Sthronds
<font color=blue>I can't make pancakes. It's just
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I honestly believe that my branch of the family tree is the only normal one. 
As a background, my aunt and her daughter have had a difficult relationship these past many years. Abby is 19 and they have been on shaky ground for about 8 years. Abby doesn't think that anyone really loves her and she has found herself in a verbally abusive relationship with her boyfriend. He completely controls her. She doesn't think her mom cares about her at all. So. . .
My aunt called last night to tell me that my Abby was in the hospital because of a severe migraine and dehydration. Of course the main concern was her health but after it was established that she was going to be fine, I started asking my aunt what hospital she was at, when she would be home etc. . . Turns out my aunt wasn't sure what hospital because she wasn't there! She decided to wait at home and have dinner ready!
She said that since her dad was with her she didn't need to go. Here was a perfect opportunity to show her daughter that she cares for her and she stayed home to cook??? Is it just me or is this just fueling the fire. Now Abby has one more thing to add to her list of anger toward her mom. I'm just really frustrated and I want to point this out to her but I am not sure what to do. 
I want to add that my parents and I do everything we can for her. We reach out to her as much as possible but since we live 4 hours away, it makes it difficult to know what she needs daily. She is definitely loved, she just can't accept it.
As a background, my aunt and her daughter have had a difficult relationship these past many years. Abby is 19 and they have been on shaky ground for about 8 years. Abby doesn't think that anyone really loves her and she has found herself in a verbally abusive relationship with her boyfriend. He completely controls her. She doesn't think her mom cares about her at all. So. . . My aunt called last night to tell me that my Abby was in the hospital because of a severe migraine and dehydration. Of course the main concern was her health but after it was established that she was going to be fine, I started asking my aunt what hospital she was at, when she would be home etc. . . Turns out my aunt wasn't sure what hospital because she wasn't there! She decided to wait at home and have dinner ready!
She said that since her dad was with her she didn't need to go. Here was a perfect opportunity to show her daughter that she cares for her and she stayed home to cook??? Is it just me or is this just fueling the fire. Now Abby has one more thing to add to her list of anger toward her mom. I'm just really frustrated and I want to point this out to her but I am not sure what to do. I want to add that my parents and I do everything we can for her. We reach out to her as much as possible but since we live 4 hours away, it makes it difficult to know what she needs daily. She is definitely loved, she just can't accept it.
