Separate bedrooms

[Steamboat Marti]

What do you think about spouses that have separate bedrooms? What if one spouse snores like a truck and it goes through the ear plugs you wear? What if one spouse likes the room hot and the other likes it cold? Interested to hear some opinions....

 

[ChrisnSteph]

I think there are better ways to deal with loud snoring and temperature issues than sleeping in seperate rooms. I think it's odd!

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I've only known one couple to sleep in separate bedrooms. They did it for a few years b/c the marriage was over and they didn't love one another. They have finally divorced.

I, too, think it is odd.

For temp issues---easy--I sleep with all the blankets and hubby does not.

 

[Rozzie]

I see nothing wrong with it. It has saved me, I do have to function the next day, and sometimes I just can't sleep through the "train". We only sleep separate about 2x a week though.

 

[minkydog]

Personally, if I didn't know it would hurt my hubby's feelings I would have separate bedrooms. He has a lot of health problems and he's up a lot at night. He gets cold easily and wants to snuggle often. Which would be great except I'm going through menopause and therefore am hot all the time. I can't stand covers on me, let alone another human being. Being menopausal makes me have difficulty staying asleep, as well. He says I snore. So does he. The difference is, I let it go. He feels the need to wake me up and tell me I'm snoring. He feels the need to wake me up to tell me all about his bad dream. He feels the need to wake me because the dog puked. He doesn't sleep well either(due to all the meds he's on) unless he takes a sleeping pill.

I would sleep a lot better if i had my own space. But he would never understand and he would take it as a personal failure on his part. So I give him his sleeping pill a few times a week to make sure he stays knocked out.Then we all get pretty good rest and the peace is kept another day

 

[Disney Doll]

If the spouses don't have a problem with it, then neither do I.

Plus, they can "visit" each other when they want to.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I think there are better ways to deal with loud snoring and temperature issues than sleeping in seperate rooms. I think it's odd!

When my wife starts her snoring, I move to another room. I don't find it odd. To each their own. But then again, hers gets so bad, that I set up a camcorder one night just to show her how bad it gets!

 

[SunFloridaDisney]

Whatever works for the couple.

I have a very good friend whose DH snores very badly, and they had separate rooms for a long time. They've recently moved, and are trying the same room again to see how it goes.

Could be more interesting since they'd have to make it a 'date' to get together, KWIM??

 

[mbw12]

If it doesn't bother the couple.....who cares? Whatever works for them. I am sure ALL of us do things in our relationships/marriages that others might find "odd."

 

[PenskeSth1]

My Dh snores like a dump truck...UGGHH In the middle of the night when he starts cutting his lumber I tap him and let him know..He usually ends up out on the couch. I tell him if he rolls on his side he stops...I guess it is easier just to get up and go out to the couch...Funny thing is, he only snores when he has had a long busy day...

 

[KimR]

DH and I gave up sleeping in the same bed a long time ago. My mother was totally shocked when she found out (accidentaly through my DD). She is very much a traditionalist and I'm sure she thought we were on the brink of divorce! But there is no way I would ever get any sleep otherwise: I go to bed between 10 and 11, I need complete dark and silence to sleep and I wake up at 5:30 am to work. DH is nocturnal and stays up until 2:00 am or so and cannot fall asleep without the TV on - full volume. Plus he snores - LOUDLY. I simply cannot sleep in the same bed with him! We found out early on in our marriage that we were incompatible in that way and we've worked around it. No big deal. It's not weird - it's what works for us.

 

[binny]

hey whatever works for them.


It may not be what I want but dh and I have snoring contests every night so I guess Im used to it LOL


If its what it takes to get a good nights sleep more power to ya (or them)

 

[Lil_Tink]

What ever works. I think it is easier for them to have 2 beds. Dont know.. If their cool with it, Im cool with it.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

I have 2 friends that sleep in seperate bedrooms. One friend says her husband snore too much and the other friend says her husband gets up too early in the morning and she works late at night and wants to sleep in without being disturbed.

 

[Pooh Girl 71]

My parents sleep in separate rooms since my sister and I moved out. Mom snores like a lumberjack and my dad is hard of hearing and keeps the tv up far too loud. They get along better b/c of the separate rooms.

 

[kilee]

My dh is out of town for work 3-4 nights a week. Anyhow, it's very hard to go from sleeping alone to not alone every other night. So I will be the first to admit, when he's home, if he falls asleep at night on th couch or in the recliner- I don't wake him. I like having all the pillows, blankets, and the whole bed to myself. So, we don't have separate rooms, but I would prefer to have a bed to myself all the time. I LOVE him very much- but I love him even more when I've had a good nights sleep and I'm not crabby in the morning.

 

[luvmydogs]

Honestly, it would be my dream to have separate bedrooms. Dh thrashes and snores, and I can't tell you how many times I've been kicked or whacked with a forearm or elbow--even in a king size bed. He tries to take my pillows from under my head, too. I now put a body pillow vertically between us and it's helped some. He travels two or three times a year for his work, and sleeping alone is like heaven.

I really like having him next to me in bed, but there are nights I just want him out.

 

[Tinkim]

I don't think it's wierd. For some couples I think it is neccessary to sleep separate so they can get some rest. My DH snores very infrequently but when he does I wish I had my own room! I can't imagine trying to sleep through that every night. Whatever works . . .

 

[Lewski709]

What do you think about spouses that have separate bedrooms? What if one spouse snores like a truck and it goes through the ear plugs you wear? What if one spouse likes the room hot and the other likes it cold? Interested to hear some opinions....

I think it's fine. I'm not one of those couples, yet....but could be. I know at least 3, happily married couples that do this. In one case, it's snoring. Another case, sleep apnea and breathing machine. The last case, different shifts and one is a really light sleeper. Whatever works for each person. Personally, I sleep just fine without my spouse. I get the whole bed then and ALL the covers.

 

[willis37862]

I never knew how many people with good marriages slept in separate rooms, until I started my house cleaning business. Sometimes I want to kick myDH out of bed. When he tosses and turns and rolls over me. I need my beauty sleep, all I can get!!!