Should I accept her apology? (long)

[Sleepy]

As for the cleaning part, this is also a pet peeve of mine. So, as a parent, I try to be proactive about it. Young kids need encouragement and guidance on proper social skills. They can get so caught up with the fun of visiting, sometimes they forget all their manners :) Anyway, this works for us, maybe it can work for you, since your 9 year old realized he should have cleaned, but didn't do it.

I have to say many parents (not just kids) are guilty of this..........getting caught up in the fun and forgetting manners. They know their children should clean up after themselves, but forget to remind the children to do so and often, they remind the children, but rather than check behind them, they just assume the child helped clean. (I've seen this scenario too).

 

[aprilgail2]

I just sent a short apology to my SIL - said that I let things (the emails) get out of hand and I was sorry. So we'll see how it goes.

Thats about as far as I would have gone....I have a thing about people not being man enough to confront me to my face and having to be a coward about it and do it via email.....even if you call on the phone to do it that is fine...but to be such a coward they have to send you an email to start off with like that just would set me off right away!

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I just sent a short apology to my SIL - said that I let things (the emails) get out of hand and I was sorry. So we'll see how it goes.

Good for you! Now when she starts up again, do NOT join in. She sounds like the type that loves to stir the pot.

 

[mickeyfan2]

I just sent a short apology to my SIL - said that I let things (the emails) get out of hand and I was sorry. So we'll see how it goes.

Good for you. You did the right thing. I hope it all works out.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

At this point I don't think there's much more you can do. I think that you wee way out of line bringing up how she lives beyond her means--that has nothing to do with the situation, however, I think you were frustrated and spouting off by then. There's a history between you all and I can most certainly identify with that!

Hopefully she'll be able to move on, but it sounds like she's shown in the past that she holds grudges and can go for a long time without speaking, so I guess time will tell.

 

[kilee]

I think a brief apology from each is in order. I can see where both parents were alittle negligent here. I don't think either is sitting on a pedestal. As a parent we are usually alittle blinder to what our own kids do. I would assume the 9yr old was at least a small bit out of hand for it to get brought up. A toddler has a little more wiggle room- since they are in fact a toddler.