Registry and engagement parties

[MickeyAnne]

Hello all!
My engagement party is going to be on May 20th. I have addressed all the invites and we made little yellow and white inserts that say;
"Tonianne and Mike -
They are the perfect fit.
If you are looking for the perfect gift
Here is where you may find it."

And then it lists our registry sites.

Do you all think that this is appropriate to put in engagement invites. My reasoning behind doing it s because my DF and I don't live together yet and we need EVERYTHING a couple would to start off. I know that some people do money for engagements and that is fine but if people do want to get us gifts, I would prefer to get things that I have picked that we need (as opposed to millions for frames). But I do not want to insult anyone by including them in the invites.

What are all of your opinions

 

[KT27]

JMO I wouldn't include them on an engagement party invite, I would leave that for whoever throws your shower and the wedding invite. Alot of guests asked my mom & she then directed them to our registry.

 

[JackieSparrow]

I always think its best for people to hear through word of mouth, people can usually find that info out from family members. Just my opinion!

 

[Tabetha]

If you have a wedding website, you could include your registry info there. Then include the website info in the invitations.
I know it's not cool to include the info in wedding invites, but thought that it was just fine to include in engagement/shower party invites? Maybe shower moreso than engagement party?

 

[StephSFL]

I have seeen both and I really don't think you should feel bad for doign it that way because it seems to be so prevelant.
If it was me, I would include the registry info on your website and not list them in any invite. Most people found out by word of mouth and the website for our wedding. However, the decision is up to you! Remember, it's your party!!!!

 

[kmab00]

If you have a wedding website, you could include your registry info there.

That's how I did mine and it seems to have worked great so far!!

 

[Stucas]

Wedding eittiquete says no registry info for e-party invites. Usualy I would agree, however I see you're in jersey. Its really not uncommon for a nj bride to include registry info for e-parties since the majority here recieve gifts at the e-party. I would just think about the people you are inviting, do you think anyone will be offended if you include the info?

 

[Ember]

I can only speak generally, but according to etiquette engagement parties are not gift giving events. And even if they are where you are from I would refrain from including that note. It not only assumes a gift, it then provides instruction as to what is acceptable.

Perhaps it's only my personal pet peeve, but it is not up to the receiver to select their own gift. Registry information should be by word of mouth or on a website where you have to click to access it (ie: not center stage when you load the page). If guests want the information it is readily available so there is no need to "force" it upon them (in my opinion).

 

[MickeyAnne]

Thanks for all of your insight. I will have to re-think my little tags. I do have a website - my fam isn't really big on that sort of stuff though. Well - food for thought at least. I surely do not want anyone to misconstrue my intentions.

 

[DisneyFairy19]

My mom told me that its not right to put it in your E-Invites. Its not proper she told me. So I didnt put it in our E-invites, but family did ask her and my dad what we would like and my mom said MONEY ... and we got a lot of cash that we are using it to buy our Master Bedroom Furniture.. I know what you mean by getting things you dont like. But I got 1 or 2 gifts that werent money and they were things for the kitchen and I Loved them.. Plus I am sure they know your style and not to get you anything cheesy... Good Luck

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

I wouldnt, but its your call

Just dont be like one of DHs family & put "gift cards only" on the invitations for a Bday.....for some reason that really bugged me....I was joking with DH we should get him a GC from toys r us, but we were nice & got him a blockbuster GC...he rents ALL the time

Good luck

 

[heatherlynn444]

I wouldn't either. first of all, engagement parties usually are not big gift parties. i think i got 2 gifts for ours. second of all, its fine for bridal showers to put registry info since someone ELSE is throwing it for you and putting it in there. but if you put it in there yourself for your own party, it kind of looks like you are just looking for gifts. I understand not having anything you need as a couple, we were in the same boat, but between our showers and the wedding it self, we got LOADS of gifts and it worked out fine, so don't worry about that. IMO it is slightly tacky, i felt bad even when they put it in the bridal shower ones. word of mouth is always best IMO. just make sure all your family and bridesmaids, etc. know where you are registered so if soeone asks, they can easily tell them. good luck!

 

[PinkCindere11a]

I would also agree not to put the registry information in the invitation. Let it be by word of mouth. Register at a couple of places, trust me they will find out. Guests will ask both families what to get you guys.

We also needed everything because we do not live together yet.
For our engagement party we received half money and helf gifts from our registry.