himself, and even control his bowels. But it didn't affect his brain.

Nope. He was fully aware to the bitter end that he was losing everything. He had loooong hours to spend in his own thoughts,fully dependent, fully realizing what a wasted life he had lead. Fully realizing that the children he had treated so badly & put aside so long ago now wanted nothing to do with him. Only 2 of the 5 of us would even come to the hospital to help him die(my next sister and I).

THATs some comeuppance. It didn't make me happy and it was one of the most difficult things I've ever gone through. In the last couple weeks Dad was able to ask forgiveness and some of us were able to grant it. But it was too little too late. Thirty years wasted can never be regained.

Karma.

 

[Kimickey]

My ex husband is one of the individuals we are speaking about. To put it mildly he's just a plain ole jack butt. Our marriage ended because he was sneaky, lying and manipulative plus very arguementative to boot.

He get our children every other weekend, well this weekend is his weekend. Its also mothers day weekend and my family from New York (my 88 year old grandmother included) will be here to visit as well as a host of other family members and many of them are staying at my house.

He refuses to switch weekends with me because "it's his weekend and my family visiting has nothing to do with him". There will be 4 generations here and to me I just value life and people to the fullest. It would have been my dd, me, my mother and my mothers mother. It doesnt phase him one bit.

There just comes a time in life where you get tired of begging and wishing people will see things outside of their own rosey glasses.

I say all of this to say, that karma does come back and usually it's two fold or even worst. People get back what they dish out!

 

[Camicar]

No, they usually get away with it.

My MIL was a manipulative, horrible person. She got away with it right up to her death. She actually got up off of her death bed to keep her husband from finding out some of the stuff she had done. She died and he set up a shrine to her in their dining room.

My former boss was a manipulative horrible person who did his best to ruin my life bec he was afraid I knew he was using crystal meth. (I didn't.) He recently got a promotion and is living a deluxe life and everyone thinks he walks on water. He successully avoided the drug issue by implicating someone else (a poor woman who thought the world of him and to this day still doesn't understand how this 'misunderstanding' occurred.) And the kicker -- he's a priest.

 

[Kae]

I believe it if doesn't happen before it will in the last moments-it will.

Kae

 

[DixieDolphin]

From my own experiences with manipulative b-----ds... well... they're no more likely to 'have it coming' than anybody else. Some hit the wall, some sail right on by. Just like plenty of good people hit the wall, and plenty of good people sail right by. The only difference is that sneaky jerks spend more time digging traps for themselves, but there's no guarantee that they'll fall in.

The trick is (and I'm still trying to apply this to one particularly bad scar on my life) to not worry about it. Cut the offending person out of your life and forget about them. Don't think about them at all... whether good or bad... and eventually they cease to be a part of your universe.

Besides, by continuing to fret about them... you're continuing to allow them to manipulate you. I've been there... oh, have I been there. Don't give them free rent on space in your mind.

It ain't easy to drive them off, but it's better than sitting at home hoping that somebody gets hoisted by their own petard.

Just my thoughts, take them as they are.

 

[Stacerita]

What goes around comes around and kicks you in the butt!

 

[SleepyMom]

He get our children every other weekend, well this weekend is his weekend. Its also mothers day weekend and my family from New York (my 88 year old grandmother included) will be here to visit as well as a host of other family members and many of them are staying at my house.

He refuses to switch weekends with me because "it's his weekend and my family visiting has nothing to do with him". There will be 4 generations here and to me I just value life and people to the fullest. It would have been my dd, me, my mother and my mothers mother. It doesnt phase him one bit.

If you stick to the every other weekend, that means Father's Day weekend will be yours this year, maybe he will switch with you knowing that.

I know how you feel though, my ex was always pulling stunts and to this day continues to get away with stuff like that. I just keep telling myself "someday".

 

[SC Minnie]

Dh's former boss got hers. She hated DH and finally fired him last Sept after 13 years with the company (she actually had someone else do the dirty work ). He was the controller for their small privately owned company. The girl they hired a year earlier to be his replacement had been on maternity leave for half the time. They gave her his job when he left. She had no clue what he did. She ended up sending a scathing resignation email to the owner of the co (DH's former boss) and the CFO in Feb on a Monday mroning and didn't come in to work. This was 2 weeks before they had their annual audit for the banks in order to keep their loans. One of DH's friends that still works there told him that the books hadn't been closed on any months since he left and subsequently the accounting year had not been closed. I don't know what came out of the audit but if they failed the audit it was written in the banks note that the loan could be called. This company's sales have also plumeted in the last 6 months.

Dh wasn't the only employee they treated like crap.

 

[NMAmy]

If you stick to the every other weekend, that means Father's Day weekend will be yours this year, maybe he will switch with you knowing that.

I know how you feel though, my ex was always pulling stunts and to this day continues to get away with stuff like that. I just keep telling myself "someday".

Another ex-wife here. I did the same thing you did and checked to see if Kimickey would have her kids on Father's Day. There you go, Kimickey, a little karma coming right up for you.