Slacker Moms Unite!

[dawn1620]

Yes I let my kid have chips for dinner last night because I again forgot to do the grocery shopping. Sorry after working eight hours all I could think of was getting home.

I have let my kid watch four straight hours of TV just so I could have some quiet time to finally read my book.

I quit micromanaging DD's homework so now she actually has to *gasp* take responsibilility for her own work and make sure it's complete. No more nagging, threatening, reading over every last letter and number to make sure it's correct. If she needs help I'm always here but only if she asks.

And yes - she will not be receiving her reading certificate at the end of the year because she did not complete the required reading which up until Christmas I was constantly nagging her to do. And no, not receiving it will not kill her. But hopefully will make her realize there are consequences when you don't finish work.

And DH I'm sorry you don't have clean underwear this morning - actually I really don't care.

 

[threecrazykids]

I am SOOO in this club. Last night my son asked if he could go to our creek to fish when he had about 15 mins until we went to religion. I told him he wouldn't have time because it would take him 5 mins to walk there and another 5 to walk back which leaves him less than 5 mins to fish. "HUH UH!!--no I won't" Is what I get in response. I said "ok fine, but keep in mind Wed is my night to not have to cook (they feed them at religion classes) so if you are not back here in 15 mins when it's time to leave you will be finding something on your own, and I'm not taking you late!"

Sure enough...45 mins later he comes strolling in the house (with his sister in tow) and says "Mom, I washed my hands, I'm ready to go to religion". I said..."sorry dude, you're 30 mins past when you needed to be here." He FLIPPED OUT. "How was IIIIIII suppose to know how long it had been? Now I have to make my OWN dinner because you didn't come get me!" All the while his sister is bawling and saying "Great...now YOU made us miss religion (to her brother, not me) and I'm gonna have to make CEREAL or PB&J cuz YOUUUUU won't make anything for me even though YOU made us miss it".

I just sat there with a smile and said "next time I tell you that you don't have time to do something I HIGHLY suggest you listen".

They made their own dinner while I sat down on my one night off and enjoyed some crappy TV shows...LOL

 

[iwrbnd]

I am SOOO in this club. Last night my son asked if he could go to our creek to fish when he had about 15 mins until we went to religion. I told him he wouldn't have time because it would take him 5 mins to walk there and another 5 to walk back which leaves him less than 5 mins to fish. "HUH UH!!--no I won't" Is what I get in response. I said "ok fine, but keep in mind Wed is my night to not have to cook (they feed them at religion classes) so if you are not back here in 15 mins when it's time to leave you will be finding something on your own, and I'm not taking you late!"

Sure enough...45 mins later he comes strolling in the house (with his sister in tow) and says "Mom, I washed my hands, I'm ready to go to religion". I said..."sorry dude, you're 30 mins past when you needed to be here." He FLIPPED OUT. "How was IIIIIII suppose to know how long it had been? Now I have to make my OWN dinner because you didn't come get me!" All the while his sister is bawling and saying "Great...now YOU made us miss religion (to her brother, not me) and I'm gonna have to make CEREAL or PB&J cuz YOUUUUU won't make anything for me even though YOU made us miss it".

I just sat there with a smile and said "next time I tell you that you don't have time to do something I HIGHLY suggest you listen".

They made their own dinner while I sat down on my one night off and enjoyed some crappy TV shows...LOL

Your story reminds me of when my son wanted to go fishing before a ballgame. I told him when he needed to be back and made sure he had a watch and I also told him I was not going to come find him. Well, he showed up late and completely freaked out! I calmly said when your uniform is on we'll go. I had to get to the point that I didn't care if he was benched for being late and once that happened he took over responsibility from there. This was a huge learning lesson for him. I also did this with water bottles at games. He would say "I'm thirsty. You forgot to make me a water bottle!" No, buddy, YOU forgot your water bottle! He remembers it now after being thirsty through some games! It's in my nature to take care of everybody and I had to make a conscience decision to not be a helicopter parent and it was the best decision I ever made!

As far as being a lazy parent? I never was until I found the disboards!

 

[Mickeypooh99]

And DH I'm sorry you don't have clean underwear this morning - actually I really don't care.

 

[Tinkmom75]

Yes I let my kid have chips for dinner last night because I again forgot to do the grocery shopping. Sorry after working eight hours all I could think of was getting home.

I have let my kid watch four straight hours of TV just so I could have some quiet time to finally read my book.

I quit micromanaging DD's homework so now she actually has to *gasp* take responsibilility for her own work and make sure it's complete. No more nagging, threatening, reading over every last letter and number to make sure it's correct. If she needs help I'm always here but only if she asks.

And yes - she will not be receiving her reading certificate at the end of the year because she did not complete the required reading which up until Christmas I was constantly nagging her to do. And no, not receiving it will not kill her. But hopefully will make her realize there are consequences when you don't finish work.

I am united with you! I am out of the home between work and driving time over 50 hours a week.

I did something similar with my DS now 11 when he was in fourth grade. He received a D in language arts because he didn't put the effort in and I stopped micromanaging. The light went on after that. Now he gets upset if he isn't on the all A honor roll and I don't hound him about it. He gets after me to check his grades online for him and it is his responsibility to get with the teacher if he is not satisfied with a grade or anything.

And DH I'm sorry you don't have clean underwear this morning - actually I really don't care.

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

So, you want your daughter to be more responsible, and you "forgot" to grocery shop? Maybe she needs a better example. Then you have 4 hours to read and you can't stick in a load of laundry or attend to your child. Frankly, I wouldn't be bragging.

Chips for dinner, not even order in, or eggs?

 

[dawn1620]

So, you want your daughter to be more responsible, and you "forgot" to grocery shop? Maybe she needs a better example. Then you have 4 hours to read and you can't stick in a load of laundry or attend to your child. Frankly, I wouldn't be bragging.

Chips for dinner, not even order in, or eggs?

Got that halo on straight?

This post was made in a joking manner.

Yes I forgot to grocery shop because I was running over details in my head from work for the next day's meeting and forgot to stop. She was hungry when she got home so she had some chips for snack and was not hungry later so I let it go.

The homework micromanaging is because she was becoming too dependent on me to make sure all her work was completed and she was becoming sloppy. I stepped back to let her take the reins for her own work responsibility.

The reading was not in the same night - that was weeks ago.

There are two adults in the house, he can make sure he has clean underwear.

Sheesh.

 

[All American]

I'm home sick in bed, so slacker doesn't even begin to describe me. Luckily, my sister is visiting from college for the week and picking up the slack while my husband is at work. She's been great with the baby (5-months-old) and our 5-year-old. I told my sister just let the 5-year-old do what she wants b/c it will make your day easier. She did and at some point our daughter learned that if you play in makeup and spill it on the toilet, dumping blue mouthwash on it won't help to clean the mess...at least she tried to clean it. This is, of course, after she spent the day watching movies downstairs and having free reign of my scrapbook supplies. Oh well, everything hurts too bad for me to care. I'll clean the mess when I am better. Until then, have fun kid!

 

[Tinkmom75]

So, you want your daughter to be more responsible, and you "forgot" to grocery shop? Maybe she needs a better example. Then you have 4 hours to read and you can't stick in a load of laundry or attend to your child. Frankly, I wouldn't be bragging.

Chips for dinner, not even order in, or eggs?

This is a fun lighthearted thread. No one here is asking for your judgement.

 

[Aisling]

I'm not a slacker mom, but I'm trying to become one!

If my kids don't have something green on their dinner plate, I feel guilty, so I'll put a few peas on the plate even though I know they won't eat it. When my kids were younger, if I missed reading to them one night, I felt guilty. On and on!

My goal is to be a happy, guilt-free slacker mom!

 

[ChristaDeVil]

Well, I'm in good company here! All hail the slacker moms!

 

[Mrs. Charming]

Huzzah!!

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Maybe the OP should modify her title to add: "Perfect moms need not apply."

Jeeze. It's getting so you can't have ANY fun on these boards anymore without someone who is perfect coming along and criticizing. Really, what is the point?

Anyway................



I am a Slacker Mom and I stand proud! I can't even begin to list all of my faults, but one I will confide in y'all is that once in a great while, if the kiddo has fallen asleep in his uniform, I will let him wear it again that day. It has to have no stains, and wrinkles can't be noticeable. Go ahead, flame away.

BTW, no one dies when this happens, I promise.

 

[PoppyGirl]

I will always remember my upline (direct sales company) telling me that her kids sometimes had breakfast cereal for dinner. And they LIVED. What freedom!

Most nights I cook a nice healthy dinner for my family (before the parenting Nazis show up and flame me) but sometimes I'm just too tired. It took a huge load of guilt off of me (after growing up in a home where my mom cooked 3 wholesome meals every single day of my life) to realize that I probably would have been ok if I had eaten chips for dinner occasionally.

The other day after school I took them out for ice cream and totally let them spoil their dinner....and...they LIVED!

 

[Mickeypooh99]

I let my kids (and myself) eat ice cream at 6:00 pm last Saturday. We then had hot dogs for dinner at 8:00 pm. At least we were on vacation!


Last year on spring break we had donuts for lunch one day.

 

[laracroft]

I love this thread! I feel guilty all the time because I don't make a 5 course meal or do my kids homework. I stay on my son's butt all the time to do his reading, this 9 weeks I am letting him have some responsibility. I do all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, accounting, shopping, and work full time. We can't be perfect all the time. My mom was a stay at home mom and I loved it and I think I am trying to do all that AND be a working mom. One time (GASP) my kids had Ramen Noodles for dinner.

 

[laracroft]

I let my kids (and myself) eat ice cream at 6:00 pm last Saturday. We then had hot dogs for dinner at 8:00 pm. At least we were on vacation!


Last year on spring break we had donuts for lunch one day.

Wow you are really really bad! LOL

 

[JimmyPicker]

I know this was meant as a lighthearted, fun thread.

And yes, I'm positive we have all done slacker things. Dust bunnies the size of a small dog? BTDT. Running late, no time for breakfast, so it's "Here kid, have this cupcake." Cupcake, muffin, what's the difference?

Not knowing your kid ran out of clean socks until you hear "Mooooo-oooom!" five minutes before it's time to leave and digging into the pile of socks without partners and giving them two mis-matched ones? I know I have.

 

[Erin1700]

I know this was meant as a lighthearted, fun thread.

And yes, I'm positive we have all done slacker things. Dust bunnies the size of a small dog? BTDT. Running late, no time for breakfast, so it's "Here kid, have this cupcake." Cupcake, muffin, what's the difference?

Not knowing your kid ran out of clean socks until you hear "Mooooo-oooom!" five minutes before it's time to leave and digging into the pile of socks without partners and giving them two mis-matched ones? I know I have.

I have most certainly sent my kid to school with 2 different clean socks b/c I didnt know she ran out of clean pairs!! Glad to hear I am not the only one!!

 

[endy]

My son 13, always has clean socks but he'll take pairs apart to wear different ones.
When he was 2 or 3 he'd have an ice cream cone for breakfast. He wouldn't eat other dairy so ice cream it was, I even dropped him off at daycare before it was finished.

We'll have pancakes or french toast for supper, I'm getting sick of cooking.

Cheerios make a good healthy meal, not just for breakfast.

And my dust bunnies that hide under the bed are likely bigger than our small dog.