Reward charts

[tinkernelllec]

Anyone have ideas on a reward chart for 5 and 2 year olds? I don't know where to start...............please help, like what worked for you? Thanks!!!

 

[goofymom/pop]

I mapped out the week on a piece of paper across the top....did a few things like go to bed without a fuss, pick up toys etc down the side. If my DD got a star in each item for each day for the week she got several different rewards. I usually let her set her reward....sometimes it was an afternoon with Mom or Dad....a trip to the movies, a new barbie item(small), a new book or movie.....etc. Letting her pick seemed to make it more of a challenge she wanted to face. Bedtime was the big thing with her so if she went to bed with out a fuss...it was worth a movie on Saturday or Sunday. And each week wasn't a big reward....sometimes it was just a trip out for ice cream alone with us, no other siblings along.

Good luck!

 

[tinkernelllec]

I am looking for a way to keep my DS5 voice as an inside voice. He is so loud most of the time, I don't know how to reward the fact that he can talk in a normal tone. My DS2 doesn't talk much, but I was hoping to reward him for not whining and using words he does know. But I didn't know how to reward those things. Like should it be, one star for the whole day? or if they can get 5 stars a day? Any advice?

 

[goofymom/pop]

If you use stickers the opposite way...if he uses his outside voice when not appropriate he gets a x or a sticker on the chart. If he gets more than say 3 a day he has to start all over to get 7 days with no x's or stickers. When he has a day with no stickers or x's put a big STAR there. 7 stars means a reward. If he has less than 3 set a small reward...10 minutes longer til bedtime or something. I would set the number of loud voice occurances high to begin with and move it down as he progresses.

With your little one do the same thing. If he doesnt whine about coming in the house, or taking a nap give him a star, but if he does he must start over until he does it so many times in a row. Its much harder with littler ones. His rewards don't have to be as big of a deal as your older ones are, but make them important to him. Potty training is the easiest time to start a rewards chart with the little ones....what fun!

My kids are 24, 20 and 11....my middle one gave me more challenges than I care to remember. Oh boy the charts we went through. She even quit school at the age of 10 because she didn't need to go. Try solving that one with a chart. Thank heavens she is away at school.

 

[tinkernelllec]

Thank you, that helps as a way to start!!!! Well, you know when you are 10, you know everything.

 

[wldmtnflr]

I am looking for a way to keep my DS5 voice as an inside voice. He is so loud most of the time, I don't know how to reward the fact that he can talk in a normal tone. My DS2 doesn't talk much, but I was hoping to reward him for not whining and using words he does know. But I didn't know how to reward those things. Like should it be, one star for the whole day? or if they can get 5 stars a day? Any advice?

I have found it best to reward the behavior you want (inside voice) and ignore the behavior you want to discourage (outside voice). The "reward" could be a sticker or even just praise "I like how you are using your inside voice". The stickers will probably work real well for your 5 yo and the verbal praise for your 2 yo. Every time your child uses the inside voice you can praise him and give him a sticker on a chart. Choose how many stickers for a day and what reward for those stickers you want. Example: 3 stickers for a day gets you _________. Choose something interactive like play a game, you read him a book, whatever would motivate your child. Don't set the goal too high or your child will never meet it and get discouraged. As he gets better with using his inside voice you can raise the number of stickers per day.

Does this make sense? It sounds complicated but it really isn't. The key is to reward for the positive behaviors you want to encourage.

 

[scrapcreator]

Well, you know when you are 10, you know everything.

Yep, I wish I knew everything my 10 year old knows That's why we are going back to a chart system for getting chores, etc. done.

Jeanne