Should I tell my job?

[tiff211]

As some of you may know based on previous posts, we are moving to Atlanta. Our goal is to be in place by the beginning of July. DH hasn't secured a job as of yet but that is a matter of going and meeting with two principals (he's a teacher). They are very actively pursuing him. We put our house on the market and due to the changing market we are dropping the price today to aggressively sell.

DH has planned to go next week to look at houses (we are renting for a year to get used to the changes before building) and to meet with the principals of two schools. I am now going to meet with a couple of recruiters. I will need to take a few days off but I already have 1 1/2 days off for the following week due to a trip to DW planned months ago. I took 7 days off in April. I have the time to take but I am wondering if I should talk to my boss/HR and explain what is going on.

Ironically when I was coming in this morning, my HR person stopped me to ask if I would help her at a job fair that I was recruited from a couple of years ago to represent a "success story".

This is way too stressful!!!

 

[DawnCt1]

Although you are planning on moving in July, anything could happen. I don't think I would tell your employer until the appropriate "notice" time, whatever is expected in your company or until your house sells and you have a definate move in date. It would be awful if they found just the right candidate to replace you and they replaced you before you were ready to leave.

 

[mickeysgal]

Until that job is in your husband's hand, I would not utter a word. To tell you the truth, I wouldn't be selling my house either until the job was an absolute definite. He hasn't been offered the job yet. It may, indeed, be just a matter of formality, but until its signed, sealed and delivered, I would not count on it. I've seen too many things happen that derail the best of situations. I would certainly look for a job in your new location, but I would not feel any need nor obligation to let your current employer know anything until things are finalized. Best of luck to you!

 

[Evil Queen]

I agree with the poster above, I wouldn't say anything at this time.

As for the time off, ask for those for "Personal reasons", and also use that for the reason of declining to help at the Job Fair. They will probably ask why, but most folks ask out of concern not related to work, just tell them you are not up to talking about it right now, but assure them all is ok, you just need to do some personal stuff at this time.

 

[tiff211]

Until that job is in your husband's hand, I would not utter a word. To tell you the truth, I wouldn't be selling my house either until the job was an absolute definite. He hasn't been offered the job yet. It may, indeed, be just a matter of formality, but until its signed, sealed and delivered, I would not count on it. I've seen too many things happen that derail the best of situations. I would certainly look for a job in your new location, but I would not feel any need nor obligation to let your current employer know anything until things are finalized. Best of luck to you!

Yeah, I thought about it but I think the chances are in our favor more than not. I would rather chance it this way than not put the house up and have to scramble to figure out what to do when he gets a job. My getting a job is not a factor as long as he has one. Since we are renting a year and that is cutting back significantally, we are thinking of me staying home and just doing my home parties. One of the reasons that we are pretty certain that DH will get the job is because they already have all his paperwork, resume, references, teaching cert., he was called by 3 principals within the hour after emailing them. My BF who lives there said it was on the news that one county is so desparate for teachers they are increasing salaries and offering all other incentives. The teacher vacancy list is unbelieveble long. Each school has at least 5 slots open. Of course, we haven't put all out eggs in on basket but one principal told DH not to worry, he has a job. Meeting him is a formality. He even sent DH a card thanking him for considering his school.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I though you were building a home there. I would not tell your company or his until you have an offer in writing, it is to your liking and you accepted it. Who is paying for the house hunting trip? I would expect the new employer to do this. I hope everything works out for you as you planned. I hope your home sells, but not before you get this new job in writing.

 

[tiff211]

I though you were building a home there. I would not tell your company or his until you have an offer in writing, it is to your liking and you accepted it. Who is paying for the house hunting trip? I would expect the new employer to do this. I hope everything works out for you as you planned. I hope your home sells, but not before you get this new job in writing.

We decided to rent for a year. I would rather go there, get settled, get the kids used to the changes and then start building our house. I cannot build and not be around to see every little step. I have a friend who is building in TX but lives her and it is such a nightmare for her.

 

[wvjules]

I agree with not selling until your DH has a signed contract. Too many "what ifs". A lot can happen between now and July.
Is your oldest daughter moving to Georgia with you too or is she staying with your ex?

 

[DISUNC]

Until that job is in your husband's hand, I would not utter a word. To tell you the truth, I wouldn't be selling my house either until the job was an absolute definite. He hasn't been offered the job yet. It may, indeed, be just a matter of formality, but until its signed, sealed and delivered, I would not count on it. I've seen too many things happen that derail the best of situations. I would certainly look for a job in your new location, but I would not feel any need nor obligation to let your current employer know anything until things are finalized. Best of luck to you!

100% IN TOTAL AGREEMENT HERE!!! I've been through too many "sure deals" with employment futures that went down the tubes!!!!!
Unless you have a offer of employment letter, signed & sealed in your hands...DO NOTHING!!!!

 

[grlpwrd]

Ditto on waiting. My dh had been recruited for jobs that didn't materialize so he has made it a policy to wait until the contract is signed and it is a sure thing.

Yes, definitely wait until you dot those i's and cross those t's.

BTW you have gorgeous girls!

 

[mickeyfan2]

We decided to rent for a year. I would rather go there, get settled, get the kids used to the changes and then start building our house. I cannot build and not be around to see every little step. I have a friend who is building in TX but lives her and it is such a nightmare for her.

I think this is a wise decision. This also lets you see if the new job and area work out for you.

 

[tiff211]

I agree with not selling until your DH has a signed contract. Too many "what ifs". A lot can happen between now and July.
Is your oldest daughter moving to Georgia with you too or is she staying with your ex?

She is staying put. She is doing better in school, not hanging with the "wrong" crowd and bonding with her other siblings. She is very excited that we will be closer. When I told her she said "I never had you and daddy living so close before." They live in NC.

 

[tiff211]

Ditto on waiting. My dh had been recruited for jobs that didn't materialize so he has made it a policy to wait until the contract is signed and it is a sure thing.

Yes, definitely wait until you dot those i's and cross those t's.

BTW you have gorgeous girls!

Thanks! We have a little one close in age I see.

 

[ead79]

I agree with the other posters--I wouldn't tell your job just yet.

BTW, where are you moving in the Atlanta area? Atlanta really is a great place to live.

 

[tiff211]

I agree with the other posters--I wouldn't tell your job just yet.

BTW, where are you moving in the Atlanta area? Atlanta really is a great place to live.

We are looking in the South east area, clayton county and south fulton county. I have been hearing so many positive things about GA and Atlanta.

 

[Crankyshank]

Whether or not you tell your job to me would depend on how much you are relying on that income between now and when you move. I personally wouldn't until your DH signs an official contract with a school.

As far as the house, July is just 6wks away. The market around here is still fairly warm but cool enough that it could take that long to sell and go through closing. Worst case scenario is that you spend a few weeks in a hotel or with family. It seems like you're definitely set on moving to GA no matter what happens with DH's job prospects and you could probably live comfortably for a few months renting with the proceeds from the house sale.