?'s to any home daycare providers.

[mercydisney]

I have been a SAHM for 6yrs. I have always babysat a friends child, to pay for some Disney trips. When DD6 started kinder (last yr) I decided to do it full time, at my friends request. I care for 2 kids, a 2 yr old who I love and love her mom. She calls me her DD's second mom. I have started caring for an infant who is now 5 months old. I have also grown to love this child, the parents, I have learend to take w/ a grain of salt. I do the best for the child that I can, entertain her, play w/her, keep her on a schedule, and so on. The parent every wk have a complaint. I'm beginning to feel inadequate as her provider. I am trained in all aspects of child care. I have worked in a daycare where the parents always requested me. And now the complaining parents have stopped paying me holidays. I will call them on this.

Questions:

Do you write a contract for your parents?
I only take in 2 children so am not required to get license Is this a bad thing should I go ahead and get my license?
Should I ignore parents, because they are just concerned for their child. (I always meet parents before I take their child, I feel the parents should be comfortable w/me and I w/them. These people were awesome when we met w/ spoke for hrs. They still are, I think?
Should I speak w/them and tell them how I feel.


Any feedback w/be great. I'm confused about this whole situation. I love what I do and have been told by many I do a great job. Even the fussy parents. So what am I doing wrong.

If any body has any links to any forums that could help me they will be grtly appreciated.

I do need the extra income. So i can bet out of debt.

Sorry so long just so confused.

 

[Leigha]

I too kept kids in my home. I was certified, not licensed though. Much less of a hassle. My first thought is that if you can easily get someone else to keep, do it. You don't need the stress. Some people will take you as far as you'll let them go and they seem like the kind to go further and further. Let them know they have so many complaints that you feel like they don't think you're their best option. Either they'll agree and find someone else or they'll stop complaining. Hopefully there will be a two week period where you can each find someone else. Good luck!

 

[hollyb]

Fussy parents are that way becasue they feel sad/bad that they have to leave thier kids all day. It is nothing that you have done. They just need someone to pick on and your it. They feel jelous because your spending your days with the kids and they can't be there.

Just keep up the good work.

 

[Mom to Jordan]

When I did in home care, I aways kept just two to avoid the whole issue of meeting state requirments.
It does sound like the parents might feel bad that you have such a close relationship with thier daughter.
What I would do is to sit down with them and find out what their situation is.
something like...
I am getting the feeling that you may have some questions or concerns about the care your child is getting from me.
Could you please share these concerns with me and we can see if we can find a workable solution.
Listen to everything they have to say and then let them know what care you can and are willing to provide and then see if the two of you can make the situation work. That does not mean that you have to compromise on big issues that you may have such as naps ,routines etc. It might however mean that they just want to have a little bit more control in what their child does all day and little things such a letting them pick the jar of food she eats each day might satisfy them. Sometimes you just can not make a situation work and a different child might work better in your home. HAving two the same age is so much easier anyway!!!

Good luck!!
JOrdans' mom

 

[stacy6552]

What are the complaints? Are these first time parents? Can you say, "Look I know you're worried about leaving your brand new baby, but trust me....." Clearly you are concerned about it. If its weighing on your mind then I would consider quitting (that child).

I cared for two children (seperately). One went really well and one did not. The one that did not was older and had some very serious issues due to a changing situation at home, so I reccommended that she go to a center that would be more like school than a home that she could compair and contrast to. But as tough as it was the parents trusted me and expressed concerns without complaining.

For a baby you are providing a much better situation than she would have at a facility and the parents need to understand that. Daily complaints are not a good situation and you have other children to think about as well.

 

[mommiepoppins]

I have been a SAHM for 6yrs. I have always babysat a friends child, to pay for some Disney trips. When DD6 started kinder (last yr) I decided to do it full time, at my friends request. I care for 2 kids, a 2 yr old who I love and love her mom. She calls me her DD's second mom. I have started caring for an infant who is now 5 months old. I have also grown to love this child, the parents, I have learend to take w/ a grain of salt. I do the best for the child that I can, entertain her, play w/her, keep her on a schedule, and so on. The parent every wk have a complaint. I'm beginning to feel inadequate as her provider. I am trained in all aspects of child care. I have worked in a daycare where the parents always requested me. And now the complaining parents have stopped paying me holidays. I will call them on this.

WELL i AM A CERTIIED DAY CARE PROVIDER AND i
Questions:

Do you write a contract for your parents?
I only take in 2 children so am not required to get license Is this a bad thing should I go ahead and get my license?
Should I ignore parents, because they are just concerned for their child. (I always meet parents before I take their child, I feel the parents should be comfortable w/me and I w/them. These people were awesome when we met w/ spoke for hrs. They still are, I think?
Should I speak w/them and tell them how I feel.


Any feedback w/be great. I'm confused about this whole situation. I love what I do and have been told by many I do a great job. Even the fussy parents. So what am I doing wrong.

If any body has any links to any forums that could help me they will be grtly appreciated.

I do need the extra income. So i can bet out of debt.

Sorry so long just so confused.

I have a parent who has a child that I have to do so much for and I sometimes feel that way.
contract on one hand you are not certified so I would prob not go for a contact
also if you do not have a contact you can ask them to leave at any time
I would suggest this that you get paid holidays and also if the choose to stay home from work or if grandma picks the child up. do you include meals also
fyi in nys a day care provider can not have more than 2 children under the age of 3 that also includes there own.
example my dd is 2 and she would take up a slot and I was watching a 5 mnt old. that would be my max under the age of 3. I could have children over 3.
That also was in effect when I just did home day care while waiting to be certified. You can get fined. I would suggest you find out the laws in your state just to make sure you protect your self
good luck

 

[mommiepoppins]

check out you local social services that should have info regaring the laws or the office of family and children services
again good luck

 

[mercydisney]

After I posted I didn't know what everyone here would have to say? I feelt foolish for posting. But, I am so glad I did because everyone's post made me see the situation clearly.

HOLLB, I beleive your might be correct, only because she stated once to me " If it was not for you I would not be able to go to work." meaning she trusts me.

LEIGHA, I don;t want to loose her because my kids have gotten attached to her and right now I do need the income. I wish I could replace but right now know one I know needs my services. I waited to take her for 3 months and in that time I turned down 2 infants.

MOMTO JORDAN, that's is a great idea I believe the next time a complaint or "suggestion" happens I will sit down w/them.

STACEY6552, that is the reason I take only one infant at the time, so I can provide the care that they can not get at a daycare.

MOMMIEPOPPINS, I will look into the localpaper, The state that I live in I am able to take 4 kids at a time. But, I only take in 2, 1 infant and 1 toddler.
Occasionaly a neighbor will ask that I care for her child for a couple of hrs and I do because it gives the 2 yr old some interaction w/ a child her age.

 

[sbpuckett]

Questions:

Do you write a contract for your parents? Yes - I always used a contract and had parents sign and date.
I only take in 2 children so am not required to get license Is this a bad thing should I go ahead and get my license?Not unless you want to, if it's not required I don't see why it should be necessary now.
Should I ignore parents, because they are just concerned for their child. (I always meet parents before I take their child, I feel the parents should be comfortable w/me and I w/them. These people were awesome when we met w/ spoke for hrs. They still are, I think?I wouldn't say ignore them, but definitely ask for a few minutes to talk with them about any concerns.

I did in home daycare for one year only. I (unlike you) hated it. I have 2 sets of parents who still owe me over $400. I wouldn't worry too much about one set of parents... you can't please everyone. Good luck!