Really "down" today

[Mermaid02]

Problems with ds (13) and dh and I disagree how to deal with him. The weather is overcast and showery- I don't know, I just feel so low. How does everyone else deal when they have days like this? I want to just go to bed and pull the covers over my head, but I know that will just feed the mood.

 

[Liberty Belle]

Hang out on here for a while to try and get it off your mind. I'm having problems with my son, too. It can really jar your life, I know. You're not alone.

 

[Magpie]

Chocolate! And something on TV that makes me laugh. (That'll vary depending on what your taste is - for me, it might be South Park.)

Later, I'll try and think of something all of us will enjoy doing together in the evening. Like... well, more South Park if it was me. Or the Daily Show and the Colbert Report. Or a game of Sliders, all together as a family on the XBox. Something just to get all of us out of the combative/argumentative head space.

It might be a good day to order out pizza for dinner, too...

 

[TriMom]

This sounds really funny, but mop your floor. Or some other household project that will take less than 10 minutes and you will be able to actually see results.

So much of our lives revolve around long term strategies and planning, and we don't see results until months or even years later. Sometimes some instant gratification is just what I need to feel better.

I cleaned the microwave yesterday. Every time I opened the door and saw the shiny inside I thought "I did that! And it looks good." It was just the pick me up I needed.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

 

[Mermaid02]

Thanks everyone. I have some Pine Sol..... mopping the floor might be just what I need!

Update:

My son just called from school- I have to go get him (he's been sick but I really thought he could make it today) so that is going to set my dh off when he finds out he didn't stay at school all day.

 

[robinb]

{{hugs}} Sorry things are difficult for you today. I hope your son feels better soon and that your DH will be understanding.

 

[scrapquitler]

I know how you feel, I sure have those days myself. On days like that, I try to take it easy and do something nice for myself.

 

[ElGravy]

Whenever I start to feel down I bake, mainly cookies or cake, but doing the work and the smell of fresh baked cookies always cheers me up. Plus everybody always smiles when they see what I have made so seeing them smile makes me smile as well.

 

[kathie859]

Take a few minutes and write down what you perceive the problem to be with your DS and how you would like to address the problem and WHY you think your way will work. Share your ideas (calmly) with DH and try to find some common ground to work thru this issue. The solution may be "let's try this for 2 weeks and if it doesn't work, here's plan B". At least you both are working towards a common goal and you both feel like the other person "heard" their point of view.

As far as feeling down, when this happens to me I take a walk, read a book that I can get into and lose myself (I have a few "brain candy" authors that I keep for times like this--usually fantasy with a healthy dose of sex) or find an elaborate recipe to try. Once I get involved in something, my mood will generally lift.

Hang in there, OP. Days like this pass.

 

[ilovepete]

What about some good music?

 

[clarabelle]

Do you have an I-pod?
Recorded books , podcasts (especially funny ones) or some good music pick me up.

 

[Disneymaddness]

Just hang in there and know that you are not alone. Raising children is so hard sometimes and you can feel really alone. You're not and you will get through this!

 

[snapppyd]

Sometimes you just have to give in to the mood, it will pass. I was going to suggest reading a good book, but it looks like your son will keep you busy this afternoon.

Maybe just have a nice cup of tea or coffee when you get home and plan what you will say to DH.

 

[Dictator]

Whiskey usually helps me!

 

[Tink9721]

Just relax with a good book and maybe some music. Whatever you usually do to relax.

I hope you and your son both feel better!

 

[4nana]

Believe me sweetie, we've all experienced down days for whatever rhyme or reason. Hope things look up soon and it helps to remember, this too shall pass.

 

[mommasita]

I hope your day gets better, and your son feels better.

 

[Nancyg56]

I eat. Or I clean. If I clean it is the mindless scrubbing that I do, like dustboards and floors.

Lorelie- I don't know how parents get through raising kids, I think that Buddy and I were going to kill each other when my oldest was growing up.

The boy is sick so that it that. i will tell you that when Donny was in MS he was sick a lot. Turns out he had a school phobia and was vomiting, etc. If your son is missing a lot of school, maybe pry a little and see if there is something wrong. It took me way too long to find out about Donny.

 

[themilesfamily]

My go-tos for comfort: Call my best friend, post on the DISboards.

Just remember, this too shall pass. We can't be perfect -- just do the best you can with what you have at the moment. It's all anyone can ask of you.