should I feel guilty going on adult trip

[alliecat523]

I did it last year and while I missed my kid, I had a blast.

 

[Allison]

Of course you shouldn't feel guilty.

 

[ElenaRN]

Hubby & I usually go away once a year without the kids. I don't feel that guilty. Happy mom and dad = happy kids. We need a reboot once in a while too.

 

[321nicoleg]

Yes! go have some fun!! If I had a babysitter, I would!

 

[smiths02]

I'll be a slight voice of dissent - my husband and I have taken a few child-less trips but we really prefer to go places and do things that the kids could not/should not do with us. Being surrounded by other peoples' kids and not having my own with me wouldn't feel right.

I would not want to go without my son. Someplace else alone- sure. But not Disney. Not until he's older and off on his own. Our Disney trips are special for all of us and it means "family time." I would never do it!

Well, I lived close to Disneyland growing up, so I went in all sorts of configurations (friends, family, DH). DH and I went to WDW once before we had kids. So Disney is about a lot of my friends and family and DH, not just my kids. Also, our kids are young, so there are many things they can't/won't do at Disney (rides, restaurants, staying up late for nighttime fireworks, etc.). Another factor is that we have 3 kids, so we can stay at different resorts if it is just the two of us. Yet another factor is that our kids will technically go twice in a year (June 2015 and June 2016), so it's not like they are missing out.

 

[xipetotec]

I am trying to talk my husband into a quick trip to WDW for us and leaving our 4 kids at home with grandma. I just don't know if I can leave the kids since it's WDW and we have always gone as a family. I think everything will remind me of the kids and I'll feel horribly guilty.

Two years ago my husband and I went to the MNSSHP without the kids (we also went with them another day) and we felt giddy doing it and it was a lovely change instead of worrying if we have the kids and who can go on what ride and trying to split up, the million bathroom breaks, wondering who's going to get the stroller...etc.

That's why I was thinking of taking a quick, cheaper trip with the two of us, we have been married 19 years and probably need a vacation with just us.

We are planning maybe a non Disney trip in the fall to Discovery Cove and Sea World with the family. I love Disney and will miss it and maybe that's why I want to make a mini trip with DH.

Here is my take. We go about every 2 years with the kids since 2002 with my DVC member mother. We like Disney and going to Disney as a couple ( or with other adults ) is a completely different experience. if it's what you like and where you want to go, you shouldn't see it as a "guilty for not bringing the kids" experience, but rather a trip for just you two.

We've been twice by ourselves. The first time, we did MNSSHP without them and then "more adult" Universal HHN and Epcot Food and Wine. Had a great time. And in the end, any potential guilt was washed away with the thought that "we'll be back WITH them".

 

[Juliet25]

My DH and I went on a four night trip this past August. It was great. We got to do the things we normally wouldn't be able to do with the kids with us. I felt no guilt. We really needed the alone time. Kids were fine with it. We booked a bounce back for June to take the family. Go and have fun.

 

[ELSA711]

I guess my guilt is dissipating because I just upgrade DH and I to AKL yesterday

 

[Claire&TheBoys]

We've been to Disney twice without the kids and had a blast both times. It's so nice to not worry about who wants to do what, to get to stroll through World Showcase without kids complaining they're bored, or have to look at every single Pokémon toy in the Japan department store. We got to ride RNRC *together* instead of having to do child-swap - we rode it 3 times in an afternoon and didn't care that we had to wait in line. On one trip, we did some tours and went to La Nouba. I look forward to doing another adults-only trip in the future.

 

[5stljayhawks]

No guilt at all. You all should book one item each.... AKA he takes you fishing and you take him to the spa. Push comforts and enjoy, isnt that why we get married? Wife and I made work trip over Valentine day and had blast.

 

[MamaJinji]

I'm with everyone else. Go without the kids and feel no guilt. Buy 'em a present from the World if that will make you feel better.

 

[MandiC]

I went in January on a trip with just my mom. Every once in a while I did think "oh, ds1 would love this!" or "dd2 would want to do that"....orrrrrr "ds2 would be doing that right now" (when I saw a preschooler throwing a fit LOL ) So I did miss my kids, but no more than I missed them when dh and I went to Vegas or Jamaica or any other kid free vacation, and I came back happy and recharged so I think adult only trips are great for parents no matter where you decide to go. I loved being able to do whatever I wanted to do. How often do we get to do that as a mom? I did everything I wanted to do in Disney Springs in one afternoon, covered all of Epcot in 1 day. Got to stay out as late as we wanted and not rush to the bus afterwards. Sleep as late as I wanted and not worry about when someone else was hungry or thirsty or tired. If you like Disney you will like it just as much without kids. You will miss your kids, but it won't ruin your vacation.

 

[disneypolybride2008]

My mom got remarried when i was about 8 years old. She and he went off to Disney World for their honeymoon and left me and my sister with my grandparents.. i just remember sitting on the curb outside of their house moping and sad that i was not there... they never took us to Disney. I just got to hear about how great it was. I didn't go until i was in college and paid for myself. Since you often go on trips.. then it's totally fine. You should have no guilt. My parents never took me on a single vacation growing up. Your kids as are mine, are very fortunate.

 

[MinMou]

You don't say how old your kids are, but I am assuming they are still young enough where they want to go places with you.
You don't say how often your kids have been to Disney.
But you did say that your kids will be cared for while you are gone, and that is all you really have to do.
I recently took a long weekend trip with girl friends, and while I felt guilty about leaving my husband to deal with a toddler, it was the first time in years I had a good night's sleep.
I think that if you are planning to take your kids to WDW sometime soon, then a grownup only trip is not a bad thing. Use the time to scout out things you do and don't want to do with the kids, go to a great restaurant that they would hate, and if you are staying onsite, book your bounceback vacation before you leave.