Remember when I was worried we'd have too many people????

[happylalagirl]

Well, some of you may recall me posting a few months ago how we wouldn't be able to afford all the original people (115) told about the wedding over a year ago...

Well, the invites went out to all of them anyway, and we had about 55 say Yes. There were many people who had a change in circumstances - most of my family actually.

I was so looking forward to meeting my DF's west coast family since, after almost 13 years of dating I had only met one aunt and uncle. THis is his Dad's side of the family or as he puts it, his favorite. THis is his Puerto Rican side of the family. HIs mother is English and most of her sisters/brothers live around us and we see them all the time.
Well, one of his cousin's who I was so looking forward to meeting, just passed away yesterday AM. She had a brain anuerism, had been in a coma for 23 days and 4 days ago, the family was informed there was no longer any brain activity. The family made the difficult decision to take her off of life support. It is very sad and my DF is planning on flying out to CA today or tomorrow AM for the funeral. Because of the cost of the wedding and the fact that's its' less than 4 weeks away, we can only afford for him to go out. When the family found out (about 2 weeks ago) how serious Cookie's condition was, they cancelled their trip to the wedding and quite understandably. I just wish I could have met her. I had heard such wonderful things about her and my mother actually had the opportunity to speak with her on the phone before my bridal shower. SHe had sent her favorite cook book with all the PR recipes she makes and a current pic of her, her daughter and her new grand daughter ( who were living with her). Please keep the entire family in your prayers. THey are such a tight-knit family. They all live within 15 mins of each other and are always getting together for family dinners and celebrations. That is the kind of family I would love to have and hope to raise one day.

I also just found out my cousin ( the only other family I had coming besides my immediate family) is probably not coming now. He is a Colonel in the Army reserves and has to go to Houston for a week - of course, it had to be the week right before my wedding... he doesn't think he'll be able to leave early and so they won't be able to come...

Also, we haven't heard from one of his friends in CA (Not related to the above mentioned family). He had said they were coming about 6 weeks ago, however, the room block was released and he and his wife were NOT on the final tally. He has a call out to them to see if they booked outside of the block or outside the resorts or if they will be unable to make it now as well. He's in the movie industry and as of a few months ago had said things were slow and he wasn't able to come out for the bachelor party... understandable... but hey, we are only a few weeks away now and if you're not going to be able to come, perhaps a phone call or even an e-mail would be in order... I also requested everyone's hotel information when I sent out the invites, so they did know I needed that info....

Oh well... at this point I believe we are down to 47, possibly, 45. In one way it's ok because we don't have to pay as much, however, I was so looking forward to sharing our day with these people.

Sorry for making this so long, but my best friend (BFF) is on a retreat from now until Sunday night with no contact and you guys are the next best friend I have (besides my DF of course. )
THanks for listening.

 

[Tinkerbellz]

Awwwwwwwe I am so sorry for your loss. Your families will be in my prayers.

It sounds as though you will still have a good group of family and friends with you when you marry your best friend.

Take some deep breaths, and relax and enjoy the day.

 

[dannirose]

I am sorry for your loss. Hang in there.

 

[afinter1]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure everyone you would like to be at your wedding will be there in spirit. :

Everything will work out, and we're glad you can came here to get this off your chest. It's a great place to do it.

 

[Belle1981]

I am so sorry for your loss. Things like this happen and it affects everyone so deeply. You are in our prayers here. Best wishes for you for the next few weeks. What a wonderful compliment about everyone on the boards. Like many of the ladies said everyone will be there in spirit. Please remember that we will be here supporting you. Lots of HUGS

 

[Cinderella Fan]

I am so sorry for your loss. I know how taxing that can be right before a wedding, as our wedding dates are not far apart. Please know that you and your DF and his family are in my prayers

 

[happylalagirl]

Thank you all so much for your kind words. My DF and his parents are flying out to CA on Monday. The funeral is Tuesday and they are flying home Wednesday - at least he'll be home for Thanksgiving.

 

[TinkerBabe1010]

So sorry for yours and your DF's loss. At least you will have an angel watching over you and blessing you on your wedding day

It sounds as though your DF's cousin already loved you based on the present she sent you. Maybe with some of the money you'll save on the smaller reception on a trip to CA sometime next year to visit the family who can't come to the wedding.

Sending you both hugs! I'll keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Laurafoster]

Im so sorry for your loss, especially so close to the wedding i cant imagine what your DF must be feeling right now!

 

[Summer-Caitlin]

I can only imagine how you and your DF must be feeling right now. Your DF's cousin sounded like a wonderful woman! All of your family is in my prayers.
Wishing you both all the best over the next few weeks

 

[happylalagirl]

Again, thank you all for your kind words. My DF is very close with one of his cousins, "E" and even though he and his wife are extremely torn up over what has happened to his sister, they are going to try to come to the wedding. He said it would be good for them to get away and celebrate with us. I would LOVE to go to CA to visit his family and hopefully we'll be able to do that sometime next year. Your prayers are all appeciated.