Sept break with Mother!!!!

[Nordicpollan]

This will be our 4th Orlando holiday as a family. There is me DW(Karen), DH (Jeremy), DS1(Jamie 18), DS2(Stu17). We have always just gone with the flow and generally had a good time. DS2 is V.disabled and this will be our last big Florida holiday( it is getting harder and harded to get all his bits and pieces out there and medical insurance!).
Soo Hubby asked my mother if she would like to come this time ahhhhhhhhh. Not really thinking she would but Hell fire she said YES. Now not only do I have to worry about all our bits and pieces I've got hers to worry about too. Then DS1 girlfriend asked if she could come too!!!!!!!!! This is now getting silly(She got nearly £1000 in 18th b/day money!!) What the hell in for a penny!
We are staying in Kissemee for the 1st time in a Villa(Just can't share a hotel room with DS1 feet any more!) So this will be exciting, our own pool (no funny stares for DS2).But and this is a big BUT how do I cope with my Mum who is a bit over weight, not into Disney and generally the biggest pesimist(sp!) on the planet

HELP

Karen

ps Sorry for waffling!!!

 

[poet123]

we leave on wed and with us will be MIL who is fine but how can I put this politely?? gives more detail about anything/everything than a human can be expected to bear!!!!!!!!!!DH is saying now he is not sure if he can do 2 weeks !!
LOL its me she talks too mainly, he shuts down!! and assumes a glazed expression and she gets the picture and concentrates on me. So spare a thought for me.
I have put some strategies in place;;;;;;;;;-
1. she sits next to our 2 DS's on the plane!!
2. Plenty good books to be immersed in poolside.
3. DH has been told he must take his turn listening she is HIS mother after all!!!!!!!!!!!!
4. We are in a large villa with lots of rooms.

Hope these work!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Nordicpollan]

Poet 123
Thanks for the reply. I'm glad I'm not the only one .

Have decided that we will have to put a plan together before we go to keep Mum from driving me mad!

Have already tried to tell she needs to get some walking practice in, but she is not interested.
Have told her there will be days when DS2 won't be up to doing much more than lazying around, so won't be able to run her around.
I do so want her to enjoy being away with us but don't want to feel I have to entertain her all the time, its my holiday too

Thanks for letting me whinge

Karen

 

[Sue F UK]

Hi Karen,

We had the same experience a couple of years ago with my MIL. Although we thought we had made it clear that we would be visiting parks etc. every day she seemed to think that once we got there we would drop all our plans and just ferry her round the shops all day!!

It caused a few arguments and in the end we just left her in the villa alone because she hated Disney. Although, to be honest, the woman is certifiable so we weren't surprised!

On the other hand I was really concerned about my DF when we took him first time as he can be a bit of a pessimist too. He absolutely loved it - we were all amazed by his reaction and he has been 4 times since!!

Just goes to show that you can't tell how someone will react to Disney until you actually get them there, your mum may well love it!

The best advice I can give is to make absolutely certain that your Mum knows, before you leave, what kind of holiday you are going on and that you are expecting her to go along with you. If you have done that, she really will have no room for complaint.

Having the villa will be great as they are generally very large and have room to get away from her if it becomes too much for you!

If walking is the issue for her then it may be an idea to hire an electric ECV scooter for her in the parks. They are around $30 for the day but they do sell out quickly so get there early.

Try not to worry - and have a great holiday!

 

[Nordicpollan]

Hi Sue

Thanks for your reply! Glad I'm not the only one with dodgy rellys!

We have decided to have a pre-holiday party for Mum and DS1 girlfriend.

We are just saying to them this is how we normally do things and hope that they will get the hint.

I love my Mum to bits but she can be happy being miserable most of the time.

This holiday is so important as it is the last big holiday DS2 will be able to do due to ill health (although hoping to get a few trips to DLP in but its not the same).
A bright spot today was getting $1.8 at M&S for some of holiday money

Has anyone done The Pirates theme Meal? DS2 loves anything Pirate!LOL So thinking of going

Karen

 

[Disney owl]

all i can say Karen is please please don't tell my mum!!!!!

We've been twice to WDW & she's never been something she mentions at intervals!!!!!!

On a happier note we took DS girlfriend last year & that worked out OK. They were a bit younger then your DS at 16 so they just did everything we did. We borrowed a pair of walkie talkies so we could split up in the parks if they wanted to, though most of the time they stayed us.

Being in a villa helped too.

Have you a plan for your holiday ?? If so I suggest you chat about it with you mum , politely saying this is what will be happening.

Good luck

 

[juliebro]

Just got back from the Algarve and my Mum and nephew (aged 14) came with us for the first time. Normally it's just the 3 of us (DH, DS & me) but DF died 18 months ago and we thought we ought to invite her along. I can't really remember whose idea it was to invite my nephew - I think he invited himself!

Mum is very chatty to say the least - DH asks me if she thinks her jaw will lock up if she doesn't keep moving it! She's also not quite up to a lot of the walking about and exploring that we usually do.

However - the holiday worked out much much better than we thought. Everyone throroughly enjoyed themselves. We just tried to plan something together that Mum would enjoy each morning (even if DS & nephew weren't too keen) - then told her what the plan was for the afternoon and she then decided whether or not she wanted to (or felt up to) join us. If she didn't, she sat on the balcony at the apartment and read her books, as it was very hot. Then we all went out to eat together in the evening.

We just tried to make sure that everyone got something out of each day.

As long as everyone is reasonably considerate - you should have a great time.

Julie

 

[Nordicpollan]

Thanks Sue

Not worried about DS1 and GF as they are more than able to go off and do their own thing! We have just got a couple of 2 way radios so if we need to get in contact we can or if they want us it will be OK.

Tried this weekend to chat with Mum but she just says she will do what ever we want!!!(but she has that look on her face)

Guess I'm hoping if I think it will dreadful it can't possibley be that bad.

On a brighter note it was DS2 17th birthday yesterday, he was well and enjoyed himself, the sun shone , the Barbie lit first time, friends arrived, the wine flowed and a good time was had by all. Oh and Nanny got totally soaked in the water pistol fight and had to drive home with soggy knickers much to the delight of all her granchildren. Just getting her ready for Kali River Rapids!!!


Still smiling at that sight

Karen

 

[KayleeUK]

Originally posted by Nordicpollan
Just getting her ready for Kali River Rapids!!!

LOL