Should Dd go solo to Junior prom?

[snowwite]

My DD has a prom in 2 weeks and her "friends" just did something terrible to her and now she has no date. I am so mad at her so called friends and madder at her for not sticking up for herself. She didnt have a date so she asked a senior boy to escort her and he said yes.She has her gown and we have been shopping for shoes etc. Tonight she got an email,not a phone call mind you but an email, from her friend A saying that since her date cancelled on her she had always had my daughters date as a "backup" so DD would have to stay home! I was shocked and a few mins later she gets an email from the boy saying he has to cancel w/DD and take this other girl because he forgot he said he's be her second choice if K cancelled. I am furious. This girl is a selfish witch stringing two guys along and the boy is a blithering idiot. Anyone who does not keep his word is a worthless waste of life and he agreed to go with my daughter.Now she has no date and we are out a considerable amt of money.Should she go alone?

 

[jenks0718]

What a sad situation. How long until prom? Does she still have time to maybe ask someone else? Maybe a sophomore?

If it were me NOW I would go. If it were me THEN no way! I would have stayed home.

 

[DLBDS]

I say, YES. Are there other friends going alone that she could tag along with? It's been awhile for me but I think kids these days go alone, with groups or as couples and it's all acceptable. I guess it depends on your DD's personality. A shy person probably would rather not go at all than go alone. Good luck. And, yes, the friends are inconsiderate jerks.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

i went to my junior prom with some friends, no date...it was fun, but nothing too exciting..i didnt go to sr prom..

her friends are just mean!

 

[TheOtherVillainess]

If I were in your DD's shoes..to heck with her so-called friends and her totally ick-tastic slimey former date! I'd go anyway and show them that just because you don't have a date doesn't mean you can't have a good time.

I'd say more, but it's not exactly DIS friendly.

TOV

 

[iggbees]

i went to junior prom with one of my friends (another girl). i had the best time doing that because i didn't have to follow my date around or worry about anything really. the next year i went with a gay friend (a male) of mine which in my opinion was even better! we had a blast! i feel like there's too much pressure on going to prom with someone who you like or who you are dating, which i think is so silly.

i also had friends ditch me in high school, they told me they were too mature to be hanging out with me.

 

[snowwite]

When I was in school I would never have gone but she is much more confident. She is going to either go alone or with a pal who is gay that was told he cannot bring his choice of a date because the school feels it would be innappropriate. That is kind of odd becuase the same school just formed a gay-straight alliance club. Any way, she is in a theatre group and might be able to hang out with some of those kids. I just think it stinks and the way it was done is really awful but to make it worse she is being nice and understanding about it. I would not be so nice. Of course back then I probably would have just cried. If she doesnt have a date should I go get her corsage? What about a limo? I feel like it is kinda pathetic to go alone to a couples event but is this what kids do now?

 

[Shutterbug]

IMO first off that girl needs a good swift kick in the butt. Then yes if your daughter has other friends she could tag along with she should go.

 

[snowwite]

What a sad situation. How long until prom? Does she still have time to maybe ask someone else? Maybe a sophomore?

If it were me NOW I would go. If it were me THEN no way! I would have stayed home.

She onlt has 2 weeks left. She is upstairs frantically networking.

 

[iggbees]

When I was in school I would never have gone but she is much more confident. She is going to either go alone or with a pal who is gay that was told he cannot bring his choice of a date because the school feels it would be innappropriate. That is kind of odd becuase the same school just formed a gay-straight alliance club. Any way, she is in a theatre group and might be able to hang out with some of those kids. I just think it stinks and the way it was done is really awful but to make it worse she is being nice and understanding about it. I would not be so nice. Of course back then I probably would have just cried. If she doesnt have a date should I go get her corsage? What about a limo? I feel like it is kinda pathetic to go alone to a couples event but is this what kids do now?

my mom is really into those corsage things so i ended up getting one, which was nice of her. i actually had it hanging on my wall (dried of course) for like 5 years after i graduated. i think you should ask her if she'd like one and or surprise her with one. i'm sure she'd appreciate it.

 

[faith]

Here's a hug for your daughter. Kids can be so cruel at that age. I hope some of her friends are going as a group and she can join them. Going completely by herself, just doesn't sound good for her after what has happened with the date and girl friend. It's tough being a Mom, too. I know you want the best for her.

 

[Blueeyes101817]

I would get her a corsage ...

I know my dad was planning on getting me one for my junior prom, but i was in floral design (needed a class to fill the spot!) and made my own when i made one for my brothers date

 

[snowwite]

Thanks for the support and input.

 

[MoniqueU]

A big pet peeve of mine is no one is ever made to follow through on anything anymore. No ones word means crap anymore. IT's all about what people feel liike doing at that very moment no matter who's feelings they hurt. I see this at every age level now. It really is the height of selfishness.

 

[chelle3807]

I can't believe two people could be that rude to someone. I hope your daughter still goes and has a wonderful time. I know many girls who went to my Jr. and Sr. proms alone and they had fun times. Everyone dances in groups most of the time and when there was a slow song there is always a guy to dance with. Hope she is feeling okay!

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Ok here's my .02 -If her friends were friends then this would never have happened-unfortunately it seems as if it's a setup to make your DD the odd man out--If she shows up alone she will be picked on by them--Does she have any "HOT" older cousins or older brothers whose friends wouldn't mind?
If she shows up w/someone who is nicer looking compared to the ones who blew her off well lets just say revenge is the best medicine---I'm sure there are many DISers who live in your area have them pm you photos of their boys and maybe work something out--This happenend to me my junior prom and when I found out what the plan was I was PO but I got them all back because one of my friends had an older brother who went to a different H.S and had a realy really cute friend so I told him what was going on and he jumped on the bandwagon with me---Plus it was cool because he was an underwear model and conviently left his portfolio in his back seat!!
It was the best prom I ever went to!!

 

[Dislifer]

A big pet peeve of mine is no one is ever made to follow through on anything anymore. No ones word means crap anymore. IT's all about what people feel liike doing at that very moment no matter who's feelings they hurt. I see this at every age level now. It really is the height of selfishness.

This is soooo true! AND....I find that people are proud of this! It seems so many people don't care one bit about the impact of their actions on others. How sad!

Personally, I wouldn't go alone...although what happened to her really stinks!

 

[EthansMom]

I think it would be great if your DD could go with her friend who is gay. My best friend and I "shared" one of our male friends as a date to one of our formals -- the three of us all went together and had a wonderful time. Another great formal was one where I went "stag" with a large group of dateless female friends. We had a potluck dinner before Prom at one friend's house and then went back after the dance for a big ice cream sundae buffet!

I think a corsage from Mom and Dad would be nice -- she could wear it even if she does get one from a date. Just make sure it has the strap to be worn on her wrist. At my old highschool, most kids didn't have a limo... ask your DD if most kids have them or not.

Also, if you and your spouse are up to it, consider hosting an after-Prom, non-alcoholic get-together. Your DD could invite her REAL friends and it would be a big hit! Offer guests soda, tea, coffee, a selection of ice cream, whip cream, syrup, etc. Keep enough of an eye on the kids to make sure that no one is making a big mess, drinking, etc...

 

[kidzmom3]

If she can find at least 1 friend to go with her I would have her go. I would not have her go completely alone. Two people, or a nice group of friends would be great! but to be completely alone, I know adults who won't go out to eat alone, never mind to a formal occasion. It stinks for her, but I think it would be pretty awful to be totally alone.

 

[Feralpeg]

My DD had a similar thing happen to her a couple of years ago. A guy asked her to homecoming. She bought her dress and was all prepared to go. The guy called her up a week before the dance to say that he couldn't go with her because he had to take another girl. He said the other girl was really depressed and was really depending on him. I guess it didn't matter how depressed this made my DD. Unfortunately, she really like this guy. She ended up going with a couple of other girls and they had a great time.

Tell your daughter to go to the dance and have fun. She shouldn't let selfish kids ruin her evening.