Sad and Struggling {UPDATE}

[tiggerlover]

It is a sad day here for me as my best friend (in Italy) is bording a plane and moving on to her next assignment. My friend was the one (along with WISH) that inspired me to get healthy, she was there for me every step of the way, she was my support, my encouragement, my rock, my conscience. I know being in the military you have to say goodbye many times as you move on and in 17 years as a military wife I have had my share of goodbyes, but this is one person I just didn't want to say goodbye to. I just spoke to her at the airport and it just makes me so sad.

I have been struggling with my weight since after Thanksgiving, I have gained about 3.5 pounds with all of the going away parties, holiday parties and holiday goodies. Today is the start of TOM so I am out of sorts anyway and I am sure part of the 3.5 is from the bloat fairy, but I am just struggling. I knew the Christmas season would be my downfall, it always has been all my life. I know what I need to do, but for some reason I am having a hard time putting it in to action. The only constant is my exercise, I was able to grab my 5 month exercise clippie yesterday which I know is great (imagine how much I would have gained if I weren't exercising ), but I still feel like I am spiraling.

Thanks for letting me vent.

 

[DoeWDW]

Here's a for you! I can feel your sadness. Goodbyes are so hard! Hopefully the two of you can continue to talk via email and instant messaging, but when you're used to a face-to-face relationship, that just never seems like enough, does it?

Change is so hard for us. It really throws us for a loop and takes us out of our comfort zone. It's okay to feel that way - quite normal. You will need a little time to get back in the groove - please give yourself a little leeway while you're adjusting.

We don't have to be perfect. We don't even have to actively try to lose weight at all times. There are times when it's OK to just maintain or minimize the gain when we are out of sorts.

You know how to eat healthy. You'll get back in the groove soon. Those good healthy habits you've been working on will seem like old friends and you'll pick them back up, almost unconsciously.

Here's another . Wish I could do more to help you but for now, reassurance that you'll get through this OK and encouragement to take it day by day will have to do.

Post here often, OK? We're here for you!

 

[anniet]

How sad for you to have to say goodbye!

But remember while she was the inspiration, YOU did all the hard work. She didn't lose the pounds for you, Tiggerlover, YOU did! And while I know you will keep in touch, I'm sure she doesn't want you to undo all of the good you two did together just because she has to move on.

So keep up the great work on the exercise and try to eat on plan as much as you possibly can this holiday season. I know the parties will come, and enjoy them, but once they are over hop back on plan!

You can do this!

 

[Miss Park Avenue]

for you. Goodbyes are hard...everyone gave good advice. Hopefully you can continue with emails and letters.

You need a pick-me-up! Try to drink lots of water and maybe do something that you don't normally do for yourself. Like get your nails done. Or a massage. Maybe you and your friend can do it together before she moves. That may help.

I'm not too familiar with military life, but maybe you too can make plans to visit each other soon. Take care.

 

[kamgen]

Debbi,
I am so sorry!!! If I could be there to give you a big hug, I would!
I know things are not easy and being so far away from family, friends and home must be so difficult.
Also, this time of year is hard on the weightloss wagon! Don't be so hard on yourself! You have been my constant buddy and inspiration through this years journey.....and I have learned that together we can do it! Even though we are not physically together...I am there in spirit and you are always in my thoughts!!!! Hope my friendship can keep you warm

ENJOY your holidays...drink lots of water and love yourself...if you feel you need a break...take one....January starts a new year and the continuation of a new you! You can do it!!! Email me if you need me...I am always here!

 

[Otto's Doll]

Debbi,
I know that this Christmas will be tough with your family not close by, and now with your friend moving too, but remember that God is in control! You have done a lot of hard work that won't be undone by a few weeks of indulgence. Try to balance any indulgences with a day or two of good habits, and remember to take care of yourself! The holidays can be very stressful and there is a lot going on for you right now. I will be keeping you (and the family) in my prayers. I know that after New Years you will get right back on track.
Take care, my friend.

 

[nativetxn]

{{{HUGS}}} sweetie. I'm sorry you are feeling so sad. It is hard to say goodbye to friends, I've had to do it myself

You still have us, though. I know it's not the same thing but we can help you. We will always be here for you if you need us and we really do care about you.

Hang in there.

 

[lmhall2000]

I just got through sending you a pm about a lady at our church- she shared with me how many close/dear friends they still have over there- the military community is a wonderful blessing and I know this must be tough for you---
Let's just say she gave you flying lessons and now it's time for you to take the lead and find someone else to share the inspiring journey of getting healthy. And make a date to hook up atleast once in the coming year- time passes so quickly and it'll give you something to look forward to- if it's doable!
And AWESOME task of keeping your exercise up!!!! That's much better than me- and it will pay off big time when you have time to focus on your food- without all these parties!
Stay strong Tigger!!
Tara

 

[tiggerlover]

You guys are wonderful, I thank you for taking the time to post your support, it really does mean the world to me.

I weighed in officially today and it isn't as bad as it was the other day (see what happens when you weigh in on a non weigh in day!) TOM is here and officially this week I have only gained .4, so that means I am only up 1.8 from Thanksgiving, so I suppose it isn't as bad as I thought originally. It is hard to realize it is the holiday season and some extra eating is involved, I will just have to try a little harder.

As for my friend, her plane was cancelled on Monday due to fog so I was able to spend more time with her, which really made me feel so much better. She did leave yesterday and I am assuming she arrived safe and sound in Orlando last night. Today they are off to Disney...how they are going to do Disney with jet lag is beyond me, but they sure are lucky to be there!!

Thank you again for the support, I don't know where I would be without my WISH friends.

 

[Hannosmom]

Debbi, I'm so glad you're feeling better. It is so sad to say good-bye to such a close friend.

I was a Navy brat and married a Navy man. When you are far from home, you form very close friendships very quickly! We were in Adak, Ak for 3.5 years and I still have several friends from that time that we still visit, 25 years later! We correspond with their grown children now, too.

Weight loss is such a common goal, just put your feelers out there and start your own walking group. Pretty soon, you'll have a nice group looking out for you. (I really need to do this, too )

Big hugs, Debbi. {{{{{{{{{{Debbi}}}}}}}}}}

 

[Disney_1derland]

ah.....here it is................

I've been there, done that so many times and your post just brought back the full force of some of those memories. Truly, this is a hard time of year to make such good-byes. Here is a very good thought for you though......

Surely this friend will remain in contact and continue to support you from afar. Imagine the joy in taking pictures of your progress and sending them through the mail to someone who wil share your joy, laugh and cry with you. Imagine the impact you will make on her life shen she is in a new place starting over yet again. Believe in the power of love and hang on to this dear person who has helped you find yourself and become inspired!

Think about the time you will meet again, the new, even healthier you and show her the impact she had on your life. That is the best gift you can give a friend. Do not lose your way, see her waiting for you at the end of this long road, waiting to welcome you to joy and health. Walk towards her, not away from her.

And, don't forget to come here for inspiration! I found myself hiding from these wonderful people during a similar recent time in my life and it did me no good whatsoever. there is no shame in working towards health, even during times of struggle. that's what WISH is all about!

Many Hugs to you, *WE* can all do this together!