Relocation pixie dust needed please!

[bananiem]

My dh took a 2-year project position an hour from where we used to live but we managed to stretch it to 6 years by finding more things for him to do here. However we have made the decision that it will be best for us to move back now. There are many positives to doing this but we have grown to really like where we are and we will never be able to afford the 2 1/2 acres and house we have now in the new/old town! I know that sounds stupid but we really like the wildlife and peace and quiet.
Anyway I'm asking for pixie dust in telling our kids and helping them through the transition. We'll most likely be telling them Friday night or Saturday. Dd is almost 10 and ds just turned 8. They don't have memories of when we lived there but we do have a family we have kept in touch with and go to the town regularly. So they are familiar with it. But just the thought of them leaving their friends and activities breaks my heart. I know they'll be so upset. We should have prepared them but we wanted them to live life and not always wonder "when". Hind sight is 20/20.
I'm committed to finding the right school and making sure they continue with the activities in the new place. We'll make sure they know that.
Anyway, any tips or pixie dust would be greatly appreciated.
ann

 

[helenabear]

Ann, sending you tons of PD in hopes that the relocation will be as easy on everyone as possible

 

[Dan Murphy]

My very best, Ann, as you guys go forward. Remember, kids are more resilient than adults, they will be fine.

 

[DisneyObsessed]

Sending lots of pixie dust. Relocating can be hard. We are thinking about relocating somewhere in Florida. We can't stand these winters anymore. But there's so much to consider. It takes a lot of guts. Best of luck to you.

 

[dzneprincess]

 

[nativetxn]

Lots of relocation pd headed your way. I hope this is an easy move for you.

 

[bananiem]

Thank you everyone. When we moved over here our house sold in a week and the whole thing from pre-interview to move was less than 3 months. Because of the housing market here I think the house will be on the market a lot longer. My dh can commute since it's only an hour but I hate to have it prolonged for the kids.
Dan's right though, of course. They will be fine in the long run. I have to keep repeating that.
Thanks again!
Ann

 

[tkyes]

As long as you aren't moving to Wisconsin you'll be fine!! lol!

OK, in all seriousness, best of luck on your transition. I'm sure it will be hard at first but I'm sure everything will go smoothly.


Tamie

 

[kasar]

Is the commute an hour from where you live now to the new job? If so, it may be possible to stay. I don't know what the ride would be like but it's doable around here. Most people in my area have an hour commute into Boston. It really stinks for my husband but it's worth us to live in an area that we love, with our family around and with affordable (relatively speaking) housing. It's probably not the most ideal situation but may be something to consider.

But if that's not possible, good luck moving.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Lots of PD for you and your family, Ann! Your kids will adjust fine. I'm trying to get a move to Virginia in the works for us.

 

[bananiem]

Kasar, good question about the commuting. He'll be commuting at the beginning but it's not something we want to continue. The hour on the road is all interstate and open so in the winter the blowing snow means the interstate is a mess or gets closed. He'd spend a fortune in motel costs because he'd get stuck there. Or he'd miss a ton of work because he couldn't get there. He also works with doctors so he has a lot of really early meetings. He's a very hands-on Dad and the kids are always a little bummed when he has to leave before they're up. If he commuted he'd be gone every day by 5:45 and probably wouldn't be home until after 6:00pm.
We currently live in a small school district which we have been very happy with but enrollment is declining fast and the options at the junior high and high school are being cut left and right. For instance, the high school has only one foreign language to "choose" to take. The district we are going back to is growing and has more options.
Since we lived there for 9 years the good side is that I already know what pediatrician I want, who will cut my hair, and I know my way around town!! We never left the dentist- we just go back to see her twice a year.
And Tamie, no it isn't Wisconsin!!

 

[kasar]

LOL, I figured as much. I imagined wide open Minnesota roads covered in snow! Here the commute is an hour but that's just because the cars can't get going fast enough - we're only 30 miles away.

I hear ya on the school thing though. Sometimes, as hard as a move is, it's nice to make a clean break and start fresh.

Again, best of luck.

 

[alexandmaddie]

Hi Ann: Say, does your DH happen to work for Mayo? I think I remember you living in Rochester? Maybe I'm totally wrong and it's someone else I'm thinking of. Anyway, my dh works at Mayo and we live in the Twin Cities. He drives to Cannon Falls and then catches the Mayo bus from there. It isn't the greatest situation for us - but it works. He's been doing it for 2 years.

Just curious where you're thinking of moving back to? If it's the Twin Cities, (and if your DH works in Rochester) let me know if you have any questions. I'd be happy to answer them.

Krista

 

[Jenn Lynn]

Originally posted by tkyes
As long as you aren't moving to Wisconsin you'll be fine!! lol!

OK, in all seriousness, best of luck on your transition. I'm sure it will be hard at first but I'm sure everything will go smoothly.


Tamie

HEY! What's wrong with Wisconsin!!!

Ann, good luck with your move. I moved from Nebraska to Iowa when I was in 7th grade. It was really hard on my Sister and I, but I don't think we are good wth change. We like things to stay the way they are! LOL!

 

[bananiem]

Good memory, Krista! That's me! I'm actually OK with the move and feel better about it the more I think about it.
Of course, we still haven't told the kids... That is truly my only worry. And I know they'll be fine once they get there and meet some kids. It's just the transition that will be hard.
I think we may go over there this weekend and show them the ice arenas (dd figure skates and ds plays hockey) and drive past some schools. Any other time we've gone over there we've gone shopping and stuff. Maybe it will help to see some of their future "hang-outs". What do you all think of that idea?

Jenn Lynn- It's not Wisconsin but it ain't Iowa either. I'm still an Iowan at heart!