Shower

[Beck1125]

I was just wondering if it is proper or improper wedding ettiquette to have a wedding shower at home (PA) if you are having a wedding elsewhere. I was told that if you are not inviting people to the wedding then it is impolite to have a shower? Any thoughts?

 

[Merandab4]

Hi Becky and Welcome to the board!
I am in the same situation with the whole shower thing. ( I am getting married in Disney but live in PA) Ultimately it is up to a close family member or a member of your wedding party to host a bridal shower for you. Generally people (Especially your family) will want to do something special for you, (especially if they are not going to be able to attend your wedding). If you want to host some sort of party, how about a get together or reception of some sort when you return. Thats what my fiance and I are doing.
We are able to invite our family and our closest friends,to the wedding but we are then going to host an "Open House" when we return. (This is because we just bought a house, and we will only be living in it together as a couple when we get married) If you and your fiance already live together this may not be just a good idea. Congrats on your engagement and your interest in having a Disney Wedding!

 

[Fantasia Sam]

Hi there

I don't think it is improper etiquette.

I'm sort of having both. A "hen" (bachelorette) party here in the UK and then a shower in WDW although my friend is throwing the shower and I have no details as it's all one big surprise !!!

Have both !!!!

 

[D&R love Disney]

I felt funny asking for a shower since I'm having an intimate wedding and very few people are invited. My Aunt really wants to have one for me and hit me with it at the wake for my Uncle. So, next Saturday night they are having a small family shower for me

 

[jamie0201]

Hi... my name is Jamie and I am new tot he Boards. I am getting married in disney March 2005. I am originally from Boca Raton , FL (about 3 hours south of Orlando) and now I amliving in Chicago. I have a lot of family here in Chicago but my parents, sisters, friends and family friend all live in Boca. Unfortunately, I am puching for 100 people at the max to be at the wedding so there tons of people that wont be able to come, and that we wont be able to invite.

My best friend in florida who is my maid of honor is throwing a shower for me down there a couple months before my wedding and my future mother in law is throwing one for me up in Chicago. I am not going to be involved in the planning, but from what I know... they are going to invite people who are not invited to the wedding. My fiances family is huge and we are inviting all of the immediate family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc..) but his mom wanted to have a shower and invite her cousins, and distance family along with the ones who will be attending the wedding. My best friend will be doing the same. I think it is ok to do so, b/c a lof of people understand we have huge families and our wedding will pretty much just be family.

Good luck
Jamie

 

[Doctor Tigger]

Well my opinion is.........do what you want!! If you want to have a Bridal Shower then you go right ahead and have it, it's your wedding and you hopefully only get married once!!!!

I had a Bridal Shower 1 1/2 months before my wedding that my mom had for me because we had an Intimate Ceremony with only our close family. People wanted to come just to hear about the wedding and the plans. After the wedding we had an at home reception and invited everyone that we knew. We had our wedding video and pictures for everyone to see, it was more of a wedding celebration

Some people told me it was wrong to have a Bridal Shower and a reception when all of these people didn't get to come to the wedding. Weddings and receptions and showers are all a celebration of 2 people coming together as 1..........not following the ettiquete rules of someone you don't even know (sorry on a soap box here)

I say do what makes you happy, and if it dosen't make other people happy they don't have to come

 

[JoD]

I went through all the same things and my bridal party decided they wanted to have a shower for me. We have invited 168 people and are planning on about 100 attending the wedding but all of my family members and friends who can not attend wanted a shower for me so they could share in the joy. I also believe in do what you want, this is your time and no matter what you decide there will always be someone who doesn't agree.

 

[Beck1125]

Thank you all for your insight!
I think my mom and sisters will plan something, your opinions were a great help! And often it is forgotten that it is your wedding day, one and only! So it is important to do what you want and not worry about someone elses rules! Thanks guys!