Seriously? 38 is old?

[littleclover]

Ok, I am a single 38 yr old mother and why is it so hard to find a decent gentleman? Just someone to meet, enjoy conversation, get to know each other and then MAYBE, EVENTUALLY have a relationship.

Is it so much out of the realm to wait a bit for more to follow (if everyone knows what I mean, I know you do!)....

Believe me, since I am a single mother I have had some fun in life but since I have put everything and everyone on the backburner for my boy, how, oh, how do you just jump back in? My boy is about 13 so I thought maybe I can take just a little time for me but perhaps not?

Ok, rant and self pity over, thank you to all who listened.

 

[Melissa M]

Who told you 38 is old and who told you that you can't date?

 

[Blondie]

Have you tried any of the dating services that screen it's members?

A co-worker just joined Great Expectations. She's very impressed with the screening process, but it's not cheap. There's a monthly fee.

Another friend met a decent guy on Yahoo personals.

Oh, and didn't ya hear? 38 is the new 25!

Seriously, 38 is NOT old!

 

[punkin]

You are not old. My mother remarried (for the 3rd and last time) when she was 39 (just the age I am now) and my stepfather was wonderful. I loved him very much and he loved me and my mother very much. They died within 2 years of ech other (much too young). There are good men out there.

 

[Melissa M]

Oh, and didn't ya hear? 38 is the new 25!

Woo Hoo!! Then I'm gonna start telling people I'm 23.

 

[highland3]

38!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's only old from the perspective of an 18 year old. I'm a 40 year old man, who spends time trying to keep up with a 6 year old son and 10 year old daughter. I know I feel old once in a while... and long for the days when I was a mere 38

Seriously though... you shouldn't worry. Count on friends to introduce you to some guys... keep an eye out at work... there must be a few good ones left in your neighbourhood!!!

 

[littleclover]

You are not old. My mother remarried (for the 3rd and last time) when she was 39 (just the age I am now) and my stepfather was wonderful. I loved him very much and he loved me and my mother very much. They died within 2 years of ech other (much too young). There are good men out there.

Ok, so just make me cry, really...

I will give this much, I am not ancient, I will give everyone that and I know that having a child puts some men off but I am not looking for anyone to take care of my son. I have done this for the past 12 1/2 yrs and will continue to do so.

I kind of tried the personals as suggested but there are some wackos out there?????

 

[highland3]

Ok, so just make me cry, really...

I will give this much, I am not ancient, I will give everyone that and I know that having a child puts some men off but I am not looking for anyone to take care of my son. I have done this for the past 12 1/2 yrs and will continue to do so.

I kind of tried the personals as suggested but there are some wackos out there?????

You mean more than just the DISer wackos???

Keep the faith... good things really do happen to good people. Sometimes it just takes a while!

 

[littleclover]

You mean more than just the DISer wackos???

Keep the faith... good things really do happen to good people. Sometimes it just takes a while!

You know a co-worker keeps telling me the same thing so I guess I better believe.

A DIS person wouldn't lie, right?

 

[highland3]

Never!!!

 

[mrsheppo]

38 is not old. I was 40 when I met DH. We fell in love immediately and married 3 months after our first date. I was a single mother with 4 kids and he had 6 of his own. We have been married over 8 years now. Love is worth waiting for.

 

[All American]

What?! I thought that 40 is the "new" twenty. So, according to that, 38 is the "new" 18. Don't worry, you're a long way from old.

 

[EEYOREMAMA]

OMG honey, if 38 is old, I better start preparing for retirement now. I'm a bit older than you, I have never felt or looked better. If you believe you're old, you are. You need to give yourself a pep talk and realize that you are in the prime of your life. If you think you have something to offer another person in a relationship, you are ready for one.

I am no Dear Abby, but my advice is: Keep on looking, send out positive vibes that you are available, and let nature take it's course. There are a lot of wonderful men out there and they just might be looking for a relationship with someone just like you.

Remember the glass is half-full and some guy will be lucky to get you!!! Go 4 it and good luck!!!!

 

[JadenLayne]

Wow, 38 is the new 18! Then I'm only 14, woo-hoo!

Seriously I'm almost 35 and expecting a baby (adoption) hopefully late spring. I hope I'm not to old to raise her, LOL!

 

[miss missy]

I have pretty big opinions on this one. Congrats on putting your child first! Not that you can't date, but I wouldn't introduce your child to a man until your well and sure you are gonna marry him. No child needs to meet guys in and out of Mom's life. JMHO. And no 38 isn't old!

 

[littleclover]

I have pretty big opinions on this one. Congrats on putting your child first! Not that you can't date, but I wouldn't introduce your child to a man until your well and sure you are gonna marry him. No child needs to meet guys in and out of Mom's life. JMHO. And no 38 isn't old!

After about 12 yrs plus of putting my son first and being alone (which is why I am feeling a bit blue) I think I have this part down pretty well, but thanks for the advice!

Thank you to all the positive vibes and pm's I have received. Yes, I am feeling kind of down right now and I know tomorrow is a new day so that means head up, smile on and the good Lord will bless me when it's time!

 

[fabshelly]

39 here, and just met Mr. Right at KoreanFriendFinder.com a couple months ago. It took a while to find the right guy, but he's perfect for me. It's not gonna happen overnight.

And, before I decided to look for a serious relationship, I had a bunch of 20-25 year old boyfriends. Age is just a number.

 

[littleclover]

39 here, and just met Mr. Right at KoreanFriendFinder.com a couple months ago. It took a while to find the right guy, but he's perfect for me. It's not gonna happen overnight.

And, before I decided to look for a serious relationship, I had a bunch of 20-25 year old boyfriends. Age is just a number.

Well this made me laugh! I just finished telling my one of 30 cousins that turning 30 is no big deal. Age is just a state of mind! Guess I should take some of my own advice? Maybe tomorrow...

 

[Forevryoung]

And, before I decided to look for a serious relationship, I had a bunch of 20-25 year old boyfriends. Age is just a number.

I had to respond to this- age is just a number and please please please remember that BOYS NEVER GROW UP. (and 38 is not old)

My boyfriend is 41 and there is a 19 (yes 19) year age difference between us (I'm younger). He acts like a 14 year old most of the time (sometimes like a 7 year old). Giggles when he farts, the whole bit

I always tell my friends when they say that they are looking for a man in his late 20's/early 30's because he will be more mature, settled down etc... that it's all a lie!!! They NEVER mature, they never settle down.

He told me this weekend that he will buy his motorcycle now that his son turned 18 (from marriage number one out of two). I shook my head, both of us have seen the horrible things that happen to people who ride (ride on an ambulance)... but it's his life and who am I to say what he can or can't do.

Ok, the positives: with all his "female experience" he has learned many things; my DBF treats me like gold, spoils me rotten, tells me every day, a million times a day that he loves me. We are 262 miles apart (I'm in grad school) and it stinks, but he is willing to stick by me through it.

 

[kellyg403]

38 is not old...especially now that I am over that 40 hump! Seriously, I was a single mother with 6 kids and found a great guy at 37. Met him at the grocery store of all things. Been together 6+ years now and I wish I had met him in my 20's!

Just never know where you will meet him..but he is out there!

Kelly