Resigning from a Committee??

[cats7494]

Please provide your feedback!

I need to resign from the Mission committee at my church, of which I am the chair person. I will continue my term until the end of this year but will not continue into next year. This committee does many many good things in the church and the community.

My work schedule and responsibilities are increasingly demanding and my children’s activities are also multiplying. (We have a 16 year old DD and a 4 year old DD)

At work, we have just created a non-profit related to furthering Civil Rights and my Director asked me to be on that Board of Directors and I agreed. As part of this non-profit, we will create a Youth Civil Rights Commission, for which I am responsible. That program will start up this school year.

I am also committed to another non-profit which helps homeless families and am the Chairperson of the Board of Directors for this organization.

I have had to take a look at my life and my schedule and make some hard decisions. I think it is in the best interest of my sanity and of my family that I step down.
Now the hard part is telling the committee and Pastors.

Any suggestions? This is tough for me. I am one of those awful "people pleasers" and hate to upset anyone. I just know this is better for my family.

Thoughts???

 

[Praying Colonel]

Please provide your feedback!

I need to resign from the Mission committee at my church, of which I am the chair person. I will continue my term until the end of this year but will not continue into next year. This committee does many many good things in the church and the community.

My work schedule and responsibilities are increasingly demanding and my children’s activities are also multiplying. (We have a 16 year old DD and a 4 year old DD)

At work, we have just created a non-profit related to furthering Civil Rights and my Director asked me to be on that Board of Directors and I agreed. As part of this non-profit, we will create a Youth Civil Rights Commission, for which I am responsible. That program will start up this school year.

I am also committed to another non-profit which helps homeless families and am the Chairperson of the Board of Directors for this organization.

I have had to take a look at my life and my schedule and make some hard decisions. I think it is in the best interest of my sanity and of my family that I step down.
Now the hard part is telling the committee and Pastors.

Any suggestions? This is tough for me. I am one of those awful "people pleasers" and hate to upset anyone. I just know this is better for my family.

Thoughts???

Rip that band-aid right off. Tough to do in a church because once you get on the "list" of people who will help, it's hard to get off the list. IMHO it's best for everyone to be up-front with your new schedule and that you won't be available anymore.

DW was involved in a lot of church activities and committees, then began work on her Masters. She just explained that and that she would be unavailable for about 3 years, and everyone understood.

 

[lovesmurfs]

Because you're chair of the committee, I would meet with your Pastor/Minister first and explain just what you did here, and ask how s/he would prefer it be handled.

I'm also a people-pleaser (and tend to overcommit). I've often kept myself in a position that I didn't feel committed to, or only accepted because I thought no one else will step up to the plate. What I've learned is that being in a place that's not right for me is keeping someone else from being blessed who might have stepped up if I wasn't in their way.

Best wishes, and

 

[cybrkitn]

Let your pastor know.

In my church (Lutheran), we have a church council. Missions is one of the council positions. Council positions are elected and voted upon by our congregation every 2 years. We've had positions where the elected had to resign for whatever reason (personal or other). That position was open b/c of the resignation and usually someone would fill in as an "acting" director until election time. Or there would be a special congregational meeting to elect someone.

 

[cats7494]

I resigned from my committee, effective December of this year. I am just not going to continue into 2011. It went well but I still feel guilty, of course.

Just more meetings and frustrations with this committee to be honest. I feel very relieved that I am letting this one go. It was hard to do but I feel so much better! I just could not see myself continuing this into next year. I just get a lot of requests from people at church and the community for volunteering and I am just now learning how to say no.