Should my ds go to this prom?

[newddmommie]

I don't think he should have said yes if he has no intention of even dancing with her. Ignoring her all night is crueler than just turning her down IMO. She may think this is a real date. After all, it is the Prom.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

I don't think he should have said yes if he has no intention of even dancing with her. Ignoring her all night is crueler than just turning her down IMO. She may think this is a real date. After all, it is the Prom.

No, he WILL do the fast dancing stuff, just not slow. He also goes to a school that is religious in nature, not our religion however, and slow dancing at the proms/formals etc is generally frowned upon etc. So just in general he is not comfortable with that.

 

[newddmommie]

No, he WILL do the fast dancing stuff, just not slow. He also goes to a school that is religious in nature, not our religion however, and slow dancing at the proms/formals etc is generally frowned upon etc. So just in general he is not comfortable with that.

Okay.. I follow now. I hope they have a good time. A little off the subject; but good for him for sticking with his values about dancing.

 

[dislaney]

I think it is a pretty nice thing of your son to do since she asked directly. I hope they have a great time.

 

[wdwfan16]

Has he told her he will not do slow dances and why he won't do them?

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Update:

Tonight is the prom. Ds said the girls mom is getting both the flowers

She told ds - Oh, now you can teach Heather how to dance!! O.K. That should be interesting.

I told my ds I thought it was really nice of him to be doing this etc. Well I cant wait to see how he looks all dressed up.

Its suppose to rain here tonight.

My ds also said the mom asked if I wanted to come to the school to take pictues. Ds said, um, probably not. I wish she would remember I had the 7 operations last year, almost died, coma, radiation etc. I might tell ds to ask her for pics or take our camera etc.

so we will see what happens and I will give the final update tomm

 

[asta]

I think this is a very nice thing for your son to do. I am the mother of daughters and can see the other side. At my daughter's school, there are more girls than guys. No matter what happens, there are going to be girls who don't get asked to homecoming or the prom. In my experience, the girls who have to ask someone are not usually looking for a romantic date. And since we are talking high school kids I don't find it that strange that some kids don't really know someone outside of their school. Sometimes we have to rely on others to help out. It just helps them to feel a little less rejected. If your son can do that for someone else and is willing, I think that makes him a very kind and nice young man. I would be very proud of him.

 

[Becky2005]

I am curious to see how it all turns out.

I have a girl & trust me, this child has been planning on going to Prom since I think she even had a clue what it was. She WANTED to go last year but as she was a Freshman she wasn't allowed. She technically got asked to go as just friends. I think she is already trying to figure out how to go THIS year but alas she has a boyfriend that is from another school & she is only a Sophomore. I'm thinking if she had one of her Junior/Senior guy friends ask & her boyfriend was OK with it, she would so be going. I already heard her telling people she IS going to Prom next year with or without a date. She said this right in front of her boyfriend too (guess if they are still dating, he should be prepared). Our school allows the kids to come even without a date. I think other than the winter formal, almost all dances are single or couple.

She has already been eyeing dresses so I could easily see how a girl could have a dress for Prom before they even have a date.

 

[4nana]

LMP, you've obviously raised a very nice young man to step forward for this young lady . Sending *pixie dust* they have a nice time.

 

[Disney Doll]

He's a nice kid to do this. I hope he has fun.
If I was Heather, I'd KILL my mom for gettig so over-involved.

 

[mickeylove2]

Isn't today Thursday? They don't have dances and stuff around here any day but Friday and Saturday. Good for your son to take this girl, hope they have fun!

 

[JimmyPicker]

I was wondering about a Prom on a Thursday too, but I guess different strokes.

I only wanted to say that doesn't have to be that weird, does it? People set other people up all the time.

When I was 19, I had a 17 year old guy friend who was in a military boarding school for boys. He didn't know many young ladies but really wanted to go to his Prom (I don't think they called it that, but whatever). He begged me to go.

No thanks. I was oogied out by the thought of an older woman showing up at a Prom and besides, I had my own boyfriend who would have frowned on it, going as "just friends" or not.

So I set him up with a local girl his own age. I told her that I know it sounds weird, but there's this guy, yada yada, gave them each others phone numbers, and they decided to go ahead and go as "just friends."

She was really nervous about it, but it turned out fine in the end and wound up being really good friends for a while.

Best of luck to your son and the Prom girl.

 

[SomePixiedust]

Our local high school always has their prom on a Thursday. I think because they get a cheaper rate from the catering hall, plus it's just a few days before graduation, so it winds up being a long prom weekend culminating in graduation. It's been that way here for decades.

 

[tiggger1]

Isn't today Thursday? They don't have dances and stuff around here any day but Friday and Saturday. Good for your son to take this girl, hope they have fun!

our proms are always on a Thurs because it is alot cheaper to have it on a Thurs compared to a weekend night. But ours are in June and a few days before Graduation so we dont miss School

 

[tiggger1]

Our local high school always has their prom on a Thursday. I think because they get a cheaper rate from the catering hall, plus it's just a few days before graduation, so it winds up being a long prom weekend culminating in graduation. It's been that way here for decades.

great minds think alike!!!

 

[mickeylove2]

Our local high school always has their prom on a Thursday. I think because they get a cheaper rate from the catering hall, plus it's just a few days before graduation, so it winds up being a long prom weekend culminating in graduation. It's been that way here for decades.

Wow, I guess you learn something new everyday...especially on the Dis!

 

[EllenFrasier]

Sounds like the Mom is asking him to be her daughter's escort for the prom. If she is willing to pay for everything and he likes Heather, even as just a friend, then he could consider it.

I think he should talk to Heather first. Say "hey, your Mom asked me if I'd like to take you to your prom - did you want that too, as friends, or do you have someone else you'd like to ask?". That way, Heather knows he does not like her like a girlfriend. Believe me, at that age if someone smiles at you you think they like you.

 

[JimmyPicker]

Just wondering how everything turned out for the son and the girl?

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Ds said he had a good time. He said he felt sorry for the girl because she didnt even talk to the girls that she knew. He danced with her, just fast, and said he liked the food and the graphics on a screen they had with the music.

They got home at like 1 am and that school didnt have sc hool today and my poor ds had to go to school. He is really tired.

This girl lives with her grandarents and the mom told him that he made quite an impression on the grandpa and said he was such a gentlemen etc.

The mom e mailed pictures to ds. I think there was only 1 of him that I remember with the girl, others were her family, freinds s etc.

 

[JimmyPicker]

I'm glad he had a good time. And I'm glad it worked out for the girl that she had someone to go with and dance with.

Alls well that ends well, right?