Resume Help And Divorce Help

[CajunDixie]

After several years of being a SAHM and currently working a part-time job I've found I now need to quickly find a lawyer, a full time job and a new place to live. I am so over whelmed at this point I don't even know where to begin!

I'd like to have suggestions of free resume builders that you have experience using...it'll be a very short resume so simple is best.

I'd also like any advice on starting the divorce process or any websites that might have great step by step advice. This could be an ugly one so I want to make sure I cover all my bases.

I know I can Google all this stuff but time on the internet is short right now and I'd rather have trusted sites the people here have used themselves.

Thank you very much!

 

[crazyforgoofy]

I can't give you specific sites but want to remind you to get your hands on any paperwork that shows the combined assets of your marriage (his 401k, pension, retirement, current or recent balances of your checking and savings). Gather money to protect yourself and your children. Contact an attorney immediately. Find out what you rights are in the state in which you live.

Good luck.

 

[septbride2002]

If you want to email me your information I would be happy to put a resume together for you. I've got a great program that helps me. My email is bryandmanda@charter.net

~Amanda

 

[Disney Doll]

Well, as far as the resume, I am no help. I will remind you to keep in mind any significant volunteer work you may have done, which involved large scale events, organizing an office or "system". In my case, I am the coordinator of the Parsih Nurses in my church. It is a volunteer position, but I include it on my resume because it involves managing the program, scheduling, planning educational events & health fairs...in other words, doing stuff that an employer might be interested in seeing as some of your skills.

As far as the divorce advice...get a handle on your total worth...house & its contents, cars, retirement, savings etc.

Some have given the advice to consult with the biggest "shark" lawyer in your area. Even if you don't use him/her, if your spouse goes to use them, they won't be able to take the case due to conflict of interest.

If you have children, remember to protect their interests.

Don't leave your home unless abuse is threatened, as that could be considered abandonment.

Hugs for you during this difficult time.

 

[diznygirl]

You might want to try a temp agency. They can put you in a full time job quickly and most have temp-to-hire positions available. Good luck!

 

[DisneyLovingMama]

I do resumes for a side job. I'd be happy to do yours (no cost). E-mail or PM me and I can start working on it for you.

 

[momof1princess]

i don't have any resume advice, but as a former legal secretary, i'll give you my thoughts regarding divorce proceedings: as the previous posters have said-financial knowledge is POWER-make sure you know exactly what you owe and what assets you have (and i'm talking about as a married couple). make a list of all expenses (including children's after-school) and income. if you don't keep the checkbook, call the bank and get copies of statements for the past 6 months (at least)-ask to pick them up when they're ready, and make SURE you get them. most attorneys will do a consult for free, but you'll need money for a retainer fee if you intend to hire him/her, so if you have to, borrow from family or friends (you can ask the attorney to put reimbursement of attorney's fees, filing fees, court costs in your petition). if you have the slightest inkling that your husband might balk at paying child support, let the attorney know and ask for an income withholding order-this will ensure that you get your money. also, PLEASE make sure you put in your petition that your husband take out life insurance of no less than 250,000 with your children as SOLE AND IRREVOCABLE beneficiaries (this will ensure that even if he remarries, your children's names can't be replaced). lastly, make SURE visitation is strictly spelled out-each holiday, birthday, etc. (my sister-in-law has to send her son to his dad for EVERY christmas and thanksgiving, which i think is a shame, she never gets a christmas with her son-not only that, she has to drive him over 4 hours round trip to his father, who didn't pay child support until the state started garnishing his tax refunds!) if i were you, i would insist that my children spend at least the morning of each thanksgiving and christmas with me, no exceptions. in an amicable divorce, most parents alternate holidays (mom gets thanksgiving dad gets xmas one year, mom gets xmas dad gets thanksgiving next year) but if yours is going to get ugly, this probably won't work. i'm sorry this post is so long, but it's been my experience that if you don't ask for something, you're certainly not going to get it, so make sure you at least petition the court for everything you can! best of luck to you

Donya
*going to WDW in 28 days!*

*~i'm not an attorney, never was, don't wanna be-just throwing some thoughts out there based on previous experience, no flames please~*

 

[ducklite]

Start to gather up all financials. As far as a divorce lawyer, make discrete inquiries through acquaintances--I would be leery of good friends, especially those who are couples youa re both freindly with. Rather your hairdresser, manicurist, the lady you make small talk with while waiting for your kids to finish dance, etc.

I agree, try a temp agency, they will not only help with your resume, but you can use their computers to practice your computer software skills.

Anne

 

[Caradana]

All REALLY GOOD advice here and I wanted to bounce it upwards for that reason. I 200% agree with the poster who noted that in cases of divorce, FINANCIAL KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. Even if you're saying "oh, he would never do that to me" ... don't risk your future on that guess. Protect yourself now. All the best, Dana

 

[CajunDixie]

Thanks everyone for the advice. I've saved this post to use as a reference. I have the resume done now. And will be contacting an attorney on Thursday most likely. My FIL has really stuck his nose in where it doesn't belong and is trying to control what happens now so I guess I need to find my "shark" ASAP. FIL is acting very nasty and bitter toward me when it was his own son who caused this huge mess. Anyway thanks for the offers to write up my resume!!