Sister Vent: Enough

[eeyore kelly]

I have had it up to my eyeballs with my sister! I am furious. I was accused of not liking my niece, because I refuse to let her tattle on me! I am so sick of it.

I told my sister to get a life and a backbone. I also told her I was tired of her victim routine and to call me when she got over it. When she got mad, I told her, "In the famous words of Motley Crue, 'Don't Go Away Mad, Just Go Away'."

I know no other way of solving this except to break ties with my sister and her family. This happened about four hours ago and I am still steaming.

 

[MidNite]

I've broken ties with family members before. It was good for a while. We finally settled our difference but there's still a gap.

I hope things turn out well for you.

 

[PixieDust32]

Sorry.

 

[tiggersmom2]

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[PixieDust32]

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I'm sorry, but the Crue reference made me bust out laughing

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Siblings...can't live with them...move far away...hehehehehe. Sorry your sis is a pain.

 

[DVCCarrie]

I hope you can work things out with your sister. I told my brother and sister that I if we ever got into a huge arguement that we should battle it out and then move on. My family is full of this one is not talking to that one and it just makes me sad because if you cant count on your family then who can you count on?

 

[Marseeya]

"Don't Go Away Mad"

Anyway, sorry she's being such a pain. But that whole thing with the tattletale kids... she's going to find out the hard way that she's created a monster.

 

[rigs32]

if you cant count on your family then who can you count on?

Unfortunately, many people have close friends who are as supportive and caring as a family SHOULD be. Just because someone is blood related doesn't mean they are healthy to be around.

 

[Tantor]

Unfortunately, many people have close friends who are as supportive and caring as a family SHOULD be. Just because someone is blood related doesn't mean they are healthy to be around.

Well said and totally agree.

 

[diznygirl]

You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. This means you get stuck with these weird people that we HAVE to like as family - and then we find sane individuals we actually get along with that we really do like to spend most of our time with as friends.

I have a lot of supportive friends, and I live far away from my family - and I'm very happy with this arrangement!!!

 

[MELSMICE]

So sorry you're not getting a long with your sister right now. I hope it all works out.

One of my sisters is being a little "difficult" right now, so I just try to keep my mouth shut or avoid her until she settles down. I feel it's best to ride out her storm from the sidelines.

 

[eeyore kelly]

Thanks for the support. I am feeling better this morning after reading everyone's posts.

I just don't know what to tell my sister. We have hit an impasse. I refuse to be tattled on by her children, and she is adamant that my niece should be allowed to do what she wants.

 

[Rozzie]

I am going through the same thing. Because I do not want to spend every waking and breathing moment with my nephew, my SIL is telling the family I care nothing for him. My days off are precious to me, and I have a life of my own. I love seeing him, just not every day off I have. I found out yesterday they are expecting again, and it was a weird feeling, I was not even happy.

Families are very difficult. Hope things get better for you soon!

 

[eeyore kelly]

Families are very difficult. Hope things get better for you soon!

Same to you.

 

[momsgoofy]

eeyore kelly,

I'll gladly trade you sisters!

Mine is a 45 year old, certifiable lunatic! She's been permanently disabled because of her whacked out second husband, who pile drove her head to the ground in a 4 hours stand off with the police 4 years ago. Oh, and she took him back! Then she finally got up the nerve to kick him out last summer after he beat her, the dogs, and went to his hag of a stripper girlfriend. I thought she'd seen the light when he filed for divorce, she took the steps neccesary to follow through...until this summer...she took him back! All this after he threatened to put a bullet in her head, kill her two adult sons and the dogs, which she perceives as family, was told he was making meth (uh huh) and lost his job, was about to file bankrupt!! She told her DIL, they are working on his "anger issues" and that just because she's with him doesn't mean he has to have anything to do with her sons and grandchildren...the oldest son has refused to have anything to do with her now...doesn't need nor want that in his life or his children's life. Oh, and yeah, the lunatic part...okay, it's a real physcological diagnosis...she has disassociative identity disorder otherwise known as multiple personality.

Yeah, she's a winner! So, if ya wanna trade, I'd be happy to have a sister who only bellyaches about my not approving of a tattle telling child.

In all honesty, I do feel for you! And sometimes it's hard to distance yourself. I'd been the only one to help this sister out for the last year...convinced my dad (her step-father) to give her a couple grand for lawyer fees and to help her out so she wouldn't lose her home...hauled her around to numerous doctor appointments (some 2 hours away) and missed work so I could do this for her. I listened to her whining and complaining about the whacked husband and what an evil person he is when others would not. Now, she will not even call me or answer when I call her...been that way for almost 2 months now. So, I gave up! I can only do so much and if she's not willing to help herself then I can't even begin to try. If she's not willing to own up to her actions and accept the results (having no contact with her family) then I'm sorry, but you can only dip into the help well so long before it is dry and that is where I'm at...nothing more to give. I just pray that she stays safe and I don't get a call from a hospital or morgue telling me to come get her. (As far as I know, I'm still listed as her ICE number on all medical things.)

So, know that I empathize with you and your situation. It will probably come around and work itself out in time. Just hang in there!

(Sorry I think I hijacked this thread for a bit! Sorry! )

 

[Cindyluwho]

UMMMM, can I ask what you did that was so awful that your neice had to tattle on you?

 

[KEH]

she is adamant that my niece should be allowed to do what she wants.

Oh boy, is that child in for a rude shock later in life. I wonder is this allowing her to do whatever she wants going to extend to being violent? breaking the law? Just where do you draw the line if you don't draw it early on.

to you.

 

[mbw12]

Unfortunately, many people have close friends who are as supportive and caring as a family SHOULD be. Just because someone is blood related doesn't mean they are healthy to be around.

I totally agree with this statement!!!!!!!!!!!!