Sending Christmas Cards Forever?

[disney junky]

How long do you continue to send cards to people who don't send them to you? A year? Two? Three? Eternity?
Anyone have a foolproof system?

 

[summerrluvv]

Most of my family doesn't send a Christmas card to me, but I send them one every year.

 

[snowwite]

I drop them from the list if they dont respond.

 

[ckay87]

About 2 years if I don't receive a card from them at all.

 

[DVC-Don]

Couple years.

 

[lg3]

If I don't get any for two consecutive years I usually drop them. Sometimes 3 if I really want to keep them on my list.

I remember one year I was very ill and unable to send out cards - felt terrible about it. I tried to call some people, but it was hard (this was before email took off). I was amazed at how many people I didn't get a card from the following year. It was very disappointing, and frankly hurt my feelings. I give people the benefit of the doubt now and never drop after just one year. Life gets crazy sometimes.

 

[DaisyD]

I usually keep them on my list. I don't give presents with the expectations of getting gifts in return so why do that with cards? I give gifts because I like to. I send cards because I like to. If I get one back, fine. If not, then that is fine too.

 

[Stitchfans]

My policy is usually three strikes your out. This goes for a lot of things.

 

[NCDisneyMom]

For me, it depends on who it is. I have one aunt and one cousin (on different sides of the family) who never send cards. It's just not their thing. But, since they are family I am close with, I still send cards anyway.

Now, if it's an old friend, or a distant family member, I usually give it 2 or 3 years. Because of situations like the poster above, I never go on just 1 year. People have things that come up that prevents them from sending cards, and I would hope that people would understand if I had to skip a year, as well.

 

[DisneyfeverTN]

I have a list of people and they get a card from me every year. Some of them send cards back, some don't. That's fine. I like sending them out.

 

[Blondie]

I live by the two year rule. If after two years I get no card back, they're off my list.

I can understand things coming up, mail getting mis-delivered, etc.

But for two or more years? I don't buy it. I think some people are just lazy and don't want to spend the price of what can be a cheap box of cards and the price of a stamp to go along with it. If they're in a financial hardship, that's one thing, and that's why I go by the two year rule. But most of the time, it's just plain laziness or lack of consideration.

I've recieved unexpected cards long after I've mailed mine out and put them away. I always make a point to get them back out again to reciprocate. It's the least I can do to show my appreciation that they thought of me.

 

[summerrluvv]

I'm really surprised at the number of people who will only send cards if they get one back I always go by the "it's better to give than to receive" motto. I don't send a card to get one in return (or a gift for that matter). I send it because it's what I like to do.

 

[Blondie]

I also enjoy sending them out too, but sooner or later I have to draw the line. To me it's like waving (as in to say hello) at someone when they don't wave back. Sooner or later I'm going to stop waving at them.

 

[hpygrll]

One strike and your out!!! My friends laugh at me about this - I had one who had circumstances beyond her control and couldn't send one and she said "please don't take me off your list." haha

Jenny

 

[Chattyaholic]

Usually 2-3 years.

But last year I really pared my list down. I got tired of sending cards and personal letters to people I never, ever see anymore if they only send a card back and no letter. I like "keeping in touch" with letters and if they're not interested in that, then I figured it was time to end it. And those that I didn't send cards to last year, didn't send to me either so I feel they were only sending cards back because I sent to them first. Now there is no obligation to do so on either side.

Now I only send out about 20-25 cards instead of 40 or more.

 

[sweetspicy]

15 years. If in 15 years they haven't sent a card back to me, they go OFF the list.



Of course, I'm joking. I haven't even been sending cards for that long. But seriously, I'm always too busy around the holidays to keep a running total of who's sent a card back to me. I open them, display them and that's it. I have a list of friends and relatives to send cards to, and they still get one every year, no matter what. What if people just become too busy to send a card? I don't mind still spending a total of one or two minutes to write them one. I guess it's part of my Christmas spirit.

 

[UP Disney]

If it is someone that is really important to me even though they don't send them to me, I will send them to them forever. If it is someone that was important at one time in my life but isn't anymore, then I stop after two years of not hearing from them.

 

[mom2boys]

It depends on who it is. People have bad years & sometimes don't send cards at all - too much going on; just can't get into the groove, or a life-crisis. My list is at the pont now that I do want to send to eeryone on it. There are a couple of people on it who never send me a card 0 one is a bachelor cousin -actually my father's cousin & best friend. He's a great guy but unfortunately I rarely see him - weddings & funerals only. I have found memories of him growing up.

 

[kcork1026]

2 years here

 

[aprilgail2]

2-3 years for Christmas card...2 years for gifts with no thank you card/call....