Should I be this angry (a little long, sorry)

[inaminute]

There is no way, if I was in the OP's shoes, I would leave that job now. Her BF obviously still wants to be around his ex, if he keeps hiring her back, when he knows she is not liked by the other employees and SHE KEEPS QUITTING. If the OP left the job now, she could not keep her eye on the ex and her BF.

Which is EXACTLY the reason the OP should leave that job and tell the BF to get lost.

There are other men out there--you'll find one who will respect you and treat you like a princess. You don't need to put up with this. You deserve better.

 

[OceanAnnie]

Oh yes, you should be *that* angry! And as others have stated you should use that anger to move into an action mode!

There is such a thing as a comfortable rut. That's what it sounds like you are in with him. Even though you dislike it, you know what to expect. BUT, do you want to keep living like that?

The longer you stay with Mr. Wrong makes it that much longer before you find Mr. Right. Your BF is no prize. Let him have his ex. They deserve each other.

 

[MAKmom]

Thank you all for your kindness. You are all right, of course, and your opinions are concurrent with those of my confidants. I just need to convince myself of it. I have been feeling for a long time now that nothing is ever going to move forward if it hasn't already, especially with her around all of the time. I wish things could be different, but I know that wishing for something just does not make it so. Lately I have been feeling that I do deserve better, I just feel selfish and arrogant for feeling that way, I suppose. Writing it all down makes things a lot clearer for me. Now I just have to find the strength to do what my mind knows it has to do, and what my heart dosen't want to...

It is so hard. Thinking about it is the first step. Do you live together? When things start feeling wrong they are. You need to move towards your real destiny. Think of this as a detour.... learn & grow from it. You can pass the wisdom on someday.

 

[goofy's friends]

It is so hard. Thinking about it is the first step. Do you live together? When things start feeling wrong they are. You need to move towards your real destiny. Think of this as a detour.... learn & grow from it. You can pass the wisdom on someday.

Great point! Good luck, OP

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

well I'll be the one to just come out and say it:

He's having an affair with her.

Sorry...I am so sorry. I know you probably don't want to hear that, and I'm sure YOU are SURE there's nothing going on between them. However, given the facts you have presented, it does not take a detective to see that there is something going on between them.

The best advice I can give you is to do one of two things (and I would hesitate to guess that you won't do either of them since you've already put up with his nonsense for this long). You can A) leave his sorry butt and move on with your life or B) tell him he has a choice, the ex or you and force him to fire her PERMANENETLY or you will walk away.

Yes, in answer to your original question, you have every right to feal angry with him. Please don't be blinded by love for him.

My thoughts exactly