Singles Social Club: It's 5 o'clock somewhere!

[nurse.darcy]

Darcy, I think you misunderstood me. I don't mean guys who are looking at me.
I was talking about the guy who's already with me and having bad behavior. You know, some guys are too easily distracted. But I also recognize that, since xh cheated on me, I tend to be a little sensitive. Anyway, I hope this clears up my meaning.

I'm definitely not saying any of the guys on this board are like this. Just *some* men I have run across.

Oh, I understood. . .I just know that most guys are not like our XHs. I truly believe that and chose to change your meaning to make it more fun.

 

[TexasDisneyBelle]

Oh, I understood. . .I just know that most guys are not like our XHs. I truly believe that and chose to change your meaning to make it more fun.

Thanks for reminding me about the good guys.

Congrats on your new digs!

 

[MICKEY88]

What makes a woman seem approachable? I seem to struggle with looking approachable.

the Pirate costume works for me..

 

[DisneyMama629]

Don't keep looking at the door as if you are expecting someone.
Don't be afraid to make eye contact. Maybe even a head nod as if to say Hi.
If that doesn't get a responce, get up and purposly walk by on your way to the bathroom and give a friendly smile.
This is considered flirting.

This may not work for all guys as not all of us are created equal. Some of us don't get it right away and you have to hit us over the head with a frying pan.

Disclaimer: Haven't dated in over 12 years so may not have a clue how it works anymore.

Those sound good to me! I'll have to work on being more approachable. Does it matter if a woman is with a friend or two? Do guys get scared to come up to a group of women?

the Pirate costume works for me..

Maybe I'll wear it when I go out tonight!

 

[MICKEY88]

1. Talk to us, treat us with respect, tell us you miss us, don't be afraid to be emotional. We like this stuff. It keeps us around. Oh, and guys, don't be afraid to tell us (gently) when we are not being "the woman of your dreams". And never assume we will get physical with you just because you find us physically attractive.


2.Okay, if we act aloof and unapproachable it is because we have been burned many times and just get tired of trying to figure out if you really like us or not.

3.Oh I don't think she is vexed. I think it is more a venus v mars affect. You all would like a direct approach such as "Hey, I like you. . .I am interested in getting to know you better". . .we like "wow, you are beautiful and I would love to take you out to dinner". However. . .the line we like can also be interpreted by us as dang I would love to have my way with you. . .do I really have to buy dinner to do that? We women tend to be slightly complicated in that way. Its the wiring. . .

4.Okay frying pan guys. . .hear me out. Please do us the courtesy of at least TRYING to ask us out for a date. We might reject you, but if you don't ask, you will never know if we were interested or not. I know it would be easier if we hit you upside the head with a frying pan but our upbringing taught us that we arent supposed to ask guys out or be the aggressor in any relationship. . .we are the meek ones. Some of use get over this, but most of us still want a knight to come riding up on a white horse and sweep us off our feet. . .cause that is what we were "taught" should happen. . .

1. and then the woman dumps the guy for a badboy, because women want the edge of danger.

2. and men have been burned just as many times,


3..WOW, so wanting to get to know a woman is bad,, but taking her to dinner before knowing her is good ??

4.hogwash, you want to be modern women, want to be equals, yet you want to claim meekness and such...LOL if you want things the old fashioned way then you would be subserviant to men, is that really a good thing..

 

[MICKEY88]

Maybe I'll wear it when I go out tonight!

let me know how that works out.. oh and post pics...

 

[TekMickey]

Those sound good to me! I'll have to work on being more approachable.
Does it matter if a woman is with a friend or two? Do guys get scared to come up to a group of women?

Ok from a guys perspective you have to be careful not to bring your own competition. You might be looking at him but he might be looking at your friend. So be careful there and have a ladies agreement before you go out.

And yes, to some guys a group of women are a lioness pride just waiting to rip a man apart. Especially if one of them just broke up with their boyfriend due to cheating or other unknown reason and they are taking her out to make her feel better. That is when guys stand no chance at all.

 

[nurse.darcy]

1. and then the woman dumps the guy for a badboy, because women want the edge of danger.

2. and men have been burned just as many times,


3..WOW, so wanting to get to know a woman is bad,, but taking her to dinner before knowing her is good ??

4.hogwash, you want to be modern women, want to be equals, yet you want to claim meekness and such...LOL if you want things the old fashioned way then you would be subserviant to men, is that really a good thing..

hogwash. . .all I wanted is for you men not to be afraid of askng us out. Sometimes we might say no but there are those times that we actually say yes. . .

Ok from a guys perspective you have to be careful not to bring your own competition. You might be looking at him but he might be looking at your friend. So be careful there and have a ladies agreement before you go out.

And yes, to some guys a group of women are a lioness pride just waiting to rip a man apart. Especially if one of them just broke up with their boyfriend due to cheating or other unknown reason and they are taking her out to make her feel better. That is when guys stand no chance at all.

I don't normally hang with a large group. I don't want competition.

 

[DIS_MERI]

"Never go in against a Sicilian when death is on the line!" "Inconceivable!!!"
Bwahahahahaha!!!

I also *love* Princess Bride. I think I will have to watch that tonight

My DD was born in 2000 so 1998ish or so since the last time I have courted a lady.

My oldest was also born in 2000. I'm still not sure how those (almost) 11 years went by so quickly

Don't keep looking at the door as if you are expecting someone.

I'm not expecting someone, I'm checking to make sure my kids aren't escaping Same thing with the room scans during the conversation....making sure no one that belongs to me is doing something they shouldn't be. It doesn't matter if they're there or not, it is habit....


Had a great, but tiring, day so far. Good finds at the big yard sale I went to, community picnic was nice. I want to know, however, how I managed to become temporary custodian of 2 turtles and a dog on a kid-free weekend??? Ah well, Princess Bride will make it much better (and sure beats mopping the kitchen floor....)!

 

[TekMickey]

Oh and did I mention that ....

\/ \/ \/ \/ \/ \/ This bar is not moving fast enough and this number \/ is not going down very quickly either.

 

[MICKEY88]

hogwash. . .all I wanted is for you men not to be afraid of askng us out. Sometimes we might say no but there are those times that we actually say yes.

Most men don't like rejection anymore than women do, part of the problem especially for guys over 40 is that so many women are bitter and have negative opinions of men due to past experiences..they have preconcieved notions and sometimes hear something other than what we say

"However. . .the line we like can also be interpreted by us as dang I would love to have my way with you. . .do I really have to buy dinner to do that?"

 

[nurse.darcy]

Most men don't like rejection anymore than women do, part of the problem especially for guys over 40 is that so many women are bitter and have negative opinions of men due to past experiences..they have preconcieved notions and sometimes hear something other than what we say

"However. . .the line we like can also be interpreted by us as dang I would love to have my way with you. . .do I really have to buy dinner to do that?"

While I understand your answer, the truth is that women my age (its the same category you fall into) really prefer to have a man choose to call on us or ask us out. . .I still have issues trying to ask a man out, though I want to be able to. It just messes with my psych

 

[CoasterAddict]

Oh and did I mention that ....

\/ \/ \/ \/ \/ \/ This bar is not moving fast enough ....

If the bar is moving you probably had too much tequila.

 

[karice2]

I don't really ask men out but I do give them a chance to know that I am interested. I usually offer to do something really cool at some point and then don't mention it again. They know I am willing to do something with them but leave the ball in their court as to whether they want to ask me.

Example: I really like doing X, think you will love. We should try it sometime.

I never mention anything else about it. Works 8 times out of 10.

 

[Floydian]

I don't really ask men out but I do give them a chance to know that I am interested. I usually offer to do something really cool at some point and then don't mention it again. They know I am willing to do something with them but leave the ball in their court as to whether they want to ask me.

Example: I really like doing X, think you will love. We should try it sometime.

I never mention anything else about it. Works 8 times out of 10.

I like this approach. I'm not just gun-shy, I'm also dense, so every little bit helps.

So is anyone at WDW right this minute? I'm bored and not entirely sober, so I was thinking of heading to MK for Fireworks, Shows, Parades, Rides, etc. If you are here/there, I can meet you in about 30 minutes (that's the time from my front door to the turnstiles at MK, including the Monorail ride from parking).

Ok, so I really don't expect to meet anyone. I just want to rub it in how close I live.

 

[Floydian]

While looking through a previously unpacked box, I found a bottle of Drakkar Noir.

Southern Comfort, Vicodin, Metallica, and Drakkar Noir. Nothing good can possibly come of this.

P.S. Why does it feel like 1989?

 

[TexasDisneyBelle]

Most men don't like rejection anymore than women do, part of the problem especially for guys over 40 is that so many women are bitter and have negative opinions of men due to past experiences..they have preconcieved notions and sometimes hear something other than what we say

"However. . .the line we like can also be interpreted by us as dang I would love to have my way with you. . .do I really have to buy dinner to do that?"

Yep. No one is around for thirty or forty years without having some history. While I don't think mine has made me bitter, it has definitely made me more cautious. And that affects my interactions with guys.

 

[TexasDisneyBelle]

While looking through a previously unpacked box, I found a bottle of Drakkar Noir.

Southern Comfort, Vicodin, Metallica, and Drakkar Noir. Nothing good can possibly come of this.

P.S. Why does it feel like 1989?

I was in the fifth grade and dancing along to Paula Abdul in 1989.

 

[nurse.darcy]

While looking through a previously unpacked box, I found a bottle of Drakkar Noir.

Southern Comfort, Vicodin, Metallica, and Drakkar Noir. Nothing good can possibly come of this.

P.S. Why does it feel like 1989?

Brad, if you said 1999, I would start singing a Prince song. . .lol.

Anyway, I am home and bored. . .well not really bored. Just wiped out from moving into the new place. . .The bigger place. . .ya know. . .lol.

 

[MICKEY88]

While I understand your answer, the truth is that women my age (its the same category you fall into) really prefer to have a man choose to call on us or ask us out. . .I still have issues trying to ask a man out, though I want to be able to. It just messes with my psych

I've never questioned that, just stating why a lot of men are hesitant to ask.