Remeberance gift

[jara1528]

My DMIL's (Yes, I really do like her) friend's daughter just had a miscarriage. She was 5 months along. My MIL would like to give the family something to remember the baby by. She had thought about planting a tree but was looking for some other ideas. Does anybody have any thoughts? Thanks.

 

[mpls_mm]

I got a cherished Teddies with the birthstone of the babys due date. It was a nice memoriam and even though it has been 5 years, we still have that statue. It's a nice way to remember that there was a baby and a due date. It could be any type of statue, I am not a collector but I do love that little statue and it helps the kids remember their sister.

 

[safetymom]

I am sure whatever you get they will appreciate.

 

[LuvOrlando]

I don't know if this would work but my when my MIL's DF was at the end of her struggle with Brain cancer she had her DH plant rows of tulips. To this day, they come up every spring to remind him of how much she loved him.... picked by her hand and planted with his love of her.

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Having had miscarriages I love the idea of a tree or bulbs planted. This became very symbolic to me especially in the Spring when everything was "born" again.

I have to say you have a very kind family...it is very easy for people to turn their back on miscarriages because the baby was never on earth.

 

[SanFranciscan]

I suspect that the only thing that will make the woman who miscarried feel any better will be a live birth. That being said, how about a little memorial service for what might have been so that she can mourn for the loss of her dreams?

 

[NEVERENOUGHWDW]

Having had miscarriages I love the idea of a tree or bulbs planted. This became very symbolic to me especially in the Spring when everything was "born" again.

I have to say you have a very kind family...it is very easy for people to turn their back on miscarriages because the baby was never on earth.

I forgot to add.......a baby booty charm is something that someone I know wears and gives her comfort.
That is something I could never wear...it would hurt to much.

 

[OKW Mom]

With 2 miscarriages people were numb.

The first we planted a flowering tree on the corner of our lot. Olivia's tree was brilliant with purple flowers.

Then we had a healthy son.

At holidays setting the table I want to keep an empty place for our angel.

With the second miscarriage I got busy, I did things for people just to keep my mind busy. Church, volunteer, anything-I prayed and prayed and prayed for understanding.

Our second child, a daughter was born with real spirit, a true blessing.

Having my husband's son and our two we are blessed. Our daughter often wonders what it would be if we were 5 of us....and we smile.

The charm or a cherished teddie statue would be great. I wish someone had reached out to me like that.