She Lied!!!

[2princesscuties]

Hi All-I posted a thread last week that a classmate cut my DD's shirt.She told us tonight that she did it.This was after the principal spoke to the child who allegedly did it and several classmates.Guys, I am beside myself.We are leaving Thurs for Disney and up til about an hour ago when she told us I was so excited.This is how I was feeling This is how I feel now

 

[AKL_Megs]

Kids make mistakes. She was probably scared that you would be upset or mad, and hid the truth by lying. Kids don't realize that lies get bigger - she probably never thought that it would get to the point that it has gotten to. She probably was feeling guilty that her classmates were taking the heat (a good sign!) and confessed. Little White Lies. You could use this as a really, really good life lesson - don't lie! But don't let it ruin your trip. She should be made to appologize to her classmates, the principal, and her teacher (and anyone else involved.)

 

[kdibattista]

I don't mean to make light of the situation but this is what kids do.... I wouldn't let it ruin your vacation

 

[RitaZ.]

Hi All-I posted a thread last week that a classmate cut my DD's shirt.She told us tonight that she did it.This was after the principal spoke to the child who allegedly did it and several classmates.Guys, I am beside myself.We are leaving Thurs for Disney and up til about an hour ago when she told us I was so excited.This is how I was feeling This is how I feel now

I had a feeling that there was more to the story when she said that she didn't want you to talk to the teacher. I also spoke from experience. Whenever my kids tell me a story that doesn't "sound right", I pick up the phone and tell them that I'll just call their teacher to get the story. That's all it takes to make them come clean.

Obviously, it's wrong to lie, but it's something that kids do to see if they can get away with it. They know that did they something wrong, but they don't want to get in trouble, so they lie. Don't let it get you down. I'm sure that the principal and teacher haave seen many children do this before. Your DD wasn't the first and I assure you, she won't be the last. Please, don't let this ruin your trip.

They are kids and they are learning as they grow.

Have a great time!

 

[laurie31]

I was wondering whatever happened. I'm the one that posted that my DD had done this too, and made up a story about how it happened. Just a teaching opportunity for you to talk about the importance of being truthful. And the cost of clothes.

Does she get an allowance? Or have money saved for Disney? maybe she could help pay for the shirt. But don't let it cast a pall over your trip! It's so tempting to play with scissors when you're just a kid...just help her learn that she must RESIST the temptation next time

 

[minkydog]

And i wanna come clean: I lied about taking a pencil one time. Not only did I take that neat pencil that looked like a candy cane, I lied to my teacher about it. I know she knew I was lying--she called my mother! And you wanna know what my mother said--"If Cathy said she didn't take it, then she didn't take it. Cathy doesn't lie" So my teacher was stymied and I have held that secret for 42 years

But I must admit, the terrible guilt put me off lying about anything else

 

[nhrenee]

Don't let it get you down for long. At least she fessed up!

I It's so tempting to play with scissors when you're just a kid...just help her learn that she must RESIST the temptation next time

Boy you aren't kidding. You should've seen my dd hair when she "trimmed" her bangs.

 

[crazyme5kids]

If that's the worst thing she ever does in life consider yourself lucky. It sounds like she has already learned a lesson from all this because she confessed.

Tell her you are disappointed that she lied to you to begin with. Then tell her you are glad she has now told you the truth about what happened. Explain to her that sometimes she might get in trouble if she tells the truth, but she will never get in as much trouble telling the truth as she will when she lies to you.

Next I would ask her what she thinks she now needs to do to correct the problem by lying to everyone. She'll probably say that she needs to apologize, which I think will be appropriate given her age. Go with her for support when she speaks to the principle and teacher about it.

I would not punish her (this time) though. Sometimes just feeling guilty and knowing that you have disappointed your parents is enough punishment.

 

[2princesscuties]

You guys are the best I will be going into school tomorrow with her to apologize.We did explain to her how it's wrong to lie,and we aren't going to punish her this time.The guilt alone is really getting to her.Thanks again everybody you've all been a big help

 

[mommasita]

Don't let it get you down for long. At least she fessed up!

Boy you aren't kidding. You should've seen my dd hair when she "trimmed" her bangs.

That was a bad one here too.

 

[laurie31]

Awwwww, if she's feeling that guilty, I'll bet she never cuts another thing she isn't supposed to cut for the rest of her life!

A good lesson learned

(and kind of a relief to know she wasn't being bullied!)

 

[MsLeFever]

I once "won" a contest in first grade as to which of us would cut off the biggest piece of hair.

I cut a big chunk from the BACK of my head....nobody could see it missing there right? I honestly didn't know HOW my mother knew.

I'm still pretty competative.....

Good for her for coming clean - it must have been really hard. She's learning.

 

[CEDmom]

You guys are the best I will be going into school tomorrow with her to apologize.We did explain to her how it's wrong to lie,and we aren't going to punish her this time.The guilt alone is really getting to her.Thanks again everybody you've all been a big help

Actually making her go to apologize and face the people she accused is punishment enough. Hopefully she's learn a valuable lesson here that'll serve her for years to come. If it were my DD I would talk to her about why she cut her shirt. That would actually have me more concerned than the actual lying.