Separate bedrooms

[willis37862]

I think that I'm absolutely not entitled to an opinion on how other people choose to sleep...

I don't know why that just struck me as funny. True but funny.

 

[clifford]

I cannot tell you how often our guest room gets used. I mean c'mon we all need to sleep. He says I snore I say he farts.

 

[willis37862]

He says I snore I say he farts.

That is stinking hilarious!

 

[clifford]

That is stinking hilarious!

Ain't that the truth

 

[NMAmy]

I've heard so many times elderly women say when their spouse passed away it was so hard to get used to sleeping alone. Well, that is one thing I won't have to deal with when the time comes, or vice versa if I go first.

My mom had this problem when my dad died. She sleeps on his side of the bed now. After 40 years, it was really weird for her to sleep alone. When I was out of town for a couple of days, DH told me he slept on my side of the bed because he missed me.

 

[Chicago526]

What do you think about spouses that have separate bedrooms? What if one spouse snores like a truck and it goes through the ear plugs you wear? What if one spouse likes the room hot and the other likes it cold? Interested to hear some opinions....

My grandparents did this as they got older. My grandmother couldn't sleep (insomnia) and would unintentionaly either keep my grandpa up or wake him up. So he started sleeping in the spare bedroom! At first I was shocked, but the more I thought about it, the more it made sense. Besides, they spent 95% of their waking hours together, so sleeping apart really wasn't that big of a deal!

 

[Dodie]

I don't understand why people find this shocking.

Although we don't have separate bedrooms, I do know couples who do.

I take every opportunity on vacations to book a room with two beds though - so DH and I can each have our own. It's WONDERFUL and we sleep very well.

 

[Pooh67_68]

ALL WIVES OF SNORING HUSBANDS have them tested for sleep apnea!!

What to do with a husband who knows that is probably the problem but won't be tested? because he works with people who were and they told him either a mask and noisy machine or surgery.

Sometime the snoring is a pain but we do sleep in the same room, I just wake him enough to get him to roll on his right side, than he stops snoring.

Everyone is entilted to their own, and if sleeping in different bedrooms works for them, than who am I to say different.

 

[ducklite]

My inlaws have slept in seperate bedrooms for going on twenty years. My MIL can't deal with FIL's snoring.

Anne

 

[stitch79]

What to do with a husband who knows that is probably the problem but won't be tested? because he works with people who were and they told him either a mask and noisy machine or surgery.

I have a friend who lost her brother due to sleep apnea. He stopped breathing for too long and had a stroke, so it can be very serious.

My husband has had his machine for a year now and it makes a *HUGE* difference. Its amazing what a good night sleep can do for someone. The machine is not that noisy, it doesn't bother him or I now. There are tons of choices now in machines and the masks that are used, chances are your husband can find one that he can be comfortable in. Please do all you can to encourage your husband to be tested.

 

[goofy4tink]

My dh did have the overnight sleep study done. The results? The doctor said, and I quote, "Well, you don't have any signs of sleep apnea but you sure do have a snoring issue!!!" When the eye/ears/nose/throat dr told him the surgery for the deviated septum "Might" work and would most likely have to be done more than once...well, dh opted out. Since he is asleep by 9:15 and I can't go to sleep that early, the different bedrooms works great for us. I know it's not a solution for everyone, but for us it is a great thing!!

 

[Tumbleweed]

Here's a helpful hint for couples who are both cover hogs. We have a king-size
bed. I use a king-size bottom sheet. Then I make up the bed with two twin
sheets, and two twin blankets, and then put the king-size bedspread over
them. It lets each of us have our own sheet and blanket to roll up in, and
he can kick his blanket off, and I still have mine!
We also use about 6 pillows, so we matching cases by buying each item
separately.

BTW, when at Disney where king-size beds are at a premium, we each grab
a bed for ourselves. We have traveled with friends. 2 couples sleep in one
bed (the wives telling me their husbands would get their feelings hurt), and
the other couple just takes over both beds like us!

 

[Planogirl]

Mine was tested for apnea and didn't have it. He also had surgery and his nose reset and it didn't help. He was given a mouth device to wear and he broke it the first night. It was not covered by insurance.

There just wasn't anything else left to do. I don't see what the big deal is.

 

[lulugirl]

Dh and I are very happily married despite the fact that most nights he gets kicked to the guest room due to his snoring! I am an extremely light sleeper so it takes very little to wake me.
We always start off in bed together, watch tv, talk....as soon as he starts to fall asleep and snore....BYE BYE!!!!
It works for us.

 

[disneyfan61]

There are plenty of people who sleep in separate bedrooms and you're looking at one. My DH had everything medically done that anyone could think of to stop the snoring but nothing worked. Neither one of us were sleeping between his snoring waking me up and me waking him up to complain, so we finally gave up.

I can see him when I'm awake, I don't need to see him while I'm sleeping.

My Husband & I are the same way. He would wake me up with his
snoring & I just could not handle it anymore. Now we both sleep much better
in different rooms!! To the poster who said there must be other options-I'm ALL
EARS!!! We have tried a lot of different things & he still snores. Until your in the situation do not judge. I think it is easy for people that are not going thru it to say there are other ways. Not here. No matter what position he is in he snores.
Now I get a great nights sleep & so does he.

 

[hugsquared]

DH and I gave up sleeping in the same bed a long time ago. My mother was totally shocked when she found out (accidentaly through my DD). She is very much a traditionalist and I'm sure she thought we were on the brink of divorce! But there is no way I would ever get any sleep otherwise: I go to bed between 10 and 11, I need complete dark and silence to sleep and I wake up at 5:30 am to work. DH is nocturnal and stays up until 2:00 am or so and cannot fall asleep without the TV on - full volume. Plus he snores - LOUDLY. I simply cannot sleep in the same bed with him! We found out early on in our marriage that we were incompatible in that way and we've worked around it. No big deal. It's not weird - it's what works for us.

I swear we're married to the same man. And the fact we're both in Atlanta mankes me really wonder. LOL
Seriously, its the same with us. I have to be up at 5am and have a horrible time going to sleep. And if I get woke up, forget going back to sleep. He on the other hand, is up half the night and then has to have the tv on to fall asleep. Thats not compatable with me allowing him to live. So on nights before I work, he sleeps in the other room, otherwise, he's in our bed. Thank goodness I only work 3 days a week. But there is absolutely nothing wrong in our marriage and it works for us. Its really not for anyone but us to judge.

 

[Steamboat Marti]

Breath right strips....................................................$5.99
Nose surgery..........................................................$5,000
Sleep study............................................................$xxxxx

Sleeping through the night in the other room.................priceless

 

[disykat]

I cannot tell you how often our guest room gets used. I mean c'mon we all need to sleep. He says I snore I say he farts.

I would love a guest room for that reason! I've ended up on the couch before for that reason. It wouldn't make sense to kick him out when the room already stinks! Before we had kids I would sometimes end up in the guest room even if I started the night in our room. Now all the rooms are taken, but I can see it happening again when the kids leave home. I'd love to be able to watch tv or read in bed, but dh needs to go to sleep too early.

 

[DisneyJen0504]

Whatever works for the couple if they feel that it is the best solution they can come up with but that would not work for us...we enjoy sleeping in the same bed every night.

 

[poohlover]

to those that are wondering my DH waited more than 5 YEARS!!! before he got tested. Finally one morning I told him he had stopped breathing until I HIT him, & I threatened to sleep on the couch until he had the test done...he made an appt for the testing that day!

Sleep apnea raises your blood pressure & puts you at risk for heart attack & strokes. NO LAUGHING MATTER!

I had complained to & yelled at my DH for MANY years about his snoring. Why he finaly did it??? I really do NOT know...but I will feel much better once he is on a machine...& now that he has been tested he is the FIRST to tell others THEY should be tested!! AND HE WAS ONLY TESTED 2 DAYS AGO!!!

I know not all snoring is caused by sleep apnea, but VERY loud snoring IS a sign. Along with head aches in the morning, form lack of oxygen, a loss of patience, waking up tired, never feeling really rested. If you have concerns talk to your DR.