Silly worries?

[vfb2girls]

My countdown clock is finally getting closer to this much anticipated trip but I have some concerns. I have not been back to the "world" for 14 years and the last trip we were there was a family trip with my parents and some of my aunts. It was a magical trip, well fast forward to now and in these past years both my parents and bother have since passed away, also tow of my aunts are no longer with us. I am concerned that instead of feeling the magic of disney I will feel saddened by my loss. Silly right? I haven't even discuss this with my husband but I think he already suspects that I am starting to worry about this. Am I being silly? I so want to enjoy this trip..sorry for all the whine.

 

[belle41379]

I'm sorry for your losses, and I don't think you are being silly. It's natural to feel that way whenever you are doing something that you did with loved ones. However, try to think of it like this. Each and every trip to Disney is for making new memories. Nothing is wrong with the old ones, but each trip is new, exciting, and magical. Hopefully you can remember the good times of your last trip while making new magical memories. You will have a blast!

 

[kilee]

I don't think your thoughts and feelings are silly, but natural. You may expierence moments of melancholy. When it happens just go with the flow. I truly belive that in the end you'll have way more happy/magical times than sad moments. This way you'll have a whole new batch of memories to add to the other one's.

 

[kilee]

By the way our clocks are almost the same-- and hour apart. There are about 3-4 of us here on the boards that are all going within an hour of each other!!!!!!

 

[disneysteve]

Not being silly at all. There will be things at WDW that may stir some memories. My father's favorite ride was Small World. My Mom and I still cry everytime we ride it and Dad died 11 years ago.

Go and have a good time. Remember your loved ones. Tell stories of your trip. And don't be afraid to shed a few tears.

Steve

 

[DisneyMim]

I don't think you're being silly at all, your worries are very natural. Yes I think it will be sad in a way because you will be remembering all the memories, BUT you haven't been in 14 years and in Mickey years that is a very long time. You will find the world to be a different place, more things to do, more attractions, etc. You will make new memories. I'm sorry for all of your losses, you have had quite a few. Go with an open mind, try new restaurants, new parks, new stores, etc. and you will come back with many wonderful old and new memories.

Have a Wonderful Time!!!

 

[DisneyMim]

I just wanted to add something along the lines of Disney Steve. My mother-in-law's favorite ride was It's a Small World too. After she died we would go on it even though my kids had had enough of that ride and think of her. It ALWAYS brings back good memories.

Enjoy!!!

 

[vfb2girls]

Thanks to all for the encouraging words, yes I know it will be hard but I will try to focus on the magical moments that we shared as a family. And also IASW ride, that was my dad's favorite ride also! He would sing that song over and over again Thanks again everyone.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I am sorry for your losses and I don't think it's a silly worry at all.

Try to keep in mind the good times you had with them, and know they'd want you to have and carry on for them. Have fun for them. Ride their favorite rides and tell yourself, I'm going to ride this again just for you. That is what they'd want, I'm sure. For you to continue and have fun.

 

[honeymom]

My first trip to WDW was with a cousin when we were 11. He died of cancer when we were 13. I didn't get to go to WDW again until I was 35. While yes, I felt a little sad, it also helped me to have good memories of him and helped me to feel closer to him.
Try to enjoy your good memories.

 

[goofyernmost]

that can cause those worries. My best memories, if you will pardon me, "the best times of my life" were with my family, My x-wife and my girls. The memories that I have in WDW are something I can't even put into words. I loved those times, I charished those times.

My children are grown up now and raising their own families. My wife and I have divorced and I am about to make my second consecutive trip "solo".

When I arrive at the "worlds" I can't help but compare now with then. Of course, there is no real comparison. That was then, this is now. I would go to an attraction and remember something that happened when I was with them. For a moment I would feel sad and then I would get enveloped in what was going on around me and I created some new, different and equally good memories.

I believe that you can use the occasion to mourn those that you have lost or to celebrate the times you had with them. Ask yourself what they would want....would they want you to not be able to enjoy life because they are not with you or would they want you to say, if I might be allowed to steal a phrase from the late Bob Hope....Thanks for the memories.

 

[mugglemom]

I understand exactly what you are saying! And no it is not silly at all!

We went to Disney last year after a tremendous family loss and I was fine until we stood in line to get into the Magic Kingdom the first morning. The characters were doing a quick little show to open the park and I burst into sobs and tears. DH tried to comfort me and he ended up tearing up too. It passed quickly as we went through the line to get our bags inspected. I am certain the cast members noticed our distress and were very nice to us. Once we got past that point we were better.

My best advise is to plan for some emotions and bring tissues! I couldn't find any!

Then like everyone says enjoy and make new memories while cherishing the old ones!

 

[Mackey Mouse]

I do not think you are silly at all. I am sorry for your losses and do understand.. Yesterday, the 19th of February, I thought of my Mom the whole day as it was the day she died, 16 years ago. It is always there but the pleasant memories take away the sad ones.
However, in saying that, there is one ride I cannot do at WDW as it was her favorite. I have tried in the past, but we get in there and end up teary eyed, so I stay away from it..
Hugs and have a wonderful time.