Shocked

[Trish5768]

My DD10 and I were at Penney's this evening when a group of four kids (2 boys, 2 girls) walked by us. Two of them seemed to be "together". The boy said to the girl as they stopped to grope each other "I really want to play with your b**bs. Now I know neither one of these kids can be more than 12, 13 at the most. I'm speechless and I can see DD's chin scraping the floor as she mumbles thats so gross. Then the couple ahead of them turn around and say "That old lady heard you say that". So I'm thinking not only do I have to watch and hear this I'm also being called an old lady. Anyway, sorry so long-its just one of the few times I've been speechless.

 

[grinningghost]

 

[Serena]

What a nervy kid! It's bad enough he's saying something like that at that age. But in public? wow

 

[Felicia]

Oh come on......

 

[Mad4Mickey]

As much as I would like to say this shocks me it really doesnt. I see things that are not that bad but to me close all the time at our local mall .
What is up with the girls all wanting to let thier little rears show out the top of thier pants????

 

[LoraJ]

I live across the street from an elemntary school. When I am getting ready for work in the morning I can hear them yelling outside and I can't believe all the garbage that comes out of their mouths. I want to scream out my window at them and tell them their mouths need to be washed out with soap!

But then I am sure my windows would get egged, well actually my windows are too high... hmmm...

 

[caitycaity]

is this really that shocking? i'mnot saying i agree with it, but that kind of stuff went on when i was in elementary school in the 80's.

 

[doubletrouble_vb]

Why are they roaming the mall on their own in the first place?

 

[Beauty]

M4M I so agree with you, NO ONE WANTS TO SEE THEIR BUTT!!!

Stuff like that went on when I was a teenager too but not that young.

I will say though that by age 14 or 15 our moms would drop us all off at the mall on Saturday and we would spend the day there. I can remember 100s of teenagers in the mall, it was sooo much fun!! I have some of my fondest memories from being a teenager in the mall.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

That is just sad.

When I was that age, I had no interest in boys. Kids grow up way too fast these days.

 

[julia & nicks mom]

I am shocked - but you should take heart in the fact that your DD was appalled by the behavior as well! You must be doing a good job!

 

[dg39]

Nothing really shocks me anymore. Having 3 kids, 2 in college, between them and their friends, I feel like I've seen and heard it all. Its the "old lady" comment that would bother me more.

 

[HisEllyNelly]

OK I am not that old (well I like to think I'm not), went to highschool in the 80's. When I go to pick my kids up from elementary school I am so shocked by the mouths on these kids. I mean they act alot like we did at that age, but the things they say with adults clearly present just amazes me. We would NEVER have spoken like that around adults...we would have been terrified of someones mom hearing and telling our moms and getting our backsides warmed or our mouths washed out with soap.

 

[aprilgail2]

Originally posted by Beauty

I will say though that by age 14 or 15 our moms would drop us all off at the mall on Saturday and we would spend the day there. I can remember 100s of teenagers in the mall, it was sooo much fun!! I have some of my fondest memories from being a teenager in the mall.

It sure was a while ago but when I was 13 we were taking the public bus to the mall every Saturday and hanging out there all day, walking across to white castle for lunch since hamburgers were so cheap but we hung out in the mall all day long, walked through the stores, went to the game room...Jolly Joint was in the mall back then and that was always a popular store to visit LOL. Now the only ones roaming the mall in Bay Shore are gangs like the Latin Kings and MS13.

 

[Bella the Ball 360]

I could go even further as I work in a school and trust me I could tell you stories that would make you hair stand on end and your jaw scrape the ground so much you would need a chin transplant!! Think Monica and Bill....now think that they are in early middle school say...11-13.. It is sad that kids are so grown up at such an early age. What the heck are their parents thinking? I am not surprised at what you saw

 

[Hopetobee]

Beauty, I can relate to 14 and 15 year olds been let out at the mall, but parents are letting their kids go at a mucher younger age now. When my DD was 9 she was invited to a sleepover and mall trip, around 8 girls were going to go to the mall, parents were not going to be with them, but doing their own thing in the mall, I said No.

2 years ago a 12 yr. old became pregnant in one of our schools, last year a scandal about oral sex in one middle school, parents need to realize that when they let kids do things at a younger age, they become "too worldly" and what used to be a problem with teenagers(sex, drugs, etc.) are now happening with younger kids.

The kids dirty mouths and not caring if adults hear them is total lack of respect, something that needs to be taught at home, well, it's not happening anymore.

 

[Dan Murphy]

I would certainly say what the kids are bombarded with in the media...TV, movies, concerts, radio/music, advertising, etc...and what adults accept as permissible in those mediums by both accepting it into their households, cars, whatever, as well as thinking it is fine for kids to watch and listen to, contributes to the degradation of standards that are deemed appropriate.

At times, when I read what some of the folks here on the DIS think is great 'entertainment', TV and movies, I am indeed stunned at times. Maybe just old guy syndrome.

I do think we talk out of both sides of out mouths at times (not saying anybody here in particular on this thread), saying things are fun to watch in our homes, then we wonder why the heck the kids act and talk as they do.

JMO.

 

[always quiet]

I think parents today are giving kids too much freedom at far too young an age!! I have even had my sister in law telling ME than I am "old" and she disagrees with my decision that no one in my home is allowed to have a boyfriend/girlfriend til they are 16. If kids are allowed to 'date' at say 12, I would hate to think of what would be happening by 16! There is so much in the world for them, aside from members of the opposite sex. My daughter sometimes doesn't understand why I won't let her hang out at the mall unattended (she just turned 13). It's not that I don't trust her, I just don't want to have her faced with a situation that could get uncomfortable (like the one the OP mentioned!). If I heard a boy make a comment like that to another young girl, yes, I would open my mouth!! I've even been known to tell the young kids walking up the street smoking that I thought they were far too young to be doing that!!

When I was in the doctor's office the other day, waiting for Dennis to finish his radiation, I was reading an article in Family Circle about young girls and what is........ah............expected of them.......with teenage boys. Since the kids are now getting that sex is something they should wait for, there are "other things" that, according to this article, are becoming a replacement for a goodnight kiss!!!!! They are pushing things just about as far as they can.....